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A Do or Don't: Friends Setting You Up

A Do or Don't: Friends Setting You Up

If you ask a group of couples how they each met, “through a friend” is probably going to appear somewhere near the top of that list. And it makes sense since getting to know someone as a friend of a friend is far less nerve-wracking than just trying to make conversation at a bar or the gym.

But just because it’s more natural to interact with a friend's friend, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to let your friends test their matchmaking skills on you. There’s an unquestionable difference between a natural attraction growing into something more and a planned set-up, which even under the best of circumstances can be both awkward and forced. So ladies, has experience been good to you in this capacity? Or have set-ups by your friends made you learn the hard way that it's just not your style?


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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
On a group date it's fine but not a one on one blind date. I'd like to meet a guy like that so you know your friends will like him.
havok636 havok636 9 years
me and my guy were set up by a mutual friend. he went to high school with her, she lived across the hall from me. and everything's been great. the three of us hang out all the time.
bellacu bellacu 9 years
It depends on the friend! My best friend had an awesome boyfriend who we all loved and I kept choosing the totally wrong guys....I told her that since she has such good taste in guys, she needed to choose one for me! She suggested someone and set up a night for a group of us to go out. We completely hit it off and are still dating 9 months later :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I've always declined a set-up by my friends and family. It's too unnatural and contrived for me. Not my style at all. I preferred meeting someone on my own naturally. There was no pretense.
Sporky Sporky 9 years
I've been set up by friends before and it's never worked out.
lolababy575 lolababy575 9 years
I dated someone that my friends set me up with, but they did subtly, just inviting him along to the lake for the weekend with a large group to see if we would hit it off. We dated for a few months and it was fun, but it didn't last. I didn't mind the way they set me up at all, but I think if it was like Greentea's situation, I would feel a little uncomfortable and might be too nervous to give it a good chance!
MindayH MindayH 9 years
I have found that married people love setting people up, but for awhile I was the token single girl in a group of young couples and I was suspicious everytime I was invited anywhere. Needless to say, I am still single
LizL LizL 9 years
I married my set up. My friend Jimbo from college set me up with his work friend. We have been married 10 months now and together for 4 1/2 years and have a baby on the way. I wish I could repay the favor to other friends...but I haven't seen anything yet.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I was pretty much set up by my best friend. I hadn't seen her in years, we got back in touch after I'd recently broken up with my boyfriend of three years, and she just 'happened' to invite her and her husband's single friend over to watch a game one night, and after 3 months we're very happy and still together, so it worked for me! :P Plus it makes it great for couples night.
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