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Discussing Politics With Your Significant Other

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Politics is one of the topics that we usually avoid discussing with strangers. But what about with your significant other? Can you discuss politics in your relationship?

I used to date someone whose political views clashed with mine. I only found this out when I told him passionately about the issue surrounding Tibet. I talked about how I was volunteering with an organization that supports human rights and freeing Tibet. Unexpectedly, he snapped at me and said, “Oh, you are one of those people?!” and that inevitably led to an argument.

I had no problem with his point being different than mine. I was frustrated, however, because he seemed to disrespect or even not accept my point of view.


From that point on, he and I avoided talking about politics. It was hard for me because I’m very interested in political issues and I couldn’t discuss them with him. It was even more complicated because his dad was a prominent politician in the city – obviously, it was a touchy subject if I didn’t agree with his entire family’s political perspective. Since then, I have been careful to openly discuss my political views and activities in my relationships.

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tidakpedulidengananda tidakpedulidengananda 7 years
I'm more liberal than my partner. He used to be more moderate, but these days, he's turning conservative. He is more updated with politics and he's got many things he complains about and sometimes we argue over things, but it won't break us up.
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
We do discuss politics. He is a bit more up to date most of the time, though, so I like to listen to him explain things to me. We don't always agree, though. He is opposed to gay marriage, for example, which really drives me crazy. But it's just because he's never really though about's not this major debate here in Germany. I guess he doesn't really mind them getting married, but he wouldn't mind them not being able to get married either (if that makes any sense). For me it's a personel subject because I know many people effected by this.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I think it depends on how important politics is to you. They're important to me, therefore I could not date someone with views that lay on the opposite end of the political spectrum. It would be too hard for me. This also counts with religion (I am not religious and I could not date someone seriously who was). My religious views and my political views are important to me and I need someone who shares those values. But I have always wanted to find out what a Republican is like in bed...
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Yes, barely. :) Generally speaking, my husband is more conservative than I am. I don't know how we ended up together, and how we're still happily married.
cirrus1701 cirrus1701 7 years
There must be a mutual respect for one another, regardless of political affiliation. I have a great deal of respect for James Carville and Mary Matalin. They are the prime example of having a good marriage, despite wildly divergent political opinions. That being said, my husband and I are both rather conservative. I've become much more conservative over the years. (I even voted for Bill Clinton in my college days, so that's saying something. :)) I'm a bit more well read and diplomatic than he is, however. We do go back and forth on a few things. Sometimes, I just shake my head and smile.
sourcherry sourcherry 7 years
Yes. He's very smart and more knowledgeable about politics than I am so I really like to discuss the topic with him. We don't agree on some things, and agree on others, but I actually prefer it this way. I know we share the same basic principles, any thing else can be healthy divergences.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 7 years
No, I'm more conservative than my boyfriend and I get very frustrated because he's terribly uneducated when it comes to politics. He just tends to repeat things he hears from his friends. We don't watch the news unless there is a computer nearby so we can fact-check his statements. He moves a little further to the right every time we talk politics!
chequettex chequettex 7 years
When I was young and first dating my now-husband, we didn't talk about politics much, but I imagine if we had we would have clashed. He was more liberal than I was - I used to be pretty conservative! But as we got to know each other and he shared his views with me, I slowly became less conservative as I learned more about various issues. Growing up, I think I just didn't know much about the world and had just agreed with everything my dad said. Now, I wouldn't label myself a full-on liberal, but my political views have been changed because I decided to listen carefully to this wonderful, smart, caring man, who is now my husband, talk about the world.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
My boyfriend and I have the same views on every political thing we have talked about. We are pretty much the same people, just different sexes. It makes for a very easy relationship. Anyway, if we did happen to differ on our views, I wouldn't care and neither would he. If he wouldn't be able to just accept my opinion for what it was...that would bug me.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
My boyfriend couldn't really care less, and I only half care when it comes to most things, so it's not really a problem. But I'm *pretty sure* we more or less have the same views.
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