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Do High School Mean Girls Become Adult Bullies?

Yesterday a story was released on CBS News' The Early Show" about eight Florida teens, including six females and two males, involved in the filming and beating of another teenage girl. According to reports, "the teens' motivation for the attack was to produce a video that would become popular on YouTube."

The victimization of women by other women has sadly always been par for the course when it comes to young social groups, but this truly displays a whole new level of awfulness. While Mean Girls may have made this phenomenon funny, it's incidents like these that remind us that real-life mean girls are nothing to laugh about.

Though I hope that many of these young women will grow up and realize the nature of their shameful deeds, I can't help but wonder what happens if they don't. Do you think this behavior is something girls can grow out of or do you think they just become adult bullies? Since workplace bullying has come under scrutiny, tell me ladies, have you experienced bullying from another woman as an adult?


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stoptheabuse stoptheabuse 9 years
I was bullied as a child throughout elementary and high school. Then, bullied by TWO husbands. Forced from my job from female bully and admin too afraid to stand up to her. Now, I've been harassed and bullied from an old lady, 61 yrs old who has always been a bully and got away with it. She hits and kicks people, calls her 400 lb grandaughter in to help her and laughs about it. Nobody has ever stood up to her before. They don't want to be the next victim. Police tell me that "maybe I should move away". Any suggestions?
shernic82 shernic82 9 years
All of the mean girls from my high school got married early and have kids now, but they still live in our hometown and all hang out together...unlike most people after high school. I suppose they figured they were lucky to have people who were just like them and found it too hard to leave 'em behind!
Meike Meike 9 years
Teen bullies of this degree, I would say most, not all grow up to be adult bullies. Some grow up to be nothing at all because they're so dependent on the company of like-minded friends or putting others down to feel some level of superiority. That behavior doesn't exactly work in a college environment unless one falls into an idiot fraternity or sorority with no foundation for achieving some academic excellence.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
i think most of them grow up to be bullies but probably because they had that behavior modeled for them at home. at my girls school there is a family with 4 kids. the boy was kicked out 2 years ago, the 3 girls are such sarcastic brats. sadly 2 of my girls are in their classes and have eah had a turn at being bullied by them. at the end of last year of of them took it to far and almost got kicked out herself. this year she's a totally differnet child (she's 9). i was commenting to another mother that i thought it was odd because their mom is so nice and always volunteering at the school, etc. she looked at me like i was stupid and said "you don't REALLY think the mother is nice with 3 mean daughters do you? where d you think that attitude come from?" and then i thought about it and i realized she was right. when the choice was to either stop the bullying or get kicked out the mom took care of it. sad for them, how on guard would you have to be to live in a house where everyone was looking for the next victim?
juicylove juicylove 9 years
i would like to think that people mature and grow out of the "bullying" lifestyle, but for some people it doesnt happen. the bullying might not happen in the same way as it would in highschool, but its still immature and innapropriate.
bingkaycoy bingkaycoy 9 years
I don't believe that nor make it as a generalization. Of course, not all of them become "better, nicer" people" , but also not all of them really do change. High school is a period in life where someone is "young, immature and of course always burdened with peer pressure " where they had a lot to deal with "acceptance" and finding their own "true identities". The behavior of "bullying" in high school may be caused by a lot of factors associated with adolescence. It's not necessarily true that they will carry this behavior later into adulthood. I know somebody who made my teenage life a hellish nightmare. 10 years later when I met her again, she became a different yet a better person---a godly woman of integrity and value. People change as the world changes.
hbkduke hbkduke 9 years
I wouldn't go as so far as to say that people who are mean girls grow into adult bullies, however I do believe that those who have always bullied people and put them down have some need to feel superior to others. There have been circumstances I have been in where if you are not in the same social class or if you do not hang around the right people, others will still talk about you behind your back and spread rumors to tarnish your image. At least where I work, or have worked, rumors spread like wild fire - and as the same thing in high school - the ones that start them are always the same people who are out to destroy someone else's life.
TFS TFS 9 years
people bully others cus their jealous & want attention. its not rocket science duhh. :]
LexinesRibbon LexinesRibbon 9 years
Kristinh1012, in reguards to that, yes there are a lot of cases. I'm sorry, my internet timed out before I could make my point. What I meant to say was, and in reguards to this story about the teens making a tape for YouTube, not every teen is going to show signs of being this cruel or sadistic. you'd be surprised of the cases of teens in counciling and therapy who admit to wanting to do things just like this. As for bullies...well I think it depends...some grow out of it, some don't.
mstinalin mstinalin 9 years
