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Do Tell: Advice from the Future

We've all given someone advice and we've all of us received it. So much of how we learn and grow, however, comes from discovering our own wisdom, our own way. Still, it seems as though a good many of the bumps and bruises might be avoided if we could, and would, learn from the experiences of others.

If you could give your 20-year-old self a piece of advice from yourself now -- and your young self would be able to hear it & believe it -- do tell, what would you say?

i-heart-monster i-heart-monster 10 years
Don't feel guilty about putting yourself first. There is only so much you can give without receiving something in return. Oh, and ditch the credit cards, they're no good.
juliet juliet 10 years
This is great advice to read - thank you all so much -
bpjedi bpjedi 10 years
Sounds like you're in the middle of something, AccordingtoTalia. Good luck with whatever you're about to do! :)
AccordingtoTalia AccordingtoTalia 10 years
WOW, bp, your comment has ALOT of significance for my life...and actually today specifically! Im going to take OUR advice!
Origasmi Origasmi 10 years
1- If you want to achieve something, you will have to work hard. 2- Learn to respect, love and know yourself. 3- Don’t be so hard on yourself. 4- Believe in yourself. And last but not least… 5- Having sex with meaningless guys won’t fill your need for love.
bpjedi bpjedi 10 years
1) Avoid guys obsessed with fanciful sports (ultimate frisbee) and jam bands that most have to be under the influence to enjoy. 2) Avoid photographers, chemistry be damned. 3) Apply for the honors program and then fellowships--people will actually pay you to read and write about things you already enjoy reading about. 4) Don't cut off your dreadlocks once you've started growing them; you'll realize you're cuter with long hair in your late 20s! 5) When it gets too stressful, quit that horrible office job you'll get to make ends meet while figuring out what you really want to do with your life (applying to grad school, in my case), and find something else to pay the bills for a while; it won't be your career anyway. I had fun when I was 20, and I'm certainly happy with where I've ended up, but it would be pretty tempting to give myself some advice if I could. Most of it would be pretty specific, but I think #5 could apply to more people. I definitely think it is worth going through some hardships in a job that is a stepping stone for your career, but stressing over one that doesn't help you make any strides towards your ultimate career goal just isn't worth it.
AccordingtoTalia AccordingtoTalia 10 years
I would tell my 20-year old self 2 very important things: 1. Change your major to can get into law school with ANY degree, and you'll need the writing cred later! 2. Don't believe him when he says he loves you....its NOT forever!
BKNYGal BKNYGal 10 years
Psssh...ditto ^^^^
titere609 titere609 10 years
What a fabulous question...I would tell myself NOT to get married, to take some time to get to know myself, and to follow my passions. to work hard to have the career that I always dreamed of, and earned a degree in.
krEnElk krEnElk 10 years
i would tell myself that working three jobs and having no savings account to show for it is stupid, focus more on school and studying for the LSAT, getting drunk is not everything, and give your boyfriend some space!
krisua krisua 10 years
I would push myself concentrating more on my studies and less on personal life.
eliza-n-me eliza-n-me 10 years
Saving money is good! But still, you should spend what it takes to care for yourself, dress and groom well. Listen to other people and don't think about yourself too much! Work hard. That way great friendships just happen... And everything else...
xxbrittney xxbrittney 10 years
still being under 20, this is all great advice to read. i feel like younger and younger girls are recieving more pressures at younger ages. since the time i was 15, i never felt like a normal 15 yr old, and i wish i would have lived life at the pace i should have and now when i'm home and see the girls in my town, there are like 10 yr olds living like 18 yr olds, its horrible
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
I was in a troubled relationship at that point with an alcoholic verbally abusive guy I moved in with when I was 19. I would tell myself to stop trying to help him and stop making excuses for him and just get the hell out of there (which I did do when I was 21). I wasted a year and a half on someone I thought loved me, and thinking back it would have been better to be alone. I would tell myself to be patient, because the man of my dreams was going to walk into my life a couple years later, and he would treat me like a princess :) .
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
lol, yeah more of the same. that bob guy; don't go there. when texas comes up; take a pass. buy fewer clothes. take the money and start a savings account. use it to go on some blow out trip. living by yourself; do it now.
Bonne Bonne 10 years
I would say Run from that guy you met at the library. Run fast and far, far away
Thehills101 Thehills101 10 years
I would have told myself that it is ok to fall in love, it's ok to get a broken heart(cus it does heal) I would have told my self to not be so selfish growing up...I would have told myself to try just a bit harder while I was in school and I would have told myself to stop trying to "fit" in so much and to just be who I am...if u have to try to fit in somewhere then maybe that's not the place for you!!!! ♥јεήή♥
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 10 years
I would say don't be a doormat...oh and save your money.
andaman andaman 10 years
I would say similar things to myself. I think I should have taken things easier. I think I was burnt out quite young. But I have learnt recently the very best thing to say yourself is "no regrets because there're a waste of time" I think you can only believe in that when you've gone through quite a few life lessons.
RainbowCrayon RainbowCrayon 10 years
I would tell myself to stop pushing. Good things happen to those who wait. Now If I would belive it, Then I'd be happy. **~~Everyone who's anyone has been on sesame street.~~**
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