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Dear Poll: Would You Demand That Your Husband Wear a Ring?

Earlier this week I asked you if you'd be okay if your boyfriend were to propose to you without a ring and 45 percent of you said you would, but how would you feel if your husband refused to wear one after you got married?

Of course wearing a piece of metal around your finger won't guarantee fidelity, but it will tell the world that you're spoken for. When I get married, I certainly want my husband to wear a ring, but what about you? If your hubby were hesitant or indifferent, would you demand that he wear a ring?



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Ava-Gardner Ava-Gardner 9 years
No, I loathe wearing mine, I very rarely wear my engagement/wedding rings, I've never worn rings and just hate the feeling of something wrapped around my finger. I only wear them if we're going somewhere special. My husband likes to rub it in that's never taken his off since our wedding day.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
I voted no, only because I don't care for rings on my own hands, so I'd feel like a hypocrite. I plan on a tattoo in place of a ring to solve my "I hate jewelry" conundrum if I get married, so here's to hoping he'd like the idea and join me. :D
allien86 allien86 9 years
My bf will definitely wear his ring, he wears/likes jewelery way more than me. However I will wear mine as its an outward symbol of my love for him (Clearly I agree with everyone else that rings are not a sign/guarantee of fidelity). P.S my mum never takes hers off and my father lost his within a year of their 28yr marriage
candace117 candace117 9 years
Chicaparati, what does your husband do? Most MOS' aren't hazardous enough to warrant taking off your ring. I, my husband, and many other married people in the Army wear theirs with no problem, and we are out in the field working on stuff all the time. Just curious :) And I hope he stays safe there :)
Random2 Random2 9 years
I'm not married or engaged yet, but oddly enough, the topic of wearing a wedding ring has come up in discussion with my boyfriend. He doesn't like wearing jewelery (he wears a watch, and that's it) and I asked if he'd wear 'that one ring', and he said he would. My Dad on the other hand doesn't wear his wedding band, but my Mom does, and it doesn't seem to bother either of them.
blanche blanche 9 years
My parents have been very happily married for almost 30 years, and neither of them has ever worn wedding rings...they just don't like to. As for me, I like my husband to wear it (and he does--I take mine off and then forget to wear it way more often than he does). But if he hated wearing it for comfort reasons I wouldn't think it's a problem. Now, if you suspect your guy's the kind of jerk who takes it off to look single...should you be married to him in the first place?
melda melda 9 years
i already wear and he doesn't he says he will wear when we got married i have no problem i don't care
Schaianne Schaianne 9 years
I don't force my husband to wear one every day. In his line of work he can either lose a finger or get electricuted. I'd rather have him safe than either of those!!
inertia inertia 9 years
It's the reverse in my case. I hate wearing rings and didn't want either of us to have them, but my husband demanded it. It's been almost 5 years and I still find the ring uncomfortable. My fingers are really skinny between the joints and the ring is always sliding around and wobbling. I wear it because he wants me to so badly, but I wish he was less stubborn about it.
jimmalou1978 jimmalou1978 9 years
I wouldn't DEMAND that he wear his ring, but if he's not wearing his, then I'm taking mine off, too! It is an outward symbol of the commitment. Just don't get mad if someone flirts with your man because he's not wearing a ring! My brother-in-law works in construction, and doesn't wear his ring at work, but when he goes out in public with my sister, the ring's on his finger. And yes, rings can be taken off, but if you've worn it long enough, there's a telltale ring around your finger that won't go away overnight. My left ring finger is indented permanently. So, while I don't force my husband to wear one, if he decided to stop wearing it, not only would I be suspicious, but I also would stop wearing my rings!
mrskrismendoza mrskrismendoza 9 years
I said yes.
cgmaetc cgmaetc 9 years
I have a male friend who only wears his ring when his wife is around. He put it in his pocket when he's out with us, flirts openly with women, cheats on her like crazy. It's just plain disgusting. If I knew his wife better, I'd tell her, but she's been nothing but nasty to me. Yeah, that's effed up but she shouldn't have made enemies of all his friends, male and female.
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
