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Dear Poll: Would You Have a Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette Party?

Living it up with your closest friends one last time before taking the trip down the aisle is a big part of getting married. Most brides and grooms plan their bachelor/bachelorette parties months in advance, and they're usually events that are talked about years later.

While it's customary to have single sex soirees, some couples — Fergie and Josh for example who partied it up together last night in LA — opt to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. I've never been to one myself, but I think it'd be a blast to join forces like that — the more the merrier! Since the choice is yours, tell me . . .


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discocactus discocactus 8 years
Didn't have one at all, didn't really want one. Really not into the bachelorette parties that focus heavily on penis decor.
fashionlovr fashionlovr 8 years
I WANTED a joint party (we really have the same circle of friends), but my husband's father was his best man and he thought a bunch of the men would be uncomfortable having me and my girlfriends there, so we made it separate. I got text messages all night from my husband telling me how much fun he thought I would have been having had I been there.
Aurora-87 Aurora-87 8 years
Maybe. It might be fun but I think I would want to do something with just my girls.
PensaGrey PensaGrey 8 years
No. None at all really.
missxvicious missxvicious 8 years
Honestly.I don't know.I guess it depends on the people and also the relationship of the two people.So I can't really say
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
He can do his thing and I'll do mine. It the last night of being single you shouldn't have your party as a couple that defeats the purpose
Vsugar Vsugar 8 years
We totally had a Jack and Jill party!! It was really fun - we went to this huge beer hall with all of our friends, and we kind of split up - the guys mostly hung out and the girls mostly hung out, but there was plenty of crossover and it was just really really nice.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
this is something that my fiance and i have been talking about a little bit. our wedding is in april and he's been married before so he's done the crazy stuff (i hope) so i don't think that he's necessarily looking to have an 'out there' party - but for me, i don't know. i kind of like his friends and i think that it could be a lot of fun to have a joint party, but my friends might be able to come up with something fun for us. i don't know . i'm kind of on the fence about this one.
queenegg queenegg 8 years
I don't have many girl friends, but I'd want he and I to have separate parties. It's our "last night out," so we might as well do it up. haha
luckyme luckyme 8 years
We did this. My husband and I were together for close to 8 years before getting married. Many of our friends were our friends. Further, I was friends with lots of guys, so there was really no "girls night out" for me. It was much more fun to celebrate with everyone than separating it out in a girls/guys thing. We had a really good time!
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
I would actually love a Joint Partay!!! I think it would be so much more fun for me and my other. I have more guy friends than gf anyways so it would work out wonderfully. When/if I get married I would like to do this. I have more fun in a mixed crowd.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 8 years
I'd much rather have a joint party than separate. The thought of a girls-only party with a veil and feather boa and inflatable penises and a scavenger hunt makes me want to hurl. I'd much rather have a backyard barbecue with ALL of our friends.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
Ok, first of all, the Fergs is engaged? I Had no idea! I voted separate - I always visualised my bachelorette party as more of a pamper weekend, maybe a week before the wedding. Me, both mothers (depending on my relationship with his mum - I'm single, so this is more of a fantasy, lol!) all the bridesmaids etc, just a weekend of massages, pedi-and manicures, eyelash tinting, waxing, the lot. Just lazing around, drinking champagne and doing all the pre-stuff! I'm not really big on strippers or anything like that, and just because I'm married doesnt mean I can't ever go out and party again, so yeah, I'd prefer to do something different and relaxing and girly! In his case, I wouldn't really care/mind what he chose to do. I'd be expecting something reasonably wild but I wouldn't want to hear about it. Actually, I don't know if anyone has seen the movie 'Mamma Mia' but what they did was kind of cute - they partied separately, and then halfway through the night the boys turned up unexpectedly so they could party together - so I guess it depends on circumstance. Whatever works for you!
Missy-Prissy Missy-Prissy 8 years
Nic and I share the same circle of friends, give or take a few so a joint party would be awesome
Deidre Deidre 8 years
My vote's a no for myself. The joint party is the wedding! My bachelorette is actually next month, and it's the chance for me to catch up with some girlfriends that I haven't seen in a very long time (I have several long-distance friends). My fiance has the same situation with some of his buddies. We trust each other, and it'll be nice to have some downtime with friends prior to the wedding.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
No way.... I expect my guy to have strippers... he can look but not too much touching... and I'll probably have strippers too haha! It's a time to be on your not so best behavior... Who wants the pressure of a jealous finance? It's just a night to get loose and have fun... and I would NEVER have or allow my man to have his party the night before the wedding! I say a week or more prior... No one needs to deal with a hang over at the ceremony.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
I dont really see the point in all the penis straws and strippers anyway. So, yea....I think it would be fun.
myystque myystque 8 years
I'm not really big on strippers but I think I'd still want a night out with just the girls.
le-romantique le-romantique 8 years
i only have like 5 female friends, including my sister, mom and 12 year old cousin... so yeah... co-ed would be best... i have a good 10 close male friends.. although i'm not sure id enjoy having a party with my bf and his friends... it would be too raunchy... (although at least i'd know whats going on...)
misskacie misskacie 8 years
My husband and I did this. It was so much fun! I'm really more of a guys' girl anyway, admittedly-- that took the pressure off. I personally can't handle too much "girly."
ckeller825 ckeller825 8 years
I don't even think it's all about being needy of the significant other. If my boyfriend and I were engaged, I would definitely want to have a joint party because we have THE same friends, and it wouldn't be the same if we all split it up between the boys and the girls.
Myst Myst 8 years
I would. We probably will end up having one together anyways.
candace87 candace87 8 years
Ideally for me would be: seperate, do the whole strippers and getting way too drunk thing, and then after the bars close head back to our place for an all night party with everyone:)!
ashleybrooke-87 ashleybrooke-87 8 years
my friend had a great semi-joint party. the bride and groom each had their own party bus to take them to separate bars around town, and then at the end of the night they met up at a karaoke bar and partied together.
kia kia 8 years
We did and it was fun. Disneyworld for a couple of days with friends.
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