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Dear Poll: Will you Change your Name?

Before women had such a strong presence in the work place, they almost always changed their names after getting married. Throughout the years, times have changed and women have worked incredibly hard to gain notoriety, both personally and professionally, leaving some reluctant to give up their recognizable last name.

So all you women out there who are engaged and or newly married, are you planning on taking on your husband's last name? Are you looking forward to being Mrs. XYZ?


shepptacular shepptacular 9 years
I'm not vehemently opposed to those who take their spouse's last name. My only options are to hyphenate or to keep it because after my PhD is over I don't want to be called Dr. (husband's last name) especially since he'll be the same thing.
moxierain moxierain 9 years
I'm a single 25 year old female. I have legally changed my entire name (first, middle and last) because I hated my birth name. I changed it all on April 25th. I paid $230 and then set up a date for a hearing, I went to court and stated why I wanted it changed. It was easy. It just sucked updating the new name. You have to go to social security, the dmv, banks, IRS, etc. So no I will not change my name if I ever get married. Don't want to have to go through all of this again. I love my new name, it feels like "me" and I don't miss the old one. I think if people want to change their names then that's cool. If not, that's cool too. Neither one is wrong.
corona528 corona528 10 years
Just because I'm crazy about someone doesn't mean I have to lose my identity. If he desperately wants to have the same last name, he can take mine.
siouxsie siouxsie 10 years
my great great grandmother made her husband take her name! so ballsy back then..and i think i would too if my husband had something really common...otherwise- i'd do the latin thing and use both...
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
What can I say...i'm old fashion..:) the moment i can i will change my 11 letter last name to his 2 letter one..he he!
XDeexDeeX XDeexDeeX 10 years
I think it's an honor to use my futur fiance's last name.
yayapapaya yayapapaya 10 years
i took my husbands last name, it seemed like the right thing for me, but i added my maiden name as a second middle name because that name is very special to me and i still wanted to keep it.
curlyqmich curlyqmich 10 years
I have a long while before I have to decide, but I remain torn. I LOVE my last name, and like it more than my boyfriend's. But hyphenating would sound odd because both our last names are very ethnic and it doesn't really flow well.
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 10 years
i will keep my old name
lala788 lala788 10 years
I'm not getting married any time soon ,but when i do i'll chance my last name just because i hate my last name.
Daylyn Daylyn 10 years
That sounds like somethign I want to do krisua
agrepina agrepina 10 years
i chose yes..but i dont feel like its a rite of passage.. i have a really hard last name that no1 can i really cant wait to change it! unless my future husbands last name is eveb harder than mine..then im deff not changing it
Beautifulbarbie Beautifulbarbie 10 years
I just got married, and yes I took mu hubby's last name.
TheMissus TheMissus 10 years
Why can't the guy take the woman's name? To each their own when it comes to deciding what name to take when they get married. While I appreciate that most people see it as a tradition they'd like to keep going, I could never, ever take my husband's last name. I like my name as it is. I think it should be tradition to keep your own name.
lolabella lolabella 10 years
i've been married for 10 years. not fond of my husband's last name (yawn!) and VERY proud of my father's accomplishments. the ONE THING i regret in my 10 years of marriage is taking my husband's name! i took it because my husband was *so* upset and put out and insulted (God forbid!) that i wanted to keep my OWN name! if you're ambivalent or not wanting to take his name now ... DO NOT DO IT. ten/fifteen/twenty years down the road, you'll be kicking yourself like i am now. although i am no longer legally bound to my maiden name, i actually use it! if i was lola bella smith by birth and married jon doe, i am now legally lola bella doe, but all of my correspondence reads "lola smith doe." some people think the 'smith'/maiden is a middle name (it's actually a male British name), but overall, i don't care. all my resumes say 'lola smith doe' and my work emails come out 'doe, lola smith.' i love it. i get to represent my daddy in MY good work and be proud of my roots at the same time!
ergosum ergosum 10 years
be persistent nyc! my husband was totally against it at first too, and got really defensive, worried that people would see him as less of a man for it or something. and i admit I was pretty dead set against changing my name at all--i'm a professional in a career where changing my name could be problematic, not to mention I have a HUGE problem with the double standard, so it was pretty much this or nothing! eventually he came around to it though, for the reasons listed above (showing that we are a family, and are connected with both my family and his, no kids yet but they'll take both names). now he's proud to be an innovator! and you can remind your fiance that most people will still assume that you took his last name). it was a good compromise for us.
SaraSmile SaraSmile 10 years
I am keeping my last name officially, but I wouldnt correct anyone if they referred to me as Mrs. X. (x being a variable here, of course). My children would be our names hyphenated.
nycgirl nycgirl 10 years
ergosum, i think yours is the best solution! my fiance is dead set against changing his last name?? that made ME fairly insulted. What, I can change my identity, the name I've had for the past 27 years and you cannot? Such a double standard.
nycgirl nycgirl 10 years
I am hyphenating bc my fiance gets insulted that I really want no part of his last name. It's a good last name, but I'm asian and his last name is Italian. I feel I would be misrepresenting myself with an Italian last name. So hyphenation it is. I do think hyphenated women automatically come with this "Type A, ball-busting, ambitious and neurotic woman" label though.
cupcake3 cupcake3 10 years
I love my last name; my direct family members (grandparents, uncles, first-cousins etc) are also the only people on the planet to bare the name. But, I'm at a dilemma because I will be an attorney in a few yrs and my finacee's last name might be more appealing. I can go either way bc I'm not established in my profesion yet. Names count when it comes to employment, it's a sociological fact.
Hope5 Hope5 10 years
I already took My Husband last Name-I love It!
sabrinad2122 sabrinad2122 10 years
Does it really matter? I think we over complicate this issue, I personally don't think my last name makes me, me. I am who I am by what I do, not what others call me. If you took every name that people called you by or knew you by as your identity, wow.... I just hope you can see where I'm going with this, I say pick the name that sounds the best, if your last name is shcnuzlebacker and his is garrison, or your last name is londen and his is humperdink, your call...
sashak sashak 10 years
ergosum- that is a great idea! b-gal- Heathers is SUCH A GREAT MOVIE!!! :evil:
partysugar partysugar 10 years
No. I have never understood why in American marriages the female has to change her identity. I've always been Party Sugar- why do I have to become someone else?
CatarinaBella521 CatarinaBella521 10 years
My husband and I used to work for the same company (I still do) so after we got married, he e-mailed a friend of his in IT to make sure they changed my last name on my e-mail & user names...I thought that was cute! I think it's up to the person but I am very happy that I changed my name.
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