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Dear Poll: Would you Want him in the Room?

Sometimes couples don't always make it for the long haul, even if they are expecting a baby together. But just because you are broken up, some couples feel it's incredibly important to have both mother and father be a part of the baby's life. While that is a totally reasonable goal, what I want to know is, would you want your ex boyfriend/father of your baby in the delivery room while you are giving birth?

Although Bridget Moynahan is in this exact pickle, she seems to still be taking great care of herself!


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Muirnea Muirnea 10 years
It would def. depend on how the relationship ended, if the guy did something really mean, like cheating or anything else then I would say no he shouldn't be there, because the baby doesn't need a bad influence from the day it starts its life!! If the relationship ended on good terms then yes that might be ok. Children don't always need 2 parents just because that is how most families are...some people can help their child by NOT being there if they are a bad person.
Popeye Popeye 10 years
Ok so i am a guy but i would want the ex/father to be in there!! It is important for the child to hear when he or she is old enough that his/her father was in the room when they were born!! They still might not be together but it's the baby's first day in this new world!!
paulinhadrp paulinhadrp 10 years
I agree with the many that said that it would depend on how the relationship ended and whether both are on good terms or not. But I think I would want it... even though I hope this is something I won't have to deal with.
Jus_A_Partyr Jus_A_Partyr 10 years
If he is reliable,loving and trustworthy he will ask you what you want.
scoop45 scoop45 10 years
Its a blessing!he can be there
Madinat Madinat 10 years
that what parents are for!
cherrygirl77 cherrygirl77 10 years
I would have nothing agianst him being in the room fighting or not. For those of you that have witnessed a birth there is nothing like it. It is the most amazing occurance that will happen to most of us. If you cared about each other ay one point, enough to make a baby together you should do the birth together. When your child grows up they want to know that both their parents were there, And as far as the gross stuff that is all forgotten about the second the baby comes out.My husband respected me so much more after wathing the hell I had to go through during the birth of our child; and he cried, it was amazing.
sass317 sass317 10 years
When my ex's son was born, he was SUPPOSED to be in the room- She had been induced and hadnt progressed much all day so he left and went to his friends apt to take a nap (he was out partying ALL night, yes I know he is a total idiot, thats why hes an ex) and as soon as he left she dilated to 9.5- he got back right in time to cut the cord and she told me later that she was really glad he wasnt in there for the delivery, but she was happy he made it to cut the cord. I totally understood that she felt that way.
Miami-Gal Miami-Gal 10 years
Being in the room has only become popular in the last 50 years. She will need someone she can rely on. So no. Unless she can grab a hold of his ear or some other delicate appendage instead of a grip bar.
JustMe21 JustMe21 10 years
I said yes. I mean, why not? He helped make the baby.
nessabum nessabum 10 years
and also whether or not you are with someone else. if you are already with someone else who is supportive of you, why have the real father be there when you already have someone else?
nessabum nessabum 10 years
i think it really depends on how the break up came about.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
when you have a baby your feet are in the stirrups, there is a catheter on you, you might poop on the table, your back feels like its coming off your spine and your crotch is exposed for the whole room to see. labor is work and the medical staff are professionsls. i would never have a man in the room that i wasn't currently involved with. there is a price to pay for not being a couple and that would certainly be part of it for me. you do need someone there that isn't hospital staff, but that is for YOU, someone thsat can go get the staff if you need them or tell them your wishes you if you aren't in a position to do so.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 10 years
Yes; it's still his child too. Even if I wasn't on good terms w/ him, I still think he would deserve to be there. I mean it's just fair. I would also bring someone else in the room (like a bff or someone) because it would help make things easier.
rubialala rubialala 10 years
It's his baby too. It's not fair to exclude him if he wants to be involved I would encourage that behavior as much as possible.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 10 years
I had already decided before I gave birth that my son's father would NOT be in the room. Yes we were in a relationship, but it was an abusive one...and I did not want to him to complicate things by being there. And even though he practically got into a fistfight with the nurses after I said, "Take him out," he was not welcome in the room.
facin8me facin8me 10 years
Labor and delivery is such an emotional and physically demanding time- it's hard to say how a woman will feel once she begins giving birth. While I agree that the decision would probably hinge on how the relationship ended, nobody has a "right" to be in the delivery room. It's completely up to the woman involved in the process. If somebody present was impeding the labor, the nurses and doctors would have that person out of there in a heartbeat, whether or not that person thought they had a "right" to be there.
fab4 fab4 10 years
I guess it does depend on the way it ended. We must remember, though that the baby is still half his and if he wanted to be there, it might make the situation worse by not letting him...
nicachica nicachica 10 years
this is a really hard question to answer because it really depends on how the relationship ended.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 10 years
depends on whether or not we were still on good terms.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
Would totally depend on how the relationship ended.
Brians-Girl Brians-Girl 10 years
i think it would all depend on how the relationship ended and what not.. but i would probably want him there.. cuz it is his baby too and he should be apart of its life.. n that include the birth of the child.
bfly1133 bfly1133 10 years
Unless the reason for the split was something really horrible (like abuse of some kind or some serious manipulation), I feel the father has a right to be there. I would still ask another person to be there for my comfort.
jhuck jhuck 10 years
I think for me it would depend on the terms we were on. If it was an amicable split, then yeah, he's the father, he should experience it. It we split on bad terms, I think that having him there would be upsetting.
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