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Dear Poll: Would a Name Ever Be a Dealbreaker?

My friend has a running list that contains the names of men that under no circumstances will she ever date. (Yes, I'm completely serious!) When I heard that certain names, including Harold, Frank, and Bart, were her dealbreakers, I couldn’t help but laugh. I mean, what can a poor guy do about his awkward or geeky name? I guess everybody has their thing so would a name ever be a dealbreaker for you?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
names dont bother me.
EricaJane EricaJane 9 years
I think that if a guy is really confident in his "offbeat" name, or if he comes up with a great, befitting nick name, then it can sort of break that barrier we might have.. sometimes going to your friends of news that you met someone..named Bart, can be rough, but if you're able to say, I know his name is kind of silly, but he's so funny because... or "he is so cool, I actually like the name now!".. then you can turn the tables. I voted maybe, but now after reading some comments, I change my mind.. It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. Except maybe Gene.. lol.
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
Snowbunny, thanks for that sweet and helpful response. I know I can always count on you. I couldn't change my name on my own until I was 18. At that point, it would still have been expensive and a hassle, especially since I had just begun college and all kinds of paperwork, transcripts, scholarships, etc., would have been affected. Also, the name sucks, but it's my dad's and my grandpa's name, and I love them. Even though they know it sucks, it is our family's name, and in the country where it originated, it's not bad. I didn't want to just change it and give my whole paternal family the finger. Marriage is a socially accepted reason for a name change, but "screw you all, my heritage is embarrassing" is a little more tricky.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Jillerin- you can legally change your name if you hate it so much. I cannot believe anyone would depend on a guy to "get rid" of their bad maiden name.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
Leroy and Willy, i'd never date anybody with those names. Also names that are made up like JaVontae and LaChaun. That bugs the hell out of me, someone with a ghetto name!!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Well my name is Jaime so I wouldn't want to date a male Jamie or James who is called Jamie. I also would find it really weird to date guys with my dad or brothers names. I don't think it would be a dealbreaker for me though, just weird at first.
italianblonde italianblonde 9 years
No. The only time I would care is if I were about to be engaged to my boyfriend and his last name was kind of weird. But I would get over it. I've met a lot of guys who have the same name and are all assholes, but that doesn't mean I won't date someone with the same name just because other people are repping it wrong!
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
I can't believe how self-righteous some of you are. Like I said before, I've suffered from a seriously terrible last name my whole life, and some point it's just not "superficial." It's about having to explain myself, the spelling, the ethnic origin, etc., EVERY SINGLE TIME a professor calls roll, or I meet a new person, or apply for a job, and to endure immature jokes and puns and stupid comments constantly. When I subbed in public high schools, I made up fake last names rather than deal with that. There is no way in hell I would marry a guy with a bad last name, because I've gone through enough. But, of course, some of you are MUCH more enlightened than I am, and I'm sure a lifetime of a ridiculous name wouldn't bother you in the least. I tip my hat to you.
Jesi_Oh Jesi_Oh 9 years
wow this is fascinating! I was seriously expecting to see maybe two ppl who would make a name a dealbreaker! There are a lot of character traits that rule out a guy for me but something as superficial as a NAME - good luck finding someone to suit your never-ending 'list' ladies.
carak carak 9 years
my bff and i used to talk a lot about how the boys we marry have to have really good last names. we both have good birth names, and if the boy's surname didn't go right or was too common then it could be a dealbreaker, but luckily we both landed good names.
Nina_79 Nina_79 9 years
Very superficial if you ask me.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
Someone's name is definitely not a dealbreaker . And I would hate to have some guy refuse to date me for that lame a$$ reason.I won't waste my time with someone who is that shallow anyway......
designerel designerel 9 years
my bf's first name is walter. good thing he goes by his middle name :)
hottinpink9021 hottinpink9021 9 years
When I was about 15 I used to not "go out" with guys because of thier names. But then I met this guy named Victor (his parent's were like super German) and he was the sweetest guy ever and we dated for 8 months. Now I'm 20 and I will never judge a guy by his name again ♥
Megatron Megatron 9 years
I absolutely, positively cannot date a Brandon or a Daniel (my brothers' names) it would just weird me out.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
No, but I do have to admit that when I was dating an "Ernie," that really did not roll of the tongue in bed...
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
No, but I have my own weird things. Bad teeth for example, I mean they don't have to be perfect but if they're what I'd classify as horrible then its a dealbreaker.
jessy777 jessy777 9 years
I was talking about a similar topic yesterday. I have a running list of men's names I wouldn't mind marrying. I have settled on Jason as my favorite name for a future mate. It isn't a deal breaker or anything and I do not use to gauge who to date but it is a game a run in my mind when I am bored. A friend of mine started dating a guy named Howard and she was very put off by his name. She couldn't figure out what to call him because she hated the name Howard. She settled on Howie and they have been married for 5 years.
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
No, but I have my own weird things.
jkatie jkatie 9 years
my boyfriends name is Ryan and like 3 other friends he has are Ryan as well so his initials make up RAD so thats what they call him but I stick to ryan... just to be difficult I think
MisterPinkNoTip MisterPinkNoTip 9 years
I would never stop seeing someone because of their name. Although, it might be weird to date someone with my dad's name. But thankfully I haven't run into that situation.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
I'd not date a guy because of his name, but if you date a guy with the same name as your ex, then you don't have to worry about calling them the wrong name. My ex and I were together for almost 5 years before we broke up, so I often had to bite my tongue not to call my boyfriend (now fiance) by my ex's name when telling him I love him...weird, but true. A year and a half later, I no longer have that issue.
austerity austerity 9 years
I once heard the name Egbert...I would never want to date a guy named that unless there was some serious chemistry going on :P
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 9 years
I like those older traditional names listed, no problem there... I can imagine feeling weirded out if his name was totally unusual or just not what i'm used to. Like an extremely foreign name and the guy has no English name, or a very unexpected word used as a name. Say, 'Salmon'? Not being racist, some Arab guys are definitely attractive but i wouldn't want to date a Mohamed. Jésus would be a bit awkward too. (I realize those are common names) JUST BEING HONEST, No offense intended. But if you're totally in love, you'd be blind to his name. First impression time is when the name counts.
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
I don't think it's about judging the guy by his name; it's just that a "bad" or weird name might be continually embarrassing or annoying to have to say over and over, and to re-explain to new people. Not the guy's fault, just how it is. As for last names, like I said before, the problem is if you think you might marry the guy. Some of us don't have the luxury of a decent maiden name to fall back on!!!
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