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Dear Poll: Would You Want to Be the Better-Looking One?

Even if you don't like to admit it, looks matter. Both our own and those of the people we date. It deems us as shallow if we place too much emphasis on appearance, but when it comes down to it, that's what initially attracts us to one another.

I'm always fascinated by people's reaction to the looks discussion and my friends over at Smitten touched upon this topic in a fun, cheeky way. They posed some great questions and I'd like to ask all of you one of them: Would you rather be the better looking one in your relationship?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
it really doesnt matter to me. but i have the better personality. dont really know about looks
Phunkometry Phunkometry 8 years
In my current, we're definitely equal. Which I really like. What can I say, I like hearing "you're such a good looking couple". In most of my past relationships, I was the better looking one. It wasn't such a big deal, but sometimes it made me a little uncomfortable because I felt like people thought I wasn't "reaching high enough". And, I mean, I wasn't, because they turned out to be much less than Prince Charming, but that had nothing to do with their looks. But at the same time, I wouldn't want girls drooling over my guy if he was the better looking one, thinking that I'd be easy to get rid of just because I wasn't as attractive. Eh I dunno. I really like the equal thing.
littleblonde littleblonde 8 years
My bf is the more attractive one, I think. He used to be a runway model so he's slightly(!) out of my league. You wouldn't know though, he has the rugged look to him. Always having girls handing him their number. Ugh, it's sickening.
lovelie lovelie 8 years
Hmm I have never really thought about it. I date guys that I am attracted to, and that's that...and do you measure something like this? There are many different types of "beauty" and "handsome" so to compare would be like trying to compare a rose with a tulip (my mom's favorite beauty quote) they both have their specific qualities, but some people just prefer tulips.
sw33tlovin sw33tlovin 8 years
honestly i do prefer to be the one who's better looking. but then again, & i hate to be so cliche, ppl have completely different views on what they think is attractive. so basically i just need to get over it. lol.
designerel designerel 8 years
I've been on both sides of the fence and I found that I was sooo insecure when the guy was better looking than me. My bf right now is incredibly good-looking, and I like to think we are more or less equal and he tells me I'm beautiful all the time (whereas the other good-looking guy I was with NEVER said that).
Isista Isista 8 years
I honestly don't think about this at all. I find my boyfriend incredibly handsome, but I never think about which one of us is better-looking. That seems so unnecessary.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i don't really think that i know what i would want. i;d like to think that i'm the attractive one in my relationship, but i've heard soo many people say that my fiance is really good looking so i wonder if i'm the ugly one.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
i want to say better looking, but i tend to be the cute one. Its mostly about personality and chemistry.
Belle1031 Belle1031 8 years
I think my guy and I are just about equal. Were both on the plus side but I still think he's hot. To be honest he could be ugly and I'd still love him for whats INSIDE and for how he treats me. I remember our first date (we met online), when I first saw him I was a bit taken back by his weight but the more I got to know him the more I feel in love with him and the more beautiful he became. I just love him! :)
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
Try dating people on your level that way no one gets jealous. My friends said I looked better than the last guy I dated, but I thought he was cute. Anyway, I guess I don't really care since I've never dated anyone that looked better than I did.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i've dated guys less hot than me and while people think (like that SATC episode) that it will make him want you and never leave you, i don't think that's the case....i didn't notice anything different then i dated a guy who was smokin hot, but had his own issues with confidence, and turned out to be a negative person in general, so again, didn't notice anything different i truly believe now that my bf and i are on the same tier. i find him SMOKIN hot but he also finds me super sexy and i feel like we look like a good match when together, so it works!
bonchicbongenre bonchicbongenre 8 years
My boyfriend is gorgeous, but I'd like to think we are equal haha. FYI - There have been lots of studies done that find people usually date/marry people of equal attractiveness.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 8 years
I would prefer equal... but I would have to go with me being better looking!
sonya-ina sonya-ina 8 years
Honestly, I feel like my husband and I are on the same "tier" looks wise. People always comment on how perfect we are for each other, so I certainly can't complain. I definitely think my husband is a looker ;]
summerjams summerjams 8 years
i think im the more attractive one but he had many girls after him! but he chose me so yay (: he complements me where i lack and i adore him so much!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Oh wow, I had to think about this one. Me and my boyfriend are about the same level of attractiveness? He is maybe a little bit hotter than me and I like it like that. He doesn't believe it though and always says I'm hotter. ;p Which works for me!
Meike Meike 8 years
Other. I think we're equal on attractiveness but he loves telling me I'm the [insert positive adjective here] one to which I always reply, "YOU are!" Anyway, it doesn't matter because 1) we don't care what others think, 2) the beauty of youth will fade, and 3) we already deem each other as the most beautiful person on earth simply because of our shared history and our love for each other's personality.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
My baby is totally out of my league. Tall, muscular and f*cking gorgeous. He always gets hit on by girls, it's like that Sex in the City episode where Miranda goes out with the hot cop and all of the other girls in the restaurant are staring at him... though instead of drinking myself stupid like Miranda does, I grab his arm and tell him I love him and realize he's just as lucky to have me. Actually.. Nick looks alot like Will Smith.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I didn't know we were talking about 'model' types...I can't stand those guys. I like the pilots and the carpenters. I like a man with a determined, focused look (not angry) in his eyes, and rugged (not cro magnon man) looks. Like umm... Will Smith. He just looks like a husband. A dad. Slick, pretty boys do nothing for me. So, because I'm very feminine looking I'd always be the 'pretty' one. LOL What a silly subject... I wonder how homosexuals deal with this and if there is even a discussion about it?
ayuninur ayuninur 8 years
It doesn't really matter to me.
avocado_seed avocado_seed 8 years
We both have our on and off days, so I say we alternate in being the more attractive one. :P
candace87 candace87 8 years
I like how everyone's saying "OH I'm the attractive one." It's good to hear people with self-esteem:)! For me, I have no clue.
lexichloe lexichloe 8 years
It doesn't matter to me. I've always been secure in my relationships. I feel sorry for this new wave of younger people focusing so much on appearance.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I don't know. The worst guy I dated was really ugly. I felt bad so I went out with him. Two weeks and that was that. He actually told me he couldn't handle it. Seems like every other guy looked like me, I dated one guy in high school that people thought was my brother. THAT was a pain! Honestly, I've never felt like the ugly one.
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