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Do People Make Assumptions About Your Love Life?

I have a feeling it's just a celebrity thing, but it seems like whenever a single woman is seen dining or socializing with a single man, they're all of a sudden perceived to be romantically involved. In Jennifer Aniston's case — who was recently seen having dinner with Gerard Butler — I think the public just wants to see her attached, but does this kind of speculation happen in your life too? Do people automatically assume you're hooking up with the guy you're spending time with? Or do you automatically assume that of your friends? I'm curious to know if your first instincts go to romance instead of friendship like it clearly does in Hollywood.

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ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i think that if we don't know the relationship, then we're going to speculate. i hate when people do that about me, but it's just one of those things that we do. we like to make up scenarios in our minds and think that it's something more than it is when in reality it really is ok to have dinner with someone of the opposite sex and just have it be dinner...nothing more.
divinelight divinelight 8 years
This happens to me all the time. Two of my best friends are guys, and until one of them got a girlfriend everyone thought we were dating. But now everyone thinks I'm dating my other friend. It's funny at times, but can get annoying. Now that I've denied us being a couple so many times, I feel like even if we wanted to date we couldn't because I couldn't handle all the "told you so" and "I knew it."
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 8 years
people mostly assume i'm single - mainly because i have been for a few years now! and the majority of my male friends are friends boyfriends. although one pic i uploaded of me and a guy on facebook had people asking if he was my boyfriend, even though it wasn't misleading at all - we weren't overly affectionate or kissing or anything like that at all!
cjmara805 cjmara805 8 years
The same best friend got a killer deal on a case of wine (33% off) when we went wine tasting because a female friend of mine was working at the time and just assumed he was my boyfriend.
cjmara805 cjmara805 8 years
My best friend (who's a guy) and I used to be inseparable in high school. I now realize why I never was asked out! Everyone thought he and I were together!
pink-elephant pink-elephant 8 years
This happens to me allll the time. and I am always so frustrated by it. I have a few close guy friends that I will sit and just talk with and people will ask me if I like them or if we are dating...It aggravates me that I cannot spend time with my guy friends without people immediately jumping to that conclusion. I have one guy friend that I talk to more than my friends who are girls, and it always shocks people to find out that we aren't dating. I just couldn't imagine myself dating him, not that he's not attractive, he is. But I just think of him as my friend and it would be too weird for both of us I think. It's so ridiculous for both of us, We just have to laugh at them sometimes.
Vaadsfweytes Vaadsfweytes 8 years
I have an extremely needy friend who constantly does that. She constantly makes assumptions about which stage of relationship I should be at with my guy. It's rather stressful being around a woman who thinks a woman's life isn't complete with out a man to nag and whine that I am starting to avoid her.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
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Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
At least people don't think you're dating your own DAUGHTER! she's taller than me and I must look young for my age. Or it could be my sister, cousin...any woman. Just because I'm not 'attached' to a man. I nervous my son's getting so tall! Pervs. Next I'll be 'dating' a boy. :IRK:
italianblonde italianblonde 8 years
It does happen quite often. Whenever people (cashier/waiter) see me and my brother eating or just at a store together, they think we're dating and are like "You guys are so cute together". Probably because we look so different. But I also have a lot of guy friends, so we've been questioned quite a few times by family and friends.
babysoftpink babysoftpink 8 years
The inconvenience of not being attached is the gfs/wives of the guys you hang out also are watching out to see if you are hitting on their husbands, so just have to be mindful in front of them. I have no intention to take anyone's bf or husband but people just don't understand that. I have to be extra careful not to be mistaken. Also, you don't even have to act or dress inappropriately to be mistaken, all it takes is a jealous or insecure wife or gf, can people just understand that it is possible to have a close, platonic and non-sexual relationship between a male and female. Being married to a wife does not mean that the guy has to give up the close platonic relationship with another female. If I have a husband, he better not be the jealous type cos I cannot give up my males friends just because my marital status has changed.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
As for me...it's more ASS-umptions. I haven't met the Prince of Charmington or had sex until I do so (people who don't know me) assume that I must have some toys or a lesbian companion somewhere hidden in my closet because I couldn't just have patience and desire to wait until I meet 'him'.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I think it's more 'how' you hang out with that guy. If you're all over him and clingy trying to make it look like his head's magnetized to your breasts... and then when you're not dating anyone you must be seen working out and in a bikini advertising every chance you get...yeah. it looks desperate and pathetic and people can't wait until you are attached so your antics disappear. But if you are genuine and classy I don't think people pay attention; that's anti-celebrity for certain.
bluestar bluestar 8 years
Yes, everyone is waiting for me to find the guy I'm going to marry and try to turn everyone I date into that guy. LOL...it's not happening.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I always assume this about my friends when they're with any guy. But the thing is... I'm *always* right! I know when they're dating BEFORE they do! :)
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
YES ALL THE TIME. MY NEIGHBORS, MY CO WORKERS. ITS CRAZY. BECAUSE I HAVE A BF AND I HAVE A LOT OF FRIENDS. ESPECIALLY WHEN I AM SINGLE, LIKE THEY REALLY LOOK OUT FOR ME AND WATCH OUT WHOS VISITING. LOL. NUTS!
HeidiMD HeidiMD 8 years
There's not much to assume when you've been with the same guy for four years... haha. :-)
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I'd happily have eaten his dessert! He wasn't so keen.
LaBelleDame LaBelleDame 8 years
Always. Sometimes, it makes things rather awkward. But I think that you just need to try to ignore the gossip and live your life like you choose to... you definitely can't let what people say affect how you act toward your male friends.
Anniina Anniina 8 years
sparklestar, haha :D
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
Well..people assume u are dating if you two are seen in public spaces together often (that would make sense to me). I don't assume always but to be honest i don't believe in these girl friend boy friend bond without being romatically linked, call me old school but to me people always end up flirting big time and sometimes it gets too complicated. I am not saying you can't be friends I'm just saying you can't be best friends.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I had a gay friend visit from America in April and we went to several meals out. Each time the waiting staff assumed we were dating and offered us things like one spoon for his dessert and things like that. ;P
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
well, while i side with the opinion that those assumptions shouldn't be made, from my own experience they tend to be true. at least in my own case.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
comment example: (after my coworker saw me and workguy in the elevator together at about 1pm): "were you just at a meeting or lunch.....?" "lunch" "ooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" *said with a knowing tone like we didn't run home and do it at lunchhour or anything - calm yourself!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
at work i have coffee and lunch with a colleague sometimes...we're both young (me 25, he 35) but he's married with child...and we're just friends/coworkers, he helps me out on some work-related files and also on career stuff when i was trying to get permanent...we get along because we're two of the only young people at our office and whenever people see us out having coffee or whatever i get random comments made that make our friendship seem "fishy" but its not my fault the guy i connect with at work happens to be young and hot, and so do i....it's annoying...cuz i don't want to be seen as a homewrecker!!
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