I voted yes, but then I also know that my husband is in the ARMY and sometimes its hazardous to his health. He is also in IRAQ right now so its defintely not a good idea to wear it over there. But when he is safely home and doing "normal" day to day activities he defintel has his ring on. He makes sure I have mine own too! :)
sass317 sass317 9 years
My husband isnt a jewelry guy, much like his father. They both wear a watch, a college ring on the right hand and wedding ring on the left. My husband is traditional like that and while he takes off his watch and college ring every night before going to bed, he only takes off his wedding ring if he is working on one of our cars. I only take mine off to shower or work out(and when I work out I have a plain silver band I wear)- I feel weird without them on. We love each other and our rings show that we have made a commitment to each other. I do have a friend whose husband refuses to wear his wedding ring, so she doesnt either. Honestly, if my hubby didnt want to wear his ring, I would probably still wear mine- but I dont have to worry about it, bc he loves wearing his.
michelleyk michelleyk 9 years
I'm with Jennifer...my parents have been married 30 plus years and I can't remember my Dad ever wearing his ring. He just doesn't like to wear jewelery (he "lost" about 5 watches when I was a kid before I figured this was not a good present for him) It's all a matter of personal preference, I think. My mom, however, loves hers, and gets weirded out if she can't find them after she takes them off.
msshellokitty msshellokitty 9 years
I'm married and my husband doesn't wear jewelry.He didn't want a ring and that's fine with me.He knows he is married and everyone knows he is married so that's what matters.I wear my ring but I don't wear it home.It's just about preference.
Green Green 9 years
I would prefer him to wear it but I am marrying a person that doesn't like much jewelry. It's up to him, but as expensive as they are I don't think taking it off and laying it around is too bright because they have too much sentimental value.
mlen mlen 9 years
i'm not engaged or married. honestly i'd prefer my future husband to wear his ring. i like the tradition of it! that being said- i'd never demand he wear it. if he had a job it interfered with i'd understand. or if he just hated it i'd understand too. though i might drop enough hints to make him wear it part time lol. one of my old bosses wore one but it always bothered him- he was constantly playing with it! spinning it on tables. his wife knows him well though cause it was a cheap ring- which i'm sure she'll end up replacing several times! my other old boss never wore his but you could just tell he was 100% devoted just the same. plus his wedding pic was displayed prominantly in his office, so that is good enough!
Marci Marci 9 years
I'm kind of stuck on the terminology 'DEMAND'. I think the minute we start 'DEMANDING' things of anyone, something is out of whack. I'm engaged. If my fiance doesn't want to wear a wedding ring, that's his choice. I wouldn't marry him if I didn't trust him. And I voted on not caring if I got an engagement ring, so I'm consistent in my ring opinions! :D
candace117 candace117 9 years
When my husband and I got engaged, he was offended that dudes don't get engagement rings too, so he went out and got a white gold band to wear. Of course people saw that and assumed he was married already, which was ok with him because whenever someone referred to his 'wife' he was happy because it was like he was practicing! :)
designergirl designergirl 9 years
I wouldn't have a problem with him not wearing it, as long as he didn't expect me to wear it all the time. Rings aren't that big a deal in my opinion.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
im not married yet but if i were to marry my current boyfriend--he works with trees all day--his hands are usually pitch black from sap--and there is a high risk he might lose it. i wouldn't be offeneded it he didn't wear his. my father hasn't worn a wedding ring in forever and i know he's completly committed to my mother... rings don't mean anything to me...
juliemyjewel juliemyjewel 9 years
I'd like it if he did, but also wouldn't mind if he didn't.
PinkSparkleGrl PinkSparkleGrl 9 years
I agree, marriage is about a spoken, deep down commitment to each other. That is more, to me, than a ring or a piece of paper. My man is not a jewelery person. I think a ring is something you should talk about before getting married. If my man says he will not wear a ring, I am not going to buy it for him. If 10 years down the road he wants one, I would get it for him. A ring may deter some women, but really shouldn't your hubbie just say he is available when someone is hitting on a him? He can speak for himself without a ring.
omgmonster omgmonster 9 years
I'll make sure the one I'm married to are happy to wear his wedding ring, even if he doesn't like wearing jewelry. My bf's wears a key around his neck...so, I know if we were to be married, he'll definitely wear his ring.
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