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Do People Actually Marry Their Physical Ideal?

How Does Your Mate Differ From Your Physical Ideal?

Scientists all over the world have studied how ideal body measurements correspond to those of real partners. Regardless of hair color or skin tone, Barbie's measurements prevail as the ideal female body.

Of course, that woman is as elusive as a real-life Ken. So who are we actually settling down with? Researchers at the University of Sheffield in England and the University of Montpellier in France found that actual mates — for both women and men — don't resemble our ideals in height, weight, and body mass index.

Yet despite men's Barbie measuring tape, women feel they're settling for less more often. So let's forget how perfect his personality may be for a minute. Whether he's bald or short, how does your settling soulmate differ from your physical ideal?


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genesisrocks genesisrocks 6 years
Well my "ideal" looks a lot like Johnny Depp. But my boyfriend suits me just fine ;)
stephley stephley 6 years
I wonder if people who insist on sticking to their physical ideal end up happy.
missy1632 missy1632 6 years
Well, my BF is not quite as tall as I THOUGHT I desired... All the men in my family are over 6 foot- so I was always looking for tall men... I am pretty much the shortest person in my family at 5'5... and my BF is only a few inches taller than me. Makes him easy to kiss though... without needing tippy toes or him stooping. So, i guess it all works out :)
chequettex chequettex 6 years
I never really had an "ideal" idea physically - I was more interested in certain personality types than body types or what the face looked like. I think it's men who are more aware of an "ideal" body they are looking for. Anyway, my babe has a smokin' hot body, er, to me anyway, so I got lucky.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
Probably would have less body hair...but I don't usually think about it.
mbibble mbibble 6 years
I'm so confused by this article. You can't marry an ideal. Generally, you have to marry a person and if that person doesn't exist, why is it considered a "finding" to say that people don't marry their physical ideals (which they would have no idea if they actually subscribed to unless they met that ideal in person)? Barbie's *proportions* are considered ideal by westerners [though I don't think anyone wants her "measurements"], but the author of this post said that those proportions are why is it postworthy to point out that people aren't marrying Barbies & Kens, who don't readily exist, left and right? This makes me wonder if the entire article wasn't meant, as other commenters pointed out, to provide an opportunity to judge our partners physically with a critical lens primed by the author's mention of plastic figurines that are apparently everyone's ideal. I understand discussing "types" that you usually go for and how they might differ from your current partner, but then why would a Barbie preamble be necessary? I think the whole research findings can be summarized with: "People Aren't Too Shallow to Remain Single Forever Just Because They Haven't Found Someone Impossibly Well-Proportioned"
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
Thank you Pistil, that's what I was thinking too.
stephley stephley 6 years
I don't think I've had an "ideal" - I've ended up with tall, but not because I was insisting on it.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
You're asking me to pick out my boyfriend's flaws?
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
He's pretty much my type. He just hasn't lost the baby weight yet (we both gained weight while I was pregant... ;)
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
I don't have a physical idea. I can get into pretty much anything.
pia pia 6 years
My husband is tall, dark, handsome, and with nice hands. I lucked out. =)
gingirl gingirl 6 years
I tended to date taller, dark hair/eyes guys, which is what my current boyfriend is. I had never really thought "Oh, that's my type," but I guess it was! But I'm the complete opposite of his ideal! He liked teeny, darker girls (hair/eyes/tanner) and I'm pale with freckles, light hair, and a bit more curvy. It's just funny it worked out like that
jessr1214 jessr1214 6 years
I'm short (5'2") but I've always dated really tall guys. Now my boyfriend is only a few inches taller than me but I wouldnt change him for anything! He makes jokes about how tiny our kids are going to be but I think we fit together perfectly!
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