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Do Guys Mean What They Say in Bed?

Group Therapy: Do Men Mean What They Say in Bed?

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I had sex with this guy I knew for a while. I liked him a lot, I think that he did too, but he never really said anything nice to me. Then when we were having sex last week for the first time he was saying romantic things like "you're hot," "oh I sooo like you," and "sweetheart you are adorable." Very nice things, which I used to hear from men who really liked me and even were in love with me. I'm not sure if he meant to say them to me specifically, or if he does say this to any girl he has sex with, more like that's his bed language. Thoughts on what men say in bed? 

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li001sp li001sp 6 years
So this is a question. If a man is doing something in a sexual nature to you and he says to you while he's doing it: "now don't read into this." I know what this means but would love to hear the reactions of others.
LaSigh LaSigh 6 years
two times to not believe a guy- in bed and when he's drunk.
searching-soul searching-soul 6 years
I'm with Kate Athens. He got carried away in the heat of the moment. He probably did find you hot, adorable etc. at that moment. It's how he treats you out of bed that counts.
pax4pax pax4pax 6 years
No. That's an emotional moment and the comments reveal his current sensation and shouldn't be considered necessarily valid in non-sexual situations.
karlotta karlotta 6 years
jazzytummy jazzytummy 6 years
Take anything a guy you barely know says in the middle of sex with a grain of salt. Imagine the little head with a face and mouth saying "oh, baby, you're the best"....that's about how meaningful it is. It might as well be coming from a sock puppet. Agree with everyone.
Burkina Burkina 6 years
I think he is using it as a motivator to get you more into the sex. Empty words sorta thing. You deserve better.
KateAthens KateAthens 6 years
Sometimes they mean what they say in bed, in the heat of the moment. It doesn't mean that they still believe it after it though.
Choco-cat Choco-cat 6 years
that would be a no - if the only place he says it is in bed, don't believe it.
EvieJ EvieJ 6 years
:) at Pistil. If he only says it in bed, he doesn't mean it. Sorry.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
If that's romance then every creep I've ever met is a hopeless romantic.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
Agreed with everyone. You can only focus on what he does outside the bedroom, not in it. It's easy to say passionate, meaningless things when you're minutes away from orgasm.
missmaryb missmaryb 6 years
Don't read too much into it. It would be stranger if he said degrading things to you. He was in the mood and of course he's going to get carried away with it. Like chibros said, focus on how he treats you outside the bedroom. That's what matters most.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 6 years
If he loved you, he would express it all the time, not just one time in the bedroom. He said what he felt in the moment. There's no implied promise or future. People just babble sometimes.
chibros chibros 6 years
The real meaning is in his mind, maybe saying them of the pleasure of the sex or confessing what he thought about you. First of all, don't waste energy trying to figure out the meaning, just forget about all he said, rather focus on figuring out what are his reactions towards you after the sex day onwards. Those would tell much better. Know if he treats you better or like what he said, having meaning full discussions/ plans with you or anything good. Or is it that everything or most things he does with you revolves around just sex.
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