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DearSugar Needs Your Help: What Should He Do?

DearSugar and Torn Thomas need you help. He's in love with his girlfriend of three years but he doesn't carry the torch for her like he used to. While he still enjoys being with her and having that close connection, their sexual connection is just not there. He's at a loss so ladies, give this guy some advice!

Dear Sugar,
I have been in a great relationship with my partner for almost three years. She is loyal, loving, caring and we have a lot of fun together. My problem is that as much as I love her and want to spend all my time with her, I don't want to have sex with her anymore! I love cuddling and kissing, but for the past year, we have sex infrequently and when we do, I pretend she is someone else. It's an awful cycle; I feel guilty and she feels undesirable — it's a no win. I'm still attracted to other women and want to have sex with them, just not my partner! I don't want to let her go, but I'm also too young to write off my sex life so what should I do?


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