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DearSugar Needs Your Help: Should I Follow My Heart?

DearSugar and In a Pickle Patty need your help. She's fallen for her boyfriend's best friend and he's fallen for her too, but she doesn't know what to do. She needs some unbiased advice, so if you have any words of wisdom to share, do so in the comments below.

Dear Sugar,
I have become enveloped in a very uncomfortable love triangle, and I'm so confused about what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. When we met I was a sophomore in college and he was jobless, living on his best friend's couch. Something just told me there was a reason for meeting him, so I ignored his situation. Things have been bumpy during our entire relationship and we've gone on several "breaks". Basically, he and I are complete opposites; we were brought up completely differently (me in a loving home that stressed the importance of education, he in foster homes), we have completely different views on pretty much everything, and to be frank, he is a jerk 50 percent of the time. But I love him.

Insert problem: His best friend. I didn't meet his best friend until almost a year into our relationship because he had been serving in Iraq. He and I hit it off instantly and became fast friends. I have felt a strong connection with him from the moment we met and I tried to just ignore it, but today he confessed his feelings for me too. He is handsome, sweet, caring, and hard-working. Sometimes I wonder if maybe the reason I met my boyfriend was so that I would meet his friend. I know that sounds awful but I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to hurt him, but I don't think he and I are meant to be. I would love an objective opinion on this situation. And for the record, nothing has happened yet.


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