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A Do or a Don't: Getting Emotional in Public

A Do or a Don't: Getting Emotional in Public

Last night I went out to dinner with friends and we got seated next to a husband and wife who were clearly having an argument. They ate in silence and then halfway through their meal, she burst into tears. Though I know it's impolite to stare, we just couldn't help ourselves!

When you take your personal drama out in the public, one has to assume that people will not only eavesdrop, but feel slightly uncomfortable, too — an awkward situation for all! Sure, sometimes our emotions get the best of us, but is getting emotional in public — no matter what the circumstances — a do or a don't?


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ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i think that it's probably a don't but i know that i've had my situation once or twice when it's happened. i get embarrassed when things like this happen, and i know that there are a lot of folks out there who do listen into conversations and pay attention when they shouldn't.
heartbreakerx62x heartbreakerx62x 8 years
DON'T! And if you do, sunglasses are a great cover up!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
agree with jenniferjane. Nobody enjoys being tearful in public, and I agree about leaving shouting matches at home. But if someone is sitting silently with tears rolling down her face and can't stop, I think it's really rude to shame her by staring! I guarantee you she doesn't want to be that person...
jenniferjane jenniferjane 8 years
We're human beings with a complex range of emotion! What's so scary to people about emotion? Have some empathy!
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I'm guilty of crying in public ... often. I'm just a really emotional person ... and it seems when my ex would say things to break my heart ... it was always in public. Even the run to the bathroom or go outside tricks don't help.
jessie jessie 8 years
i try to suck it up and not...but sometimes a few leak out. i really don't want to be crying in public...its sooo embarressing! but hey...i'm not the first to cry..and won't be the last!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
um, nourche - that doesn't sound like a super healthy relationship i'd not only be mortified if my boyfriend did that in public, but if he did it in private, i'd still think he was being a child...who behaves that way?
skigurl skigurl 8 years
it's a don't if you can help it, but sometimes girls cry and they can't help it! i cried in a restaurant once with my boyfriend and only the waitress would have been able to see (i wasn't bawling or anything and i was facing a wall) and it was kinda embarassing and my boyfriend felt terrible (especially cuz it looked like he was making me cry but he totally wasn't and is such a good guy) but i try my hardest not to go into public places if i know i might get upset, especially about relationship when i knew i was about to break up with my ex, he tried to meet me in starbucks and i made him come to my car! no chance i am going to let him catch me in a public place when i might feel like yelling!
fleurfairy fleurfairy 8 years
I don't even cry in front of my family, so crying in front of strangers is out of the question. But I know some people can't help it.
nourche nourche 8 years
A major major don't! I hate being involved in any kind of drama in public! Unfortunately my boyfriend doesn't mind at all and he doesn't mind arguing, crying and basically throwing temper tantrums in public (like throwing his coat on the ground in anger, hissing loudly at me in a restaurant...and everyone stares...ugh I hate that!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I would have gone to the bathroom or insisted on leaving. I wouldn't be able to eat a meal if I was upset anyway. I try and keep my drama for behind closed doors.
Meike Meike 8 years
I have cried in public but the scenario was entirely different. I've cried at airports on several occasions when I was parting with love ones. But couples who often take their drama to public places have serious issues. There is a time and a place and having it escalate to epic proportions in public can easily destroy the relationship.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
It's not the best thing in the world. It's really embarrassing to me. And it makes it super awkward for people you are with or around you. But really, I agree that sometimes you just can't avoid it, emotions aren't always controllable, and it happens. So it's not a huge deal, unless someone makes a habit out of it, b/c they just don't care.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 8 years
Don't. The exception is if you received a call about a loved one injured/passing or if someone said something very harsh. Then I can understand starting to cry or losing your cool, however leave ASAP, do not just stay in public. It is uncomfortable for everyone (aka strangers) involved and arguing in public is embarrassing.
HeidiMD HeidiMD 8 years
I'm not one to show my emotions very often anyways, but sometimes it can't be helped. However, I would NEVER start an argument in public! How embarrassing. It's embarrassing for the people around you, too.
havok636 havok636 8 years
i don't. it's pretty much impossible for me to cry in front of someone. i'm just not a public emotions type of girl.
candace87 candace87 8 years
Although I agree that if someone got broken up with in public or was told some other bad news, then I can see why they'd get emotional. Screaming and fighting in public is not really acceptable, though.
candace87 candace87 8 years
I hate seeing people arguing in public. It's not at all classy and I'm sure the debate over if 'you totally checked out that girl/guy' can wait until you're home, or atleast until you're away from a crowd.
lexichloe lexichloe 8 years
It's not like one wants to be emotional in public, it happens if it happens. A do or a don't? Of course, we would love it to be a don't, but stuff happens.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Thank goodness I chose drama classes over art :) I can channel the energy to a poker face most of the time.(unfortunately it makes you look like a bitch) But there have been times that even a header or picture on a magazine can set me off in a crying spell so I just go to the bathroom and pull it together. And then leave as quickly as possible. There was a time I was so depressed I had 'public day'...that was the day I made sure I was happy enough to run all my errands and planned something enjoyable to make sure I could get through it. Sometimes the songs played in the grocery stores set me off. It was nearly impossible but somehow I got through it. Arguing in public is an absolute no, that I can control.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
don't, if at all possible. sometimes though the emotion is so high that people can't help themselves. when we see this when we're out we ignore it. we've noticed it more lately, i think lots of people are stressed.
babysoftpink babysoftpink 8 years
If a guy makes you want to cry in restaurant when you normally won't . No one should be subjected to that much pain. I say it is time to say "goodbye"
Smilesp Smilesp 8 years
Generally I'd say getting emotional in public is a don't. If you are out to dinner or something and end up in an argument, either stop arguing and say you'll discuss it later or leave asap. Believe me, as a bartender there is nothing more awkward than being forced to witness a couple's private argument or drama. However, sometimes you can't help being emotional in public if something moves you. But if you are very upset you should go somewhere private until you calm down.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I'm totally against it, but unfortunately, sometimes it's completely unavoidable. My ex and I had several tearful fights in restaurants (well, I was tearful) before we eventually broke up. I hope I won't ever go through that again...
omilawd omilawd 8 years
I was eating out with my boyfriend, and outside the window, some lady hit a guy on a motorcycle. I saw him fly across the road and land in a bundled heap. You better believe I started crying! The waitress didn't know what to do, and I felt horrible, but I couldn't help it. :P But, as for my own drama and problems, I leave those at home. Or try to, at least.
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