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A Do or a Don't: Touching Pregnant Women's Bellies

A Do or a Don't: Touching Pregnant Women's Bellies

My best friend is newly pregnant and obviously we're all thrilled for her and anxiously awaiting meeting the bun in the oven, but like many pregnant women, she isn't feeling quite up to par. One of her biggest complaints is when people take it upon themselves to rub her belly, uninvited! While it is nice to have your friends and family members be excited for you, it can't feel great to have people ohhing and ahhing over you especially when you aren't feeling your best.

Touching pregnant women's bellies has always been somewhat of a taboo subject, but it seems like people just can't help themselves! While I don't know what it feels like to be with child, what I want to know is, is it a do or a don't to rub pregnant people's bellies?

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chelsea-loo chelsea-loo 9 years
i meant 14 weeks. sorry :)
chelsea-loo chelsea-loo 9 years
I am 24 weeks pregnant. and b/c i am a small person you can tell im pregnant. i have had to deal with random people coming up and touching me and i have found the perfect soluion for this. When someone walks up to me and without asking grabbs, touches, or rubs my belly, I grab, touch or rub one of thier breasts. If they give me a " what the hell did you do that for" i give them the same return look. most of the time they just walk away. on occasion they will comment on me grabbing thier breast and i comment back " i know, feels like your space and body is invaded doesnt it" then after that the say sorry or just walk away with a disgusted face.. But it does work and hopefully they will think twice about touching a pregnant womans body. :o)
lms lms 9 years
I didn't mind when someone touched my belly at all. However, I never had a stranger touch it. I think this touching is no big deal in comparison to what you go through in the hospital when you are having the baby. I had a bunch of different nurses touching me all over the place during and after for days....so much for personal space.
melda melda 10 years
no i dont touch and wont let ppl touch mine
Drewsfan Drewsfan 10 years
I love it when it's family and friends. If a stranger tried to do it, I'd have to go postal on them. There is just no way that's allowed. :P
precious_pets4 precious_pets4 10 years
When I was pregnant with my daughter, the only person I wanted rubbing my belly was my husband! Even my own mother didn't rub and hang all over me -- hell, she had been there too, obviously! I'll never forget the first time a stranger tried to touch me -- I was waiting in line in a store, the person in front of me happened to be a man from some other country (I never bothered to ask!) He turned around, saw me, and with both hands started grabbing at my stomach! I went ballistic! I started screaming at him, calling for security, and whacking him with my bag all at once! He was actually removed from the store because I made such a scene about it (like, really, it was the only time i had ever made a scene... lol... NOT!)
Huckleberry Huckleberry 10 years
I cried when my dad finally touched my stomach. I miss that man
loonyluna loonyluna 10 years
I think it is totally different. You can call the police if a stranger touches your butt. It's illegal and sexual harassement. You can't say the same for an arm or shoulder (as long as they aren't being aggressive).
Greggie Greggie 10 years
Or people could be nice by not invading my personal space. I don't get why the "be nice" responsibility has to fall on the pregnant woman. They're not the ones being rude. I continue to disagree that the comparison is "nowhere close to each other." The point is personal space.
dilsmom dilsmom 10 years
greggie, the difference between a butt and a belly when it's pregnant is that there is a baby inside. no one wants to touch your belly when your not pregnant, and I'm sure no one wants to touch a butt randomly either. The comparison is no where close to each other. I'm not saying that you have to let someone touch your belly, but at least be nice to people.
Greggie Greggie 10 years
I don't think there's a difference between a butt and a stomach at all. Personal space is personal space. Pregnancy doesn't negate that and shouldn't. No matter how much personal experience I have with random people rudely touching me, it never ceases to disappoint me how disrespectful people are of someone else's space.
Jessamyn Jessamyn 10 years
When I was pregnant for the first time, my landlord's wife met me and touched my belly without asking. It made me feel like REALLY uncomfortable, and no, I didn't like it at all. My friends asked first, and I didn't mind them touching me. I just want to be asked first, that is all.
belgagirl belgagirl 10 years
it is very bizarre and annoying to have someone touch you when you're preggo. that's great that some people think pregnancy is beautiful and such, but that is just such an invasion of privacy. I have 2 kids. the 1st pregnancy i had several random women at work (i worked in a large place) touch my belly... without asking. i wasn't rude to them. i was just taken aback and didn't know how to react. even my mother asked if she could touch! (maybe cause she already knew that it is weird). the 2nd pregnancy i had one guy - my hubby's friend touch.. it was kinda weird, but we were in a conversation and by the time he had done it, he realized it was weird and apologized. it wasn't a big deal. it was just weird. i think people just need to have practice some restraint and resist touching. they wouldn't do it if i wasn't pregnant... just because a baby is inside doesn't make it okay.
Aedammair Aedammair 10 years
I was psycho about this when I was pg. Only my son's dad was allowed to touch me! The constant nausea was not made better by someone feeling me up. Even my son's aunt reached out and tried to touch my belly once (ONCE) and I flipped on her. I had enough random oddness going on without people molesting me.
loonyluna loonyluna 10 years
Greggie, I think there is a HUGE difference between a butt and a stomach. I would more likely compare an arm or shoulder.
lehua4565 lehua4565 10 years
when I was pregnant with my 2 daughters and people came up and rubbed my belly I seriously got really irked. Even when my mother in law would just come and rub my stomach I would get irritated. I think for me it's kinda a common courtesy to ASK before you go ahead and rub a pregnant womans belly.
jocasta236 jocasta236 10 years
A: Don't touch me, I don't know you. B: Don't touch me period. C: Hubby, YOU can touch me. Wait, if I'm pregnant you already have... Be polite. And for those who don't mind about strangers, make them GO AWAY. Not even my friends and family could get away with that. And I kept my hands to myself until baby was born and about a year old. Jeeze. JoC
Tamma1387 Tamma1387 10 years
Ladies, you wouldn't just reach out and rub someone's child would you? Please be polite, because it is their personal space as well as their child. Yes a belly is a fascinating miracle, but there is still a person there with their personal space. Im glad to see so many girls here agree with me.
alillee alillee 10 years
i only touch a pregnant woman's belly if she's like..omg feel right here! i don't randomly go up to ppl and rub their bellies...that's so weird. is that what i have to look forward to??
Greggie Greggie 10 years
loonyluna, again I bring up the butt situation. If a random guy walked up to you and rubbed your butt, would you "just be happy" because he's excited about your butt? Just smile and let it be, your body isn't your personal space at all. Sure there are bigger problems in the world. But this poll isn't about them, it's about touching people without permission.
loonyluna loonyluna 10 years
I agree with dilsmom. What's the big deal? A quick pat on the belly isn't going to kill anyone. They are just excited for you and the baby, which should make you happy. Of couse, tons of random strangers always touching you might get strange, but if it happens every now and then, smile and let it be. There are much bigger problems in the world to worry about (in my opinion).
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