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Dear Poll: If Your One Night Stand Got You Pregnant...

In a previous poll, 41 percent of you said you were all for casual sex, but only 11 percent admitted to having a one night stand. Regardless of the kind of sexual partners you've had, sometimes we aren't as safe as we should be, leaving some chance for unexpected pregnancy.

So what would you do if you found out you were pregnant by a man you had no intention of pursuing a relationship with or ever seeing again? Whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, what I want to know is, would you tell the man who knocked you up that you were pregnant or would you make your decision on what to do all on your own?


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timelessbluroom timelessbluroom 4 years
I'm 22, and had a drunken one night stand 2 months ago. I had never been drunk, was a virgin, and didn't even really have any feelings for the guy beforehand. He was my only "friend" in a new town, and was showing me around. We went camping, there was tequila, and well...there you have it. There was no protection. When we talked afterwards, he said he would be there for whatever might happen as a result of it. As this was a lot of firsts for me, I kept close tabs on what my body was doing afterward. I realized I had pregnancy symptoms before my period was even due. I waited until 10 days after I found out I was pregnant for sure. I called him and very calmly and logically explained what was going on. I didn't cry or use any weird emotional manipulation. He immediately changed from the nice guy that he had been the whole time. He cussed me out, went on and on about how unfair life was being to him, etc. He said I obviously should get an abortion. I told him that I couldn't kill my own baby, and that if he didn't want to be involved, I wouldn't ask him for anything, and he could go his own way. To which he replied, "But then I would feel should have an abortion, because I can't live with that." Keep in mind this guy is 32 years old. Wow. So I ended with telling him that I was responsible for someone else's life now, not just mine, and I needed to protect that life over his feelings. I miscarried a week ago, and when I told him, he told me that he was relieved and happy. In retrospect...I wouldn't have told him. Wouldn't have had to deal with the stress, and might still be carrying my baby safely to term. Asshole.
Kimberly3080575 Kimberly3080575 5 years
I'm not going to read the comments, because I'm sure half of them would only make me angry. But to put my two cents in, I was in this situation in November, after finding out I got pregnant from a one-night stand that happened in September. I was still acquaintances with the guy, which is why I told him. If I had never seen him again, I doubt I would have gone to great lengths to seek him out and tell him. It did not "ruin his life". In fact, he did not let it ruin his life, since he denied paternity anyhow. I thought he should know since both of us were involved in this, and both of us deserved to know. He wanted me to have an abortion, and I refused. I ended up giving birth to a beautiful baby girl two months ago, and I have not talked the the father in a while, but at least he does know about the situation. (And I never asked him for child support or anything like that either). 
Anneleah Anneleah 7 years
I'd tell him, but will not ask for anything, its upto him. He has the right to know. Its your fault being irresponsible of the actions that you've done, definitely he's not expecting that coz it's a 1 night stand. Just tell him and dont ruin his life..
shean shean 8 years
agree with you totally, Lovaajn! Asking for a child support from one nite stand? nonesense...nobody wants this to happen..if it's the girl's decision to keep the child, it's her respondsibility to take care of the child too. This happend to me 5 months ago..I didn't call him or even let anyone know about this. When I found out I was just 5-week pregnent, so I went to the doctor's and took the abortion pill. I have to admit that it's kind of sad to deal with all these by myslef, but it's the right decision. It's the one nite stand we're talking about here, not some kind of rape case!
Lovaajn Lovaajn 9 years
Oh, I'd have an abortion. But...if I didn't have an abortion (I would) I'd tell the dad. And not for the money, I'd tell the dad for the CHILD'S sake. Jesus people...really, for the money? That is the kind of thing that give women a bad name. That's why men think women are all about the money. Shit.
mrskrismendoza mrskrismendoza 9 years
I honestly don't know.
darlene darlene 9 years
I'd tell him
demeter demeter 9 years
I honestly do not know.
snitzelv snitzelv 9 years
i would tell him because every body has the right to know!!!!!!!! the decision is completely up to u though if u dont know this person than u have to make the right choice for urself!!!!
Historygal3 Historygal3 9 years
I would only tell him if I'm planning on keeping the baby.
InfernalMari InfernalMari 9 years
Well, I'd take the morning after pill so fast...also, I don't believe in one night stands as I have no way of knowing if they're clean or not. And I always carry a condom. So wow, does this not apply to me. Anywho, in the highly unlikely situation, it's none of his damn business what I do with my body.
lovelylei lovelylei 9 years
its hard to say because I don't see myself ever having a one night stand in the first place. if I ever did, it depends on everything else as to if I tell him or not. I'd definitely get rid of it though.
Babychloe Babychloe 9 years
I wouldn't tell him unless I decided to keep the baby. At that point I think he has a right to know.
jaxon jaxon 9 years
Tell him and keep the baby. What he does after that is up to him.
sarasonne sarasonne 9 years
I believe first impressions say a lot about someone, so I think it depends on the guy, and also what your plans are.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
Jeez...Now there's a thinker...... This is all theoretical for me, seeing as I haven't had a one night stand in ummm.....5 years? Morning after pill. Only problem with telling the guy is this: we just had a one night stand. He thinks I am pretty easy, so he's will definately question the paternity of the child from the beginning. then comes the paternity test drama. Then I'd change my ho-ing ways. lol
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