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Dear Poll: Would You Have a Baby Outside of Marriage?

Surprise celebrity pregnancies are dominating the news this week, with both Jamie-Lynn Spears and Lily Allen announcing that they have buns on the oven. Spears's news is admittedly more shocking, given that she's only 16, but Allen and her boyfriend have been dating just a few months. Would you have a baby with someone you weren't married to?

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SmuttyPop SmuttyPop 9 years
I said yes, because I have a 13 year old and I am not married to his father. I was married earlier in life and decided after my divorce I did not want to do it again. Yes, he asked to marry me, but I declined.
sass317 sass317 9 years
After dating a guy who had a baby with someone else and then seeing more than a few of my friends have babies (and a few of them married guys (to be honest here) they barely knew) outside of marriage, there was no way I could do it. Ever since the day I CONSIDERED having sex I told myself that when I told my parents that they were going to be grandparents that it better be GOOD news for them to hear. In high school and college I always had the talk with boyfriends about what we would do should something happen despite our precautions. When my (now) husband and I were dating and knew we were going to get married, and then later during our engagement we did decide that if something should happen (again, despite our precautions) we would go ahead and get married and have the baby- but I would NEVER have a baby with someone I didnt want to be married to and I would never marry someone just bc I was having their child.
ncsouthpaw ncsouthpaw 9 years
this is a complicated question. If i did get myself in that situtation i would definitly keep the baby. but since im against premarital sex i dont have to worry about this
veronicaraye veronicaraye 9 years
depends on the circumstances
littlemissme littlemissme 9 years
Definitely - I don't feel a need to get married.
SweetFirefly SweetFirefly 9 years
I had my son and I wasn't married to his father. Although, I'm one of those people that NEVER intend to get married. It's just not for me. My son turned out just fine. :)
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 9 years
woops:) being MARRIED, of course
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 9 years
I would definitely need to be in a committed, long-term relationship to have a baby with someone, but for me that doesn't necesarily mean being pregnant?
snooge426 snooge426 9 years
as long as they are happy and do well by their children... that's all that you can ask for. they need to concentrate on taking care of themselves and nurturing the kids so that they are well adjusted and happy. i wish the best to both of them =)
summergirl10 summergirl10 9 years
As long as the parents are very committed to each other before they deciding to have a baby then it doesn't matter their marital status. That said I think I'd rather I'm married before having a baby.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
No, not going to happen.
bailaoragaditana bailaoragaditana 9 years
Ideally, no. But if I were to do so, it would have to be just as clareberrys said: "I do think it is important to be in a loving, committed, long term, stable relationship that isn't heading towards a break up," ie, a marriage in everything but name.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
oh, finally, a the few left with morals. . . i think everyone is "trying" to be liberal, and pretend like they are soo new wave, but the truth is that they have thrown out their morals and values to be trendy and contemporary. As liberal as i tend to be in other aspects of my life, I AIN"T trying to pop no babies for free (out of wedlock). my child would be a bastard. and i would luv it the same, but that's what it would be. then you go around saying, "my son's father . . ." and not "my husband". it's low class to have babies out of wedlock on purpose. and i don't go around looking at ppl like that. that is THEIR business, i just know what I want for MY life.
demeter demeter 9 years
No, never.
monsterblood monsterblood 9 years
No, it's against my morals.
tabloidprincess tabloidprincess 9 years
I don't want to have children before marriage but if it happened, I'd deal with the consequences.
Lacey91205 Lacey91205 9 years
No,but if something was to happen i would take responsibility for my actions, but i am not trying to make it happen.
vanilla19 vanilla19 9 years
No, I would like to be married and at a good position in my life before having children. If I became pregnant before marriage and was in a good relationship and felt ready, I would have it.
lala788 lala788 9 years
yes i would , i don't think i have to be married to have kids
FrankiLee FrankiLee 9 years
My boyfriend and I found out in November that we were going to have a baby. Although we didn't plan it this way and wouldn't deliberately try to conceive a baby out of wedlock, it did happen, and we will love and take care of the baby the same as if we were married. Things happen in life, and you have to take them as they come! As long as you are ready to take responsibility for a new life, and can afford to do so (or make the changes so you can afford to do so), then I don't see it as a bad thing at all. I do think that in Jamie Lynn's case, she is very very young, and I personally don't think that at age 16 you are ready to care for another life when you have barely had the chance to experience your own. In this case it is definitely a different story. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22, and we didn't plan on having children this early, but we are both responsible and mature people, which makes a HUGE difference.
eleanor eleanor 9 years
im from england and its interesting to see the views from people in america. im 17 and i wouldnt want a child now but in the future as long as i was financially secure i wouldnt care if i was married or not. im interested what age does everyone else think is the right age for consent, marriage and having kids i think 16 ish, 26-33, and 30+
laluna27 laluna27 9 years
No - Id need to be married for a few years before considering children. YOu'll have to deal with that person for years after, so you better be damn sure.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
Tamma, she should feel shameful why not? She is "taking responsibility" because she can, she is rich, there isnt ANY WORRIES for her at all, its easy to "own up" when you are a celebrity. and for the poster who said that we all need to be progressive? I am happily "stuck" in my old fashioned ways, progress for progress sake is dangerous and will be the downfall of values in this country
Tamma1387 Tamma1387 9 years
FLuffyHelen, Shame on you. The only thing that girl has to be ashamed of is if she turns out to be the kind of mother her sister is. When I was in high school it seemed like every other sixteen year old girl was having sex. Jamie lynn took the chance like so many around her and is now taking responsibility for it. Every other ad, t.v. show and movie are all about sex, then when a young girl gets follows that and becomes pregnant we don't take responsibility for what our media has presented because we the consumers respond to it.I applaud her for taking responsibility for her actions. Sure we know who is pregnant in hollywood, but we never know who has had an abortion. I'm sure there are so many in that town. She seems to be the only one to in that family. If anyone should be ashamed of themselves its her mother for turning a very private and personal matter into front page news. Disgusting.
yoan190 yoan190 9 years
Wouldn't and didn't. Got married and then got pregnant.
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