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Dear Poll: Are You an Up/Down Girl?

Women are critical of one another — that's not a new phenomena, but nor is it always the case! Sometimes when we check each other out, it can come off as judgmental and rude when we're really just doing it out of admiration. A friend once coined the term "up/downing" — when your eyes look over every part of her, from head to toe in one, quick glance. Of course, it's impolite, but I think we've all been guilty of doing it at least once! So ladies, whether you're just curious about what she's wearing or you like to people watch, what I want to know is, do you ever give the up/down?


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avocado_seed avocado_seed 8 years
Ugh.. I hate this too, so I try not to do it, but when I do want look closely at another girl it's because I think she's really pretty or has great style, and I want a better look, but I try to be discreet and not obviously stare because I hate it when other people do it to me. I'm not even sure how to react when it happens to me... I usually pretend I don't see them, but it makes me uncomfortable.. One girl did it very obviously to me, and I found it very offensive.
keiraz keiraz 9 years
ALL the time! And sometimes I am kinda mean too lol
alexask alexask 9 years
i think i have it best. my bff is a lesbian - she's the "man" one but she's still super femme, so we're all hair and makeup and cocktails, but she also comes with absolutely no baggage and girly cat-iness, so i've grown up looking at women to fawn over, not to get judge. and i think it puts out good energy cause i can get along with the craziest, most neurotic girls. i think girls can feel genuine vs. judgmental stares.
seraphimm seraphimm 9 years
OMG THE PICTURE SAYS IT ALL!! SO FUNNY :ROTFL: perfect example. the girls in the picture look OBVIOUSLY insecure about themselves, that they have to do "THE SCAN" I hate the damn scan, but I am guilty of doing it when I see another girl with gorgeous hair/face/outfit and omg, SHOES. I always get caught every time though, and feel AWFUL because I'm admiring them but they're probably what I'M THINKing when other girls stare at me like that. Sometimes I get so mad when I get the PERMANENT SCAN (lasts so long and don't care to look away that it's more of a bitchy glare than a scan) that I wanna punch the rude girl's face :(
Ikandy Ikandy 9 years
YESSSSSSSSSS!!! Janine22 and Rosey. I get extremely annoyed when girls/women do this...cattiness is really tacky...
thegiraffe thegiraffe 9 years
Janine22, I agree with you completely!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Like some posters here, I get this regularly from women (and men). It makes me uncomfortable and self-conscious. I feel like I'm being "sized-up." With women, when I glance back, they tend to quickly look away. With men, they usually accost me. Because I'm uncomfortable receiving it, I NEVER do this to other women. I may admire another woman, and if she happens to notice, I would compliment her, and say something like,"You have pretty hair," or "That's a cute outfit," etc. That's different from up/downing.
plasticapple plasticapple 9 years
I do it when I see a really attractive girl, or a really fabulous outfit. I think I'm pretty discreet about it though. I have been caught starting at a couple gorgeous ladies though, I hope they don't think I was being nasty. Some people are just soooo attractive it's hard not to look!
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
^^I feel the same way too.I get this all the time.
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
I hate girls who are obvious about it when looking at me. It makes me feel self-conscious and like they are 'eying up' the competition. I find that girls who do this are often not very good at dealing with other girls, because they think they have to compete for mens attention. They often have a lot of guy friends but not too many girlfriends. I don't understand girls like that. So petty!
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
Oh dear - I sound like a pervert! I'm only interested in the clothes, hair and makeup on a girl, I swear. :p
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
I do it sometimes, but if I bother to get a good look it means I think she looks great! I still do it as steathily as possible though, so as not to make the poor gal uncomfortable. Thank god for dark sunglasses. ;)
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Not in a harsh way. I'm pretty sure no one knows I'm doing it. I like to see what people are wearing and how they do their hair and makeup. It's more curiosity than judgment.
duck-duck-goose duck-duck-goose 9 years
I tend to look people full-on in the face -- but I might be slightly oblivious, in general. ((shrugs))
juicylove juicylove 9 years
anyone who says they dont do this is lying. you might not be conciously doing it but you do. i didnt notice once and this guy said to me.. why do girls always do that. and i said do what. and he told me that my friend & i both just looked up/down at this girl walking by. wether it be to see if you like anything their wearing or to judge them or wahtever you do it.
thegiraffe thegiraffe 9 years
I don't, but it happens to me ALL the time. I also get dirty looks sometimes. Seriously, I feel people who do this are just showing their insecurity. What could someone you've never even met or talked to already have done that wrong? I myself like to check out what other girls are wearing and how they look, but SUBTLY people, subtly.
Jeny Jeny 9 years
I get this ALL the time.. my first reaction is to give the girl a dirty look because 9 times out of 10 I'm thinking they are judging me in a bad way but I could see how it would be 'up' in this case.. makes sense..
emalove emalove 9 years
I NEVER do this...I think it's so obnoxious and I HATE when women do this to me. If you want to check out what someone is wearing, there's a way to do it discreetly.
bpeach253868 bpeach253868 9 years
I look at women but I try not to do the up/downing thing too much (or at least I don't do it obviously) b/c I think it's totally obnoxious when it is done to me.
rlindz rlindz 9 years
Why do people assume the up/down is negative? I do it all the time but like others mentioned, it's just to see what people are wearing. The more extreme the outfit or look is (either extremely attractive or extremely unattractive), the more I want to look. I don't roll my eyes or give a dirty look. It's just curiosity.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
This is an odd question. I feel like there is something very negative about the up/down. And yet, I do notice people when I'm out and about. How can you avoid it? I'm not consciously checking people out, but if they have a great outfit on or something particularly funny on, I'll notice. Is that different than the up/down?
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I like looking at what people are wearing ... I can't help it. I even tend to linger longer on how someone has done their hair. I'm fascinated by these things on my otherwise mundane morning commute.
Hootie Hootie 9 years
I love people watching. I love to see how women put their looks together. If I look someone up and down it's not in a rude way. Just a quick glance at how they look. And never when they are looking at me. I'm not obvious about it. Women are beautiful. No harm in admiring someones outfit.
livyourlife livyourlife 9 years
There was this girl who did this (give me the up/down) every time I walked in the door... it made me feel a bit uncomfortable, but I think it was mostly out of admiration not criticism because she was always asking me where I bought my clothes (although that can be rude as well, to a degree!) It's kinda funny because since I knew she was always going to scrutinize my appearance, I felt like I had to be consistent and not just walk in looking lousy one day. I only do this when a girl is out of the ordinary pretty or stylish, has great hair, etc.
rpenner rpenner 9 years
please, everyone does this. of course you notice people and what they're wearing and what they look like. it doesn't mean you're doing it to be critical or judgemental. more often then not, i do it because the chick is super hot. but yeah, me and my boy do the people watching too. it's very entertaining.
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