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Dear Poll: Which Emotion Makes You the Most Uncomfortable?

We all have feelings that we experience as difficult, and most of us usually seek to avoid those feelings, suppress or deny them. We also develop defensive strategies to protect ourselves when we feel vulnerable because of those feelings. However, the toll for managing our feelings this way can be damaging and counter-productive.

In this article from Psychology Today, the dangers of ignoring our negative feelings, or our negative reactions to uncomfortable feelings, are outlined and explored.

Negative feelings may make us uncomfortable, but avoiding them is downright destructive to health. . . . "People who deny psychological distress may be paying a very high price for their self-deception."

I found a good link, too, which provides a simple meditation for overcoming difficult emotions. As we learn to be braver and more self-aware around our emotional challenges, it's important to uncover tools for helping us and encouraging us along the way. Most of all, it's important to be patient and compassionate with the process.

In the spirit of growth and discovery, which of these emotions causes you the most distress or makes you feel uncomfortable and fearful?


shopaholic39 shopaholic39 10 years
Worry, Panic, Anxiety. When sonething doesn't run smooth, I get anxious and panicky. I don't like that. I feel guilt, too, but most of the time I shouldn't because I'm actually not doing anything wrong. If I miss work I feel this way, but I am sick so I don't get it. Who put that in my head? It's so irritaing
xchelseax xchelseax 10 years
i feel uncomfortable when people are sad because i dont really know what to say. i really would like to but i normally take a backseat with something like that
lady-T lady-T 10 years
nervous! when i get nervous my imagination goes into overdrive and i work myself into a state.
klearlykoala klearlykoala 10 years
I can only choose one? I have Shame or Guilt about Anger or Frustration and Jealousy or Envy. ---- "Practice safe sex and safe love, for they can be equally life-altering." :)
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
Ha ha, no problem. :)
Marci Marci 10 years
Popgoestheworld, I'm really sorry I messed up thanking you in my earlier post for the 10,000 Maniacs lyrics. You 'world' girls confuse me! :) I really did appreciate the thought that went into that, so thanks again and to you too, grl in the world, for pointing out my error. And the song title. :)
superjules superjules 10 years
I have a very hard time with vulnerability which in my mind is the same as weakness. It takes a miracle to make me cry. I can turn off my emotions for a person in a second. I can go from "I love you" to "I don't care if you live or die" in 60 seconds. I'm not proud of this but I have to protect myself. My body and my heart.
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
Marci, it was actually popgoesthe world that posted the song, but I happen to love the group too! I saw the lead singer Natalie Merchant when Lilith Fair came to Toronto several years ago. The song is called "Few and Far Between" and it's from the 10000 Maniacs album Our Time in Eden. Thanks for posting it PGtheW, I actually printed it out and I'm going to post it on the fridge :)
Marci Marci 10 years
grl in the world, Thanks so much for the song lyrics. That was awfully sweet of you. They really do apply. I always liked 10,000 Maniacs but have forgotten all about them. What song is that you quoted?
Deba Deba 10 years
Loneliness- I really had a rought ime in my past where I felt like nobody cared about me, I feel scared about that feeling again
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
I used to feel guilty about things my parents passed down to me too. We had real money problems growing up and for so many years I felt bad spending money, even when I needed too! Now that I'm older (and went through a little therapy about 8 years ago :) ) I don't really have the guilt about it anymore. If I need something or have the money to buy something that I want, then I just get it.
honey31 honey31 10 years
Guilt is the big one for me.I feel guilty because I was brought that so many things we do in our lives is a sin like sex before marriage boyfriend is separated from his wife he not is divorced yet so I feel guilty being with him because he is not divorced yet.When he gets a divorce my mom say he needs to get an annulment and he is not Catholic but I am lol.He was not brought up in religion so I don't think he needs an annulment and he was not even married in a church or by a religious figure.I carry that guilt around all the time and its not healthy!I love my mom but she is so old school her beliefs make me feel like crap!
ccsugar ccsugar 10 years
Ugh, just reading those options makes me uncomfortable. :(
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 10 years
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
The emotion I have the hardest time with is jealousy or envy. To me, it indicates that I'm not living my life the way I should be or want to be. And then I have to examine why that is, and if I'm willing to continue along my current path or if I need to make a life change.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
Marci, I love these lyrics by 10,000 Maniacs. Times are far between, and few I bet, when we can look upon our lives without regret. Of all the things I have done, you think I'm proud of everyone without exception? 'Till you make your peace with yesterday, you'll never build a future. I swear by what I say. Whatever penance you do, decide what it's worth to you and then respect it. However long it will take to weather your mistakes, why not accept it? I really love the message in this song. They lyrics keep going but those are the ones that really strike me.
Marci Marci 10 years
grl in the world, you have no idea how surprised and touched I am by your comment! Thank you! I do try not to dwell on the guilt I feel about some things, but it does have a way of creeping up sometimes. But I'm working on that! :) Thanks for the support.
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
Aww Marci! From the comments you leave on DearSugar I can tell you're a really compassionate person. We all have mistakes in our past, but we learn from them and move forward, that's what life's about. Take that guilt and let it go girl!
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
they all suck but especially loneliness I hate that feeling...i need to feel okay alone and i feel vulnerable when I am lonely.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
this is going to sound awful but when everything is going along just fine i get very nervous. i'm just waiting for something HORRIBLE to happen. if we go along too long with everything running very smoothly and everyone healthy and all i get really anxious and then when something bad happens i feel relaxed. freakish i know, and i try not to pass it on to mu daughters, which sort of makes it worse for me because on the inside i'm waiting for a bomb to drop and on the outside i'm like :INNOCENT: "heh-hu-ha-hu-heh-he-ha-hu; that's the woody wood pecker song"
Marci Marci 10 years
Guilt. I have some moments in my past that make me feel awful inside when I think about them.
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
I'm not a big crowd person, so being in large groups can make me uncomfortably anxious.
NNPW NNPW 10 years
all of them.
partysugar partysugar 10 years
Anxiety!!!! Feelings of being overwhelmed, totally get to me and are what I have the most trouble dealing with.
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