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Dear Poll: Are You Overly Picky?

When it comes to dating, I'm all for playing the field and figuring out what you like and what you don't like. And while I'm a firm believer in not settling, I think that notion is often times taken to the extreme. Since no one is perfect, it's easy to find flaws in people, but realistically, it's those imperfections that can be what makes someone unique and special. I think it's good to be selective, but being too picky can lead to missed opportunities, leaving you back at square one: single. I know it's hard not to be somewhat picky, but tell me, do you consider yourself to be picky to a fault?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
its hard to focus on the positive when its like 20% of ure life. so yeah, i am pretty picky. when i buy something, i dont buy it even if it had a tiny little thing that i didnt like. if its removable, sure i`d buy it. but if not, i dont.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Even if you found a guy with all the qualities on your list he's still going to have things about him that you don't like. I'd rather be with someone who might not have everything I decided I needed but also doesn't have something that would be a problem to me that I never even thought of.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i used to be really picky but i've learned that you're not going to find one perfect person and that there are perhaps things that you should be willing to live with. my fiance - he's by no means perfect and i sometimes feel like i'm settling, but more often than not, i'm really happy. i like to think that i'm picky in a good way for just about everything in life. i like quality and nicer things, and comforts but that's not a bad thing is it?
chocolatine chocolatine 8 years
I'm with austerity, fleurfairy, and jennjennnbubba. I have high standards that I won't compromise. I've done that before, and ended up more miserable in the relationship than I'd ever been when single. I'm OK with the possibility that I might remain single forever, but I'm never compromising my values again.
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 8 years
Yes I'm really picky. All I want is a good-hearted guy who is somewhat that too much to ask? ;)
ayuninur ayuninur 8 years
option 2
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
I don't consider myself picky in relationships but I do feel I have high expectations/standards. I am generally accepting of new things and different ways of thinking but somethings I won't give on. I understand that no one is perfect and don't expect perfectionism in a relationship. Like fleurfairy, I too would rather remain single and wait for that well mannered, courteous, fun and honest person than lowering my standards for someone who I know will cause me more harm than good in the long run.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Yeah, I'm super picky, but I go back and forth between deciding if it's a fault or not. I mean, we are always telling each other not to settle and not to just be with a guy out of loneliness, so if I'm that picky why does it matter? I can always be just fine and perfectly happy by myself, so why not wait for someone that fits all of those crazy criteria? And if he doesn't ever come along, it's not a problem, I'm happy by myself. :)
fleurfairy fleurfairy 8 years
My standards are too high! It's a problem but I just refuse to date some schmuck because I'm scared to be alone. I'd rather be single than settle.
austerity austerity 8 years
I have certain criteria that I don't compromise on, but I think they're worth it; he has to be smart, affectionate, loving, attractive (well to me at least), educated, caring, worldly and ambitious, and someone who fights constructively (i.e. avoids nasty fights at all cost). Once these criteria are met, I really don't care what his favorite football team is, what kind of socks he wears, what his friends are like etc. Overall, I'm picky on a few things that matter to me, and not on the rest!
soulight soulight 8 years
Being that I'm young I'm more likely to dismiss potential dates with little deal breakers like "He doesn't like seafood!" which is a statement that came up last night with by my roomie. But I'm not extremely picky my current boyfriend has some flaws that I'm currently in love with at the moment.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
No one is perfect. I am not picky, but I do know what I want. I have a certain thing a guy needs to be in order for me to date him. Thankfully I am with my boyfriend of about 2 years, and he's all that I want.
CYL CYL 8 years
It depends...there are definately deal breakers. But I also accept that everyone has their flaws (I certainly do)...and what flaws are negotiable and what aren't.
Melo-D Melo-D 8 years
Nothing wrong with being picky, as long as it's not ridiculous. "Playing the field" is to guide you along the way as to what you like and don't like. Just know that some things you won't like and others, you'll tolerate. Just don't settle for the things you absolutely find unacceptable.
sonya-ina sonya-ina 8 years
Before I was married... yes. In fact, I'm surprised I got married at all. Ha! While my husband isn't perfect, he's perfect for me.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I need to be pickier. I'm just aware that sometimes I'm not the easiest person to get along with. But I think I've reached the perfect level of pickiness.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i'm a perfectionist but when it comes to dating, i am surprisingly not that picky. in my old age, i know what i want and who i like, but i know no one is perfect. my bf is pretty close though!
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