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Dear Poll: When is the Time Right?

I have been receiving many e-mails from women complaining that their boyfriends won't commit to making their relationship "official." It seems like the title of boyfriend/girlfriend is much more important to women than it is to men -- go figure! Of course every relationship progresses at a different pace, but what I want to know is, how soon into the relationship do you usually have "the talk?"

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ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 10 years
I like this poll... With my guy after seeing him for a few weeks I told him he was my pseudo-boyfriend and his response was, "Whatever you want, baby." Right now though nothing is totally official... we'll have that conversation soon enough...because we were watching CHEATERS a week ago and I was joking around about how he should have brothers I can fool around with... and He said, " No girlfriend of mine is going to cheat on me with my brother." And when I said, " Well, lucky for me I'm not your girlfriend." He was actually shocked.... and then we laughed... (and no I would never cheat on someone... plus too he's an only child)... so anyway.. I think we've had this unspoken commitment with each other for a long time
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 10 years
After a solid week of dating/hanging out, I brought the topic up with my current bf. I just didn't want to drag out putting a title on it if we both knew what we were at that point, so I basically said "ask me to be your girlfriend." so he did. =)
PrissyLilBadAss PrissyLilBadAss 10 years
Sass, that's a great story and a really sweet approach! So cute!
smp7328 smp7328 10 years
Be careful not to have the talk to soon!!! But i guess with those "not available" guys (as it was in my case) any time can be too soon.
Marci Marci 10 years
That's sweet, sass317! :)
kayden kayden 10 years
It just depends on the couple. I know as a woman who has learned for relationships. Women need to have their own lives. Never sit a home waiting on a man always have your own life. You should always have two days you do something for yourself. College course, gym, kick boxing class, night out with friends, for example. Never be to clingy,don't call or text him to much. Men love women who have their own things going on. It makes them proud to say my woman does this or that. Make him work for your attention in the beginning, after your comfortable. TALK That should be after at least 6-8 weeks.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
Every once in a while, I would say, "Hey, what are we?" And he would tell me. At first he said "talkin". Then a couple of weeks later (maybe a month)he said "seeing each other" and then, he said "dating" and I said okay.m That was 5 years ago, but it was before we had sex. I wouldn't have had sex unless i had known where I stood with him. I mean, I would have made myself miserable, and prolly have driven him away with my clingyness (what can i say, i am a girl who gets all wrapped up once sex happens) but since i knew what was going on, I wasn't as insecure, and we have been great!
tranquility tranquility 10 years
I chose "when the time is right," but the truth is I'm rather impatient in this regard, so if I feel like we're hitting it off early on and clearly on the way to something more meaningful, I'll broach the subject in a non-threatening way (as best as I can). Because if the guy isn't really interested in having the relationship progress, I'd like to know that so I can adjust accordingly. I enjoyed t0xxic's comment above. Nice to hear.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Mike and I never really had a talk in person. He was overseas in iraq/ kuwait and he had the link to my journal and one time he read me stating that I didnt even know if he was my b/f and he wrote me a ltter saying that yea of course he was. He was looking for a girl that was more then just a fling he wanted a "cool girl to chill with" and that was that.
Brians-Girl Brians-Girl 10 years
my boy and i never had the "talk" well i guess we sort of did.. we talked one night and decided that while we were sleeping together we were not going to be with other ppl, and when that happened we were no long goin to be sleeping together.. then about 2 months later.. he said "girlfriend" and it just stuck.. now a year later.. im very happy to call him my boyfriend :)
sass317 sass317 10 years
I didnt really have "the talk" with my then boyfriend, now husband. He went with me to a graduation party of a family friend and when I introduced him to this family friend's grandmother I said, "this is my boyfriend Billy" and then afterwards, I looked at him sheepishly and asked, "was that ok?" and he smiled from ear to ear and said, Of course! We had been together a couple of months when that happened. And at that party 2 different people asked if we were married! It was apparently obvious to everyone that we were meant to be together :)
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