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A Do or a Don't: Checking Out Your Lady Business

A Do or a Don't: Checking Out Your Lady Business

Last weekend I spent a giddy night with girlfriends just talking — you know the kind of night I’m talking about! In the midst of our conversation, one friend confessed that she’d never really seen her lady business before. Immediately, the other ladies launched into their own experiences on the matter. I couldn’t help but think of the Sex and the City episode where the girls try to convince Charlotte to check herself out in the mirror — even though she was incredibly uncomfortable, she went through with it!

Personally, I think the more knowledge you have about your body the better, but is grabbing a mirror over-the-top? Have you ever examined yourself down there? Or does the idea make you squirm?


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Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
Yeah I've seen my lady parts. I'm pretty conscious of what goes on down there. It's my body and I have to take care of it.
mushaboom mushaboom 8 years
I don't understand how a grown woman can manage to go through most of her life without ever looking at HER OWN genitals. Hell yes I know what I look like, I first checked around the time I hit puberty. It's not gross, it's you!
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
My mom encouraged this when I was a lil girl... How are you supposed to know if there is something wrong with it if you don't know what your healthy vagina looks like? Its so important just to make sure its all good down there especially if you are sexually active. Plus I'm just curious about who I am as a woman. Its a very healthy thing to practice and all woman should take a glance. I hate when people get grossed out about their own bodies.
i can't believe girls could live their lives never seeing a part of their own body! i had a book about periods when i was younger and it encouraged the reader to look at themselves in the mirror. it also answered questions about the variety of shapes and angles...what's common. even discussing things like discharge. i feel lucky to have known information that otherwise i wouldn't have received anywhere else. why would anyone feel afraid of themselves? you're body is YOU! and for anyone who shies away from themselves needs to be more accepting. love yourself, it's the only body you have.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Yeah, I have and I agree with everyone else that it's important to look for yourself. It's just another body part, what's the difference?
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I am sorry if i hear about anyone checking anything in the mirror I think of Fried Green Tomatoes first, not SATC.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
Yes I have!! Its pretty too!! lol.
Angela123 Angela123 8 years
Of course! You gotta know what's going on down there
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
All women should know what they look like.
missyd missyd 8 years
HA ha Berlin that was the first thing that came to my mind, too! LOL :p
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Oh gosh I remember the first time I checked I was 8 and I was so traumatized I seriously haven't done it again until two weeks ago.. and I'm 19 now. But I guess that's why I'm trying to get used to it. :P I know I have to. It's just.. ew.
Berlin Berlin 8 years
How else would you shave? :)~
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
That's like not knowing what your boobs or your ass looks like, it's totally normal.
italianblonde italianblonde 8 years
I think it's a definite do. You should know what you look like and how everything works down there! I first got curious about this when I was ten, and I'm definitely older now and know some of my friends who have never even looked down there..
CYL CYL 8 years
Its your lady businesss! you need to know waht it looks like so you can keep track to make sure you know whats disesaes..cancers and etc
ladychaos ladychaos 8 years
I have. My "friend" is examined constantly for changes. I'm am super paranoid when it comes to illness.
graylen graylen 8 years
This would seem like a legit thing if you were still pretty young, but it's sad to me that you would be a grown woman and have no idea at all- especially for the gynecological health reason. However, if you weren't very sexually active or wore pads rather than tampons, I guess I could see how you wouldn't know the details. I'm glad I know the details!
Hootie Hootie 8 years
A do... For sure...
MsPrettyLady MsPrettyLady 8 years
Its yours!!! If you aren't willing to check out your goods, then why should anybody else! Take control of your own body!
bluebird bluebird 8 years
Knowing what my hoo-ha looks like from a personal perspective is super-important... What if something changes and you don't know? You can't always tell by feel if something is going on with your body.
annebreal annebreal 8 years
I hope people that squirm at the idea of looking at their of vagina aren't having sex. If you're not mature enough to face the reality and look of your own privates, you're not mature enough to be using them!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Uh - why wouldn't you? It would creep me out not knowing what I looked like!
karlotta karlotta 8 years
There was a time I got all paranoid about my HPV and would check myself several times a day to look whether I'd grown genital warts. I didn't - but I sure did learn how I look down there, IN DETAIL!
valancyjane valancyjane 8 years
Good grief, why would you NOT look at yourself? Even if it's not for self-love, don't you need to look to put a tampon in? Though even as I say that, I can think of at least one friend who probably has never looked - or only in sneak peeks. It makes me sad to think about women who think their vulvas are ugly. There's a line in *The Color Purple* from when Celie examines herself, about how she looks like a wet rose, and it's just lovely. If you stop and look at it, it's really quite beautiful and complex.
HeidiMD HeidiMD 8 years
In ten years of medical school and medicine, I have seen more vaginas than you probably care to know! :-) But, yeah, I have checked myself out. Admittedly, this is mostly because working in the medical profession has made me (and many others) paranoid, and I always need to check out any part of my body I think has something wrong with it!
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