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DearSugar's Dos and Don'ts of Surviving a Bad Date

DearSugar's Dos and Don'ts of Surviving a Bad Date

I've given you my dos and don'ts of dating and my dos and don'ts of going on a second date, and now I'm back to give you some pointers on dealing with a bad date! Check out my dos and don'ts below.

Do Don't
  • Do remember that it's just a date, not the rest of your life and it'll be over before you know it.
  • Do find something to make the date somewhat manageable — spark up a conversation you know will pique both your interests, try to enjoy the movie you're watching, or simply enjoy the meal you're eating.
  • Do maintain your composure and be polite.
  • Do share the details with a friend after the fact and find the humor in it!
  • Don't be rude or mean.
  • But don't feel bad about about leaving the date early if he's rude or mean to you.
  • Don't beat yourself up over a bad date — they happen to all of us.
  • Don't accept an offer to extend the date — politely say no to drinks or dessert so you can be on your merry way.

Have I missed anything?


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Sofia-Soubrette Sofia-Soubrette 8 years
"Do remember that it's just a date, not the rest of your life and it'll be over before you know it." But sometimes *HE* doesn't know that...I just had a dude try to start running my life after one freakin' date! BUH BYE!
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
lindssaurussss you have no idea. I could of been more rude but instead I ditched him in hopes to avoid being THAT much more mean.
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
Do have an emergency plan - ie. have a good friend call you with an "emergency" so you can end the date early if need be. Yeah, it's only dinner and not your whole life, but why suffer that if you don't need to?
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
wow aimeeb that sucks. i would of probubaly thrown popcorn in his face and walked out. my idea of a bad date is too make awkward silences.those are the worse. and you can tell too when you just give a mid awkward hug. they usually get it by then.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
I've been on a couple of really, REALLY bad dates before and what I learned from it was to arrange for a first date to be something like just coffee or something like that...not dinner and a movie. That way, if you decide the guy's a major tool after 15 minutes, finish your coffee and say you've got to get going/have stuff to do/etc. And if it's great, you can hang out in the coffeeshop for a long time and arrange to see the guy again for a second date.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Me I don't feel bad. I had a guy who kept trying to cop a feel in the movies and be a pig. Mind you I had met him there, I always took my own car. I excused myself to the bathroom and left. Hahahaha.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 8 years
Man, I went on a couple of *really* bad dates back in college. They were so bad I couldn't even bring myself to be polite - I was just in too much of a hurry to get out of there lol! Looking back on it I realize I could have been a little more gracious, but ah well. Live and learn.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
if they ask you for another date (and clearly did not realize the date was terrible!), make sure you express that you do not want to -politely. "Can I take you out again?" "I'm sorry, I just did not feel a spark, but thank you for the nice dinner/etc."
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