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Deleted Ex Boyfriend's Sister From Facebook

"I Deleted My Ex-Boyfriend's Sister From My FB"

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I deleted my ex boyfriend's sister from my Facebook yesterday. It's been a few months, things ended quite badly and I guess I didn't want any more reminders of the past. Or see posts about places I used to visit with their family. I knew them for a couple of years so I felt sad doing it because it's not like she ever did anything to me. On the other hand we were never close and she sometimes came across as cold when I was in a relationship with her brother. Her mom had said she liked me.

Maybe she was being self-protective because she knows his track record with relationships and she got close to his last ex only to have her disappear. It's not like she and I were communicating on FB and I did reach out to her once when I ran into a friend of hers and got no response. With pics of me popping up with guy friends etc. I didn't think having her on my friends list seemed healthy anymore. Also I didn't want constant reminders of the past. I think what I did was the right thing so why do I feel bad about it?

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mountainlove mountainlove 5 years
totally understandable. why be friends with her if you are not with him? he was the connection.
testadura67 testadura67 5 years
As someone who's been the sister in the same situation you just described, trust me, it's the right thing to do. Then she won't feel like she's being used as an in to her brother's life. You did the right thing, the healthy thing, and for gods sake it's facebook. If you really need for whatever reason to get in touch with her or your ex, I'm sure you know where they live. But for your day to day mental and emotional health, you did exactly the right thing. 
kkaaoo kkaaoo 5 years
I completely understand how you feel, because I did the same thing not too long ago.  As cheesy as it may sound, we use facebook to maintain connections with people, and when you delete them, that connection is gone.  It's almost like the last string of a connection to your ex.  You cant check up on him, even if you wanted to.  It is the best thing to do though.  Keep moving forward :)
kitty-Witty kitty-Witty 5 years
i don't see anything right or wrong here . it totally depends on you. if you think it was necessary then it is fine.
henna-red henna-red 5 years
Thinking and feeling are very different experiences. Your relationship with your ex may have ended badly, but there are obviously some happy memories from better times too. You've just closed the door, officialy put your past in the past. Which means focusing on the now, the future. We're a nostalgic race, we remember the good and the bad and with emotion. You've decided your done with this, but that means you're choosing to put all of those emotions behind you. Emotions, good and bad, become old friends. We're familiar with them, used to them. We pull them out again and again, feel all of the emotion that goes with those memories, so putting the emotions away is like loosing an old friend. You've made a good choice for good reasons. Feel the sad. It will ease, as you fill your life with new emotions and memories to take the place of those you're putting away. blessed be
lcrox07 lcrox07 5 years
You did the right thing. I'm sure she will understand why you did it. Out of sight, out of mind. Time will lessen that concern.
chibros chibros 5 years
It's the nature of being concerned. Since you have a genuine reasons for doing so, don't let it bother you anymore. You guys are not that close either so why worry? Or do you want to displease yourself just to please Facebook friendship, even if she cares about it?
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