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Dear Poll: Would You Want Your Ex and Your New Spouse to Be Friends?

Demi Moore, Ashton Kutcher, and Bruce Willis are the poster family for how to have a civil divorce, but are the three of them just a little too close? It's easy to keep things amicable if both parties are mature about the split, but becoming buddies with the new guy is taking it a step further.

I think it's really neat to see Ashton and Bruce get along so well, even if it is for the kids' sake, but at the same time, I have to admit their closeness is a little odd. If I were in a similar situation, I don't know how I would feel about my ex being BFF with the new man in my life, but what about you? Would you like your past to be chummy chummy with your future?


kayleigh83 kayleigh83 9 years
No problem with it at all. My ex (who I dated for 3 1/2 years) has been friends with my current boyfriend since elementary school, and my ex is one of my best friends who I can talk to about anything. It works great for us :)
bbkf bbkf 9 years
My mom is still good friends with her exhusband, and her current husband likes him a lot too. Maybe it's because she divorced so long ago (22 years), but they all get along. I'd like to think that I'd be able to follow suit.
bluecanary bluecanary 9 years
My husband and ex ARE friends, and we've only had a couple of weird moments about it. In a lot of ways they are very similar guys, with lots in common - not hard to see where they would get along. Not to mention, neither one has ever been the jealous type.
NinaG NinaG 9 years
Well, your ex is your ex for a reason isn't he? And in Demi's case here, perhaps if he gets along so great with your current hubby, they are not so different? She just traded in for a younger model?
gigill gigill 9 years
Civil - yes, friends - no! Like you said Dear, too close for comfort!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
I'm not sure that i care to be this mature.
Trixie6 Trixie6 9 years
My ex & my hubby are pretty good friends. They get along really well. When I've needed help with my business, I've had my ex's fiancee work with me. Hubby bartends 2 nights a week & the ex & his fiancee and I go over and sit in the bar and have drinks together. Ex husband and I decided that we were going to have the best relationship possible for our daughter's sake and we just expected the 'new' people in our lives to go along with it.
mlen mlen 9 years
depends on the ex! i'm still friends with some of my exes so i wouldn't stop being friends with them when i get married, so if my future hubby (who i haven't met yet) liked them too, i'd be happy so we could all be friends! now would i want them to be best friends? probably not lol (eightieslingo you're brave lol) but i'd be happy if they got along.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
i don't have kids yet. so NOOOOO. if you're my ex, then that means that we don't even talk anymore. how would you even know who my new boyfriend is, let alone become his friend??? even if we had the same social circle, they have no reason to meet other than, 'Oh, that's Chuck . . .my ex". but i never had boyfriends who shared the same friends with me, so i don't see this even being an issue. and if we did have children, they just need to be cordial. you won't see me being buddy-buddy with my ex-hubby's new wife. just "hi" and "bye", and "you better be nice to my kids, or you'll catch a Manolo".
MandyPinecone MandyPinecone 9 years
I don't see the problem in being friends with your spouses ex. I'm really good friends with my hubby ex, they are still good friends.
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 9 years
ONLY if my ex nd i had kids together. It is very important to me that my hypothetical children have a good relationship with their father so in that instance, yes, but in every other situation its just wrong
emalove emalove 9 years
Only if there are children involved. Otherwise, I think it would just make for a lot of uncomfortable situations.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
eightieslingo....u have a cool husband ;) my husband pretends that he's the first man i was ever with and im the same so for me, no exes..PERIOD. well for me, cuz i dont have kids. with kids, i'd want them to be civil but not friendly. its just awkward =S
eightieslingo eightieslingo 9 years
My ex-boyfriend that I was with for 2 1/2 years is my husband's best friend. I'm not even kidding. My ex was even the best man a the wedding. It's totally NOT weird, even though people think it is. Most people I met after I knew my husband couldn't believe that I dated my ex. The three of us hang out sometimes and it's fine. I guess the secret is that I was always friends with my ex even after we broke up, so why not continue to be friends? It just so happens that my husband likes my ex, so why cause unnecessary problems and say they can't hang out?
laluna27 laluna27 9 years
My feeling is the more love in the world the better. However, I usually don't like to stay in contact with my exs so who am I to talk, haha
Meike Meike 9 years
I don't even have anything to do with my ex, why would I want to remotely involve him again in my life by having him and my honey be chummy? No thanks.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
Just like the first three women said, NO!!! When men come together they talk about exs and the current girlfriend...well, enough said!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
If there are not any kids why would you need them to be? Maybe if you shared a circle of friends they would need to be cordial but I don't think short of that there is any reason.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
NO WAY. this is without kids in mind, of course. But I voted hell no!
TASTEthiss TASTEthiss 9 years
"friends" is a bit much. i'd want them to get along if there were children involved but hanging out together is just unusual. and if there arent any children than my ex wouldnt even be in the picture. when its over, its over.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I would want them to get along of course...but be friends? Hell no! that's liek episode of Two and a Half Men where Candy becomes friends with his ex-wife! Too close for comfort!!!
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