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Do Tell: Do STI Rates Make You Reconsider One Night Stands?

Although most of you say you've never had a one night stand, 48 percent of you admitted to doing it at least once. Sure, one night stands have a negative stigma attached to them, but if you're safe and smart about it, I say to each her own. But as we all know, STIs are on the rise and condoms won't necessarily protect you 100 percent. So knowing what you know, and realizing that getting tested is the only way to know for sure if someone is clean, tell me, do you still have or consider having one night stands?


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Anneleah Anneleah 7 years
I still consider 1 night stand I had a check up on it, but doctor says its fine. Just always keep it clean.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
I'm Canadian, I've had one night stands and I've never had an STI. Yay for me. LOL hithatsmybike, I like your style, girl.
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
Fallen, in response to your post, I'd like to take a quote from Grey's Anatomy, which I am currently obsessed with all over again.. "There is a land called Passive-Aggressiva, and I am their queen" ;) :)
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
Are those the only options, prude or STI factory? No such thing as responsible sexual human beings, is there? No, I've never had a one night stand, and even we share the it's-not-for-me sentiment, we have nowhere near the same opinion on the subject. I'm not attacking you, princess, I'm attacking your very ancient mentality surrounding sex and the sexes. After all, the STI epidemic has everything to do with people being whores, and nothing to do with irresponsibility or lack of understanding of the risks, right? I mean, syphilis never existed 100 years ago, and genital warts were unheard of before the invention of the birth control pill. In the past, no one had sex outside of marriage, and certainly never engaged in risky behavior with multiple partners. I think we should go back to those days, don't you? That's the real answer to curing AIDS! Fun fact: Canadians on average have MORE sexual partners (and sex more often!) than Americans but LESS sexually transmitted diseases, infections and teen pregnancies. So there ends your logic. What are you going to do now?
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
hey, better a prude than an STI factory... and didn't you already say you'd never had a one night stand? why are you attacking me? I already said I did and it wasn't for me.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
hahaha passive aggressive, much?
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
Right, because only bad nasty girls have sex on the first date. Speaking of women's issues, can you believe they let women vote these days?! Like wtf is that??
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Not sure - I don't include myself in that number, since I had a boyfriend for the three years I've been here, and my current bf lives in London... I just know that my girlfriends who date complain that a guy can expect to get laid anytime he goes out here (whether it's with you or someone else) - I guess I hang out with the "nice" girls...
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
Yeah, because women are all so pure and virginal. Don't NY women have the highest number of sexual partners in the USA?
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
LOL - there's a reason the Manhattan herpes rate is 1 in 4. The guys here are sluts!!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I don't consider them to begin with. I had one and it was the most loathesome and boring experience of my life. No thanks.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
well i think that the more we hear about the rise in STIs the more you have to be cautious for yourself because those things are forever wehn just one night is just one night.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I wouldn't have sex with a man I just met unless I'm charging him and I have no desire to prostitute my body for money. So no, STDs or not, I wouldn't have a one night stand. I couldn't stand myself.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
I dont see how "clean" is offensive. I could understand if Dear had actually referred to people with STIs as "dirty" but referring to the opposite as "clean" doesnt automatically mean people with STIs are "dirty." Maybe you're projecting?
Oy! :notworthy: You're too good sometimes. Anyway, the herpes rate in Manhattan is 1:4, need i say more? Fine, i'm worth so much more. I'm no one's piece.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
I wouldn't, it's just too risky. Especially because I live in RSA and uuuh well, we have the highest HIV stats in the world.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
hahaha BINGO hithatsmybike!
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
shameless plug for safety here: GET THE GARDASIL SHOT! Everyone! Studies even show it can help people that already have HPV because it can protect against other strains of the virus. Because HPV is causes the majority of cervical cancers, it's really important to protect yourself. brown_eyed_grrl, love how you insist people that have STI's are clean but women who have abortions are dirty! Should I let someone else have the chance to say it? Oh nevermind, I'll just throw it out theremyself: HYPOCRITE. So much for being on team I'm-not-insensitive.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 8 years
karebear--It's good to ask about sexual history, but there's no way to know if a man has HPV, and a condom isn't even 70 percent effective against HPV transmission. You won't even know who gave it to you because it can be dormant for up to ten years. I've heard the term "clean" used for drug addicts, but I think it is insensitive to use it in reference to someone who has a STD. I've slept with one ex-boyfriend and my now-husband, and despite doing everything smart to prevent both pregnancy and STDs (using BC and a condom), I got HPV. I now test negative, but are you telling me that I'm not "clean," yet a woman I know who has had three abortions and has slept with over 25 men IS clean? She's had numerous one-night stands, and I've never had one, both because of STDs and because I've never had any interest in casual sex. It's second-nature to a lot of people to say a lot of things that are insensitive, but that doesn't make it okay.
miriah15 miriah15 8 years
Absolutely. But sometimes I just can't help myself, definitely have to ALWAYS use a condom though
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
northofhere just because YOU are offended by the word "clean" doesnt mean other people are. Saying that DearSugar isnt "progressive" just because she uses a word that is politically correct in majority of situations but just happens to offend a seldom few is kind of an over-reaction, dont you think?
northofhere northofhere 8 years
Saying "clean" DOES imply that if a person has STIs, they're therefore dirty. Just because you have friends who aren't offended by it doesn't mean anything -- they don't speak for everyone. That's like saying some black people aren't offended by racist terms, or some women aren't offended by sexism. People with STIs are already stigmatized against in this country, why make it worse? I have oral herpes, and even though I got it as a kid, I've still been harshly judged for it.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I guess maybe in a world with no STIs and no serious stigma about one-night stands, and if I [personally] could keep emotional attachment separate from sex, I *might* consider a ONS. But in the real world, absolutely no way. As you've said, there's a lot of people running around with STIs [and some don't know it!] and condoms aren't 100% effective at protecting you from contracting them. I don't want to expose myself to that. Protecting my general health outweighs anything positive I might gain from having an ONS.
meechie meechie 8 years
Even if I wasn't in a monogamous relationship I wouldn't because I'm convinced that most guys have something just because they are usually wreck less and have NEVER been tested for STI's
karebear karebear 8 years
Ever since I realized that you can get HPV and other STIs even with the use of a condom, I won't have a one night stand...or sex with anyone whose medical history I don't know. I wasn't keen on one night stands and the like before I was educated about these STIs, but I certainly didn't realize how much I could be at risk. I don't want to have sex without love as it is, never mind doing it AND compromising my health.
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