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Depressing Insights From This Weekend's Cub Convention

Depressing Insights From This Weekend's Cub Convention

Perhaps Millbrae, CA, should start calling itself Cougar Town. This weekend, the San Francisco suburb hosted the National Cub Convention for cougars (in this case, women over 40) and the "cubs" who love them.

I'm all for women over age 40 embracing their youthful spirit and heading into the dating scene, but this report from the convention floor rubs me the wrong way. To find out why,


Here are six somewhat sad facts I learned from the cub convention story:

  1. Younger men are called "cubs." Not only does this carry icky mother-son connotations, but the term already means something completely different in the gay community.
  2. Apparently, cougar conventions require grown women to don nightclub attire, from "a tight pink tank top and short black skirt" to "a black ruffled outfit."
  3. This quote, from event organizer Rich Gosse: "There is absolutely no romance in the lives of single, middle-aged women in America, because there is simply no one to date." Way to look on the bright side!
  4. Also, women outlive men by five years on average. So fear of being alone begets the pursuit of baby-faced men.
  5. There exits an International Cougar Cruise, which the winner of the Cutest Cub award gets to attend.
  6. The Cutest Cub award looks just like a Burger King crown. So I guess this is officially a trend now?

What's your take on the Cub Convention?
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Venus1 Venus1 7 years
Courgartini, well done! I take my hat off to you.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Another one for the "why does this 'phenomenon' need a NAME?" older men date younger women ALL OF THE TIME, and they aren't called anything special. And a convention? gimmie a freaking break !
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
schnuppi schnuppi 7 years
Why is there a special convention anyways? Big friggin deal, an older woman is dating a younger guy. So what, Im dating someone my age and I don't get a convention for that (not that I would ever want one)
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
Just when I thought there couldn't be more derogatory words to stereotype women, we have the "cougar". PUKE. Michael Douglas is about 1000 years older than Catherine Zeta Jones, what do you call him? Oh, yeah, I
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
An older woman with a younger man has not turned any heads for years and it's time to turn the tables. But yes, let's forget the labels.
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
Ugh, calling your younger lover a cub is disturbing. I'm not even going into how much I hate the term cougar.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
Redonkulous. Cougar is such an obnoxious name. What are men called who date younger women? Like women don't have enough hangups. We get to look forward to having stupid labels attached to us when we get older. Yay.
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
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