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Dear Poll: What's Your Take on Promise Rings?

Dear Poll: What's Your Take on Promise Rings?

Ashlee Simpson has been sporting a diamond ring on her left ring finger, which has recently caused quite a stir. Theydebunked engagement rumors yesterday, setting the record straight and clearing up the confusion — the ring is actually a promise ring, not an engagement ring. Ashlee was quoted saying, "it just means that he (Pete Wentz) hasn't asked my dad yet."

This got me thinking — what's the point of buying an expensive ring to wear on the same ring finger as an engagement ring if you're not going to just pop the question? I mean isn't a promise ring just delaying the inevitable? Clearly I don't see the point in taking this step but what about you? What's your take on promise rings?

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morganfay morganfay 9 years
The diamond industry did good on pushing this one, I see.
darkangel2305 darkangel2305 9 years
I think it's great if you're in high school. I mean a promise to marry once you're old enough is cute, but for adults? weird...
lizadilly lizadilly 9 years
this is the ultimate silliness. for pete & ash, it's total narcissism and look-at-me-ism. for everyone else, it's just more pressure for a man to prove his love and a woman to prove her desirability. triple-yuck.
oceanluv oceanluv 9 years
So I got a promise ring for Vday. I'm 25 and I was very against the idea of them prior (something my manfriend didn't know)but after some serious thought - only days prior to this being made so public I came around to the idea... in my opinion as with any gift - it has more to do with the giver than the reciever - meaning If my man wants to go out an purchase me a beatiful ring to say that he loves me and an engagment ring is forth coming then great - it's just a nice gift that I will treasure. It's nothing I didn't already know in my head and my heart. I guess the joke's on him because he could've written it in a card and I would've been just as happy! What I have been stunned about is the reaction we have gotten.. we didn't tell anyone people just saw me wearing a nice ring on my right hand and jumped to conclusions (even on the right hand!!!) - his mom told everyone we were engaged but keeping it secret (as though we're celebrities and don't want the press to find out) my best friend freaked out and said he's a commitment phobe- and his friends asked when the letterman's jacket and pin were coming. I guess what I think is silly isn't a commitment made to whatever between two people but rather that it matters to anyone outside of that promise
Dana18 Dana18 9 years
I'm all for it,If there's any way to get more jewlery why not.
nancita nancita 9 years
I really didn't know people were still using "promise rings." It seems pretty hokey to me. Either wait until you're ready to get engaged, or just have a loving, committed relationship without worrying about it yet!
seraphicstar seraphicstar 9 years
i had a promise ring..... when i was 15.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
amy-you've never committed to something you weren't ready to marry?
demeter demeter 9 years
Stupid. What's a promise these days?
amynick3 amynick3 9 years
Call me a pessimist, but I just don't see how you can be committed without setting things in stone. Isn't that the POINT of commitment? Just a thought.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I think promise rings are good, especially if your young and 'in love' because I really dont think that marriage is something that you just rush into with an engagement ring. I mean, i guess it gives the whole 'engagement' feeling without really being 'engaged'?
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
Oooooh, and bling the dog tag out. FIERCE!
Meike Meike 9 years
"In my country this is very common. Promise rings are made by silver or steel and they look like wedding rings. Usually, they are very cheap. (Unless you want white gold promise rings) Young people like them the most. I've never seen someone above 30 using a promise ring. The engagement rings are the same as the wedding rings. We use them in the right hand and then switch them to the left hand in the wedding ceremony. Men also wears engagement rings. So, no diamonds in engagement rings (mine has a very very small diamond). Well, at least they are not so expensive." Same in Germany, Miosotis, except rings (wedding bands) are on left hands for engagement then switches to the right hands for marriage. As for my home country, Japan, bleh, the less traditional couples have somewhat adopted the American standard. Diamond engagement rings are so overrated and historically carry several negative connotations unbeknown to many people. Not to mention it is over-commercialized as the first step for typical American engagements. As for promise rings, I don't see anything wrong with them for young people not wanting to get married too soon.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Isn't that what an engagement ring is?
looelladeville looelladeville 9 years
Would they not be a constant reminder of the ring giver not wanting to marry you just yet. How about some dogs tags with "property of....... until further notice "
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
I don't get why a ring can be a symbol of love and commitment only when you are going to be engaged.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
It just seems so High school to me...infact I got one from my high school BF...and it obviously didnt mean shit. I think its a pointless step, if you love eachother then you should have already made that promise to eachother (whatever that promis is)whether you are married or not and if you are ready to start putting rings on fingers, then just go ahead and get engaged. My BF and I have talked about getting married, and probably will someday...that doesnt mean I need him to go buy me a promise ring until then...
lolliriots lolliriots 9 years
-Shifty eye look around.- .. I have a promise ring. Not that I care particularly what negativity some people will say about it, I like the fact I have a ring on my finger and that he has one too. It was my idea to have them. Something that had more commitment to it than just, "HEY WERE DATING". I wanted to show I was serious, and he liked the idea of it, and wanted to show his serious commitment to me. Might just be a Southern thing. (Born and raised in Texas, residing in NYC) I know, it's just a ring. At the end of the day, when he slips off his ring to lay down, I know that inside, he is more committed than some ring will ever show.
chatoyante chatoyante 9 years
um, so, promise rings! I think for young people they can be a good "baby step" but for adults it's a good way to spot a commitment-phobe.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
I talked to my cousin, (who still lives in the same city), and she said he is in prison. for having sex with a 15 year old (who is supposedly pregnant now with his kid), and he was stealing the girl's mother's checks. the reason why i never liked him was because he was creepy.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
He's dating a supermodel and is an international investment banker who freelances as a travel writer in his spare time. He laughs when he thinks how mean girls in high school were!
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
in high school, some silly kid got me a promise ring. his mom liked me. . .no she LOVED me. and she helped the guy get me the promise ring. so he pops up with the ring, and was basically giving a pathetic teenage proposal to me. and i was like, "dude, we JUST have AP Calculus together. I'm sure i won't have anything to do with you next week. so you should give this ring to a girl who deserves it. get me something that i REALLY want." so, he went home all pathetic. and i swear, like the next day, i was pulling up in my drive way after school, and the guy bought me a hamster!!! aparently, one of my cousins told him that i like pets. i felt soo bad for this guy, i took the hamster and told him that we'll go on a date. but he ended up getting put on punishment that weekend, so i totally got outta THAT mess. i wonder what happen to that guy?
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
I got a ring, which I've never referred to as a "promise ring" from my boyfriend right after I graduated from high school. I wear it on my right hand, and it's just a symbol of our love and commitment, not really a "promise" of anything. The funny thing is, five years after we started dating, I don't think I'll want an engagement ring if we get married! I think it's a terrible waste of money, a silly tradition, and I don't want to support the diamond trade. So other than this promise ring (which is a really pretty white gold band with diamonds) I probably will just wear a wedding band if I get married! Miositis- I like the idea of just switching this ring from my right hand to my left hand...so much money was spent on it already, sometimes I just wonder where we get all these traditions from in American calling for multi-carat diamond rings...and then I remember...deBeers in the '40's!
intensebandgeek intensebandgeek 9 years
I love the idea of promise rings, but that's because I've been wearing the one my boyfriend gave me from when we were in high school. I do wear it on my right hand though, so I won't cause any sort of confusion.
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