I do not completely agree. People do and can change! I was a slight bully when I was younger but I learned it is wrong and now I try my best to relax and be nice! A lot of bullies I know now are bullies because they were bullied in high school or were not popular and they feel that once they are out of high school, they can take out their angry on other people and they think it is the only way to be popular. Not all mean girls stay that way!
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
Ok. We're talking bullies, not murderers. Most any "Popular" teen has been in a sutiation where it could be called bullying. There is a huge difference when these "bullies" take things to the point they kill or almost kill someone. LexinesRibbon, I know the case you are referring to. Those girls had serious problems. You can look it up on And you would be surprised how many cases there are like that. I think teens that take things to that level are beyond being bullies. I just think from personal experience when you are young you can make some seriously stupid decisions. You are going through so much at the time and you don't know if you're coming or going. Most everyone I know or have ever met will say they have changed a lot since they were young and admit they made very bad decisions at times.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i was a bully when i was younger, and now i dont have a lot of tolerance for stupid people, but i'm certainly not the mean girl i used to be especially not professionally...i'm not mean unless you really really deserve it
LexinesRibbon LexinesRibbon 9 years
There was a case, back in the 90s, I think it was, late 90s, I'd have to double check. Anyway, it involved four teen girls beating another girl to death, including sitting her on fire and leaving her to die, which she did. And while part of the case involved 'teen lesbionism', it was still only four girls involved. least two of them, to my recent memory, have claimed to have turned around and found God. A bit late for them, considering they're already in prison for their deeds...
madamsoho madamsoho 9 years
Teen bullies usually grow up to be adult bullies because it's worked for them. Unless something momentous takes place in there lives, bullies don't change. If they did....juvenile delinquents wouldn't become career criminals.
Tullia Tullia 9 years
Kristinh, I am with you. Through the ages of 12-14, I was one of those mean girls who treated others horribly, including my parents. It was a terrible time in my life, and I have since faced my consequences of my bad behaviour. I dont' know what happened with the friends I used to hang out back then, but I surely learned my lesson. The fact is, people grow up. So no, I disagree with this.
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
Oh my god that girl in the picture looks like one of my middle school friends...I know she went on to become a model and all and its been a while, but that is her face. How weird. Anyways, in regards to the topic...I think mean girls will still be mean when they grow up.
rpenner rpenner 9 years
I agree with Kristinh1012. I also think there is definitely a difference between the girls in Mean Girls and the girls who are beating up on other girls and videoing it. The bullies videoing the attacks probably do grow up to be mean adults, but the kind of bullying girls in Mean Girls do not. I was a "Mean Girl" (as in the movie), and I am definitely not that way anymore. I feel remorse for the way I treated other girls and have apologized to the girls I have run into later in life.
runnergeek runnergeek 9 years
i agree j2e1n9...they are not just 'mean girls', they are now felons..i would guess their future is not bright..and btw, if that was my kid getting beat up like that, you better believe there would be some serious hell to pay.
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
I don't really agree. Honestly, I was one of the mean girls. I used to cuss people out infront of people, and I made fun of people and I started a lot of fist fights. I am NOTHING like that at all. I couldn't even imagine ever putting my hands on someone or knowingly embarass someone. If I did, it would have to be for a reason that involved one of my kids and it would be something serious. People who know me now and didn't know me in high school would never believe I was like that. People I knew from hight school that I see randomly or that I still hang out with are shocked at the change. I personally just grew up. I realized how horrible it is to make someone feel like crap and I LIVE by treat others as you would want them to treat you. I actually tend to be the one that gets taken advantage of now or mistreated. Pay backs are a bitch right? I am very embarassed and shamed at the way I used to be when I was younger. I can't believe some of the stuff I've done to people.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
I think girls who beat up other girls are different than mean girls. To me, mean girls are just the snotty people who never really want to befriend anyone. That's different than being an actual bully.
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
adult bullys are the worst. i have encounterd bullys on sugar. nothing to bad... i mean how bad can it get? just dont turn on your computer. lol! if a bully gets a chance with me, they bully, but i really see how sad they are inside..... and yes young bullys turn into adult bullys.....
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
I remember a few girls in high school used be super mean to other girls, because "they weren't up to their par". These girls were siddity, but lived in the "hood" I used to believe back then that they would NEVER change... I've gotten an update on them and YES I was right! Nothing changed. They still believe that no other female will come close to them and they have it made in the shade... Needless to say, they live VERY delusional lives.
mnp mnp 9 years
It definitely goes into adulthood. You stay with the role because you've always been that way. I've dealt with some prissy secretaries here who think they are entitled to everything. UGh. Someone needs to kick their butts.
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