Skip Nav
20 Brilliant Ideas For Your Wedding Seating Chart
Walt Disney World
This Adorable Disney Park Line Is the Happiest Collection on Earth
16 Adorable Swimsuits For Ultimate Disney Fans Only

DearSugar Needs your Help: Money or Career or Both?

DearSugar and Desperately Searching Susan need your help -- Can she have it all?


I want to find my dream job, but the bills need to get paid. Why does it seem so easy in theory to follow your heart, but impossible in reality? How do I find my career passion and still be able to pay my bills and have a little cash left over to actually enjoy myself?


Join The Conversation
calibabi calibabi 10 years
i really think that you should always follow your dreams...but that sometimes means doing something you don't like along the way (like working at a crappy job). just don't give up on your ultimate goal.
sabrinaland sabrinaland 10 years
I have no idea why this question has brought out such snarkiness! The person who wrote the question just wants to have a decent life, is willing to work at it and just wants to get some advice. There is nothing wrong with that!
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
it's not that no one likes their jobs, it's that it's THEIR JOB. you go to work WHEN they tell you to. you do WHAT they tell you to do and you stay until THEY tell you it's okay to leave. you sell yourself for a big portion of the day. it's a beautiful day and you want to go to the park for a picnic but; you have to work. or you can't make that wonderful party at your bf's parents because you have a project due. it happens. it's called work for a reason :) they higher up on the pole you get the more freedom you have, but you'll still be taking your laptop on vacation. money IS the bottom line.
callmehoney callmehoney 10 years
i hate it when people tell me that no one likes their jobs and you just gotta deal with it. i don't think it should be this way. so it goes without saying...i'm in your shoes. my plan is to stick it out for a few more years while i pursue a higher degree. with that, i can make a career change into my dream job and in the meantime, be able to afford to pay my bills. since i know that i will be going back to school...i plan to lower my fixed expenses (car payments, student loans, etc.) as quickly as i can. for the most part, i think i'm just disappointed that what i had expected out of college didn't turn out the way i had hoped. but when life hands you lemons... anyway, i agree with mon repos' advice. try to make the most of your job (if the money helps pay bills) and try to enjoy everything else in your life.
mon-repos mon-repos 10 years
historically, ones job/career has just been a way to support oneself so one could seek out the life they want with the hours left over. This is part of the problem with Americans... they want everything perfect for them right now. No one dreams of becoming a janitor, cleaner, laborer. But people must do these jobs. You need not be defined by what you do for a living, but how you live. I am thankful for any satisfaction I derive form my career (I am more thankful for the money I get). I am more thankful for the hours I have outside my work with my family and the things I love to do.... sometimes all one needs to adjust or change is their own attitude to find happiness.
Daisy6264 Daisy6264 10 years
Hang in there you can do it.
toxic_boi2004 toxic_boi2004 10 years
You hit the spot right there lol I seriously had to read what you said and take that with consideration. My friends may have a lot but thety are doin jobs they don't like I am going to school and persuing my sociology and journalism degree. I cancelled my cable and I don't have the internet I have it on my sidekick I stay in and read and watch dvds and go to the gym in my complex. I'm getting on a savings plan so I can own my own home when I am 30. I am also learning to be confortable alone. Just setting up goals ands following them will create a positive change.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
what? seriously, did you actually believe having it all eould just come to you? why do you think dr phil is famous? why do you think there are so many self help books? very few people end up in their dream job right out of the gate. try and simplify your life. translation; get bills to the lowest possible point. do you need a gym membership or can you get the same thing on your own? do you need cable or can you go without tv and watch a few select things on your computer the day after they show on tv? don't go out to eat more than once a week and then limit yourself. don't hit starbucks in the morning; brew your own. chances are you won't be rich, few people are. but you can be happy if you make the right choices for YOU. make a list of what is really important to you. i don't mean looking hot in your jeans kind of important. i mean something like "owning my own business owning a home by age 30" or "finding my life partner and having my first child in the next 10 years". life changing stuff. then work toward THAT goal. the rest of your life will need to fit into that equation, not the other way around. if you want to be an art therapist who works with disabled children go for it, but realize that the rest of the world does not see this is valuable IN TERMS OF PAYMENT. so you won;t be driving a bmw to your appointments.
toxic_boi2004 toxic_boi2004 10 years
I sooo understand where you are coming from. I am 21 years old and I am still in community college and I would love to be making 17 an hour like some of my peers but I don't wanna give up on school this is my last year then I transfer to a university. I just don't see it happening fast enough and there are days when I literally want to cry but I have to suck it up because if you compare yourself to others you come up short. Just like what masquraded_angel says maybe a second job and saving a couple bucks from each paycheck will do you good. We badger ourselfs so much. We all including myself need to keep their heads up. The time will come
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
If you know what your dream job is then just go for it. If not then try volunteering in an area that's similar to your dream job and try to work your way in.
qwerty3020 qwerty3020 10 years
Well, what is your "dream job"? If you want to be an artist or actress, you can do these part time and still have a full time "pay the bills" job. If you don't know what your "dream job" is then just remember that no one loves everything about their job. Some people don't like anything about their jobs. Follow your passions in your spare time. /For the record, I like my job very much
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 10 years
Do you have a degree of any sort? These days degree = career in most cases, so maybe what you need to do is go to college first while still hanging onto the job you have. Also, try saving just a little out of each paycheck, even if it's just $5 a week. That way, at the end of 3 months or so, you can treat yourself to something. Also, you could try working two jobs in order to get yourself a little spending cash. Good luck in finding your dream job!
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pit File For Divorce | Video
Bald Bride's Wedding Photos (Video)
#IBelieveYou Supports Sexual Assault Victims (Video)
Male Birth Control | Video
From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds