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Do Tell: Do You Start With a Clean Slate?

There's no use for little black books anymore — we all have cell phones or PDAs to log phone numbers and keep track of our dates. But what are you supposed to do with all that information when you finally meet someone you want to be monogamous with? Are you expected to erase your history and start with a clean slate for your new guy or do you think it's OK to keep future possibilities (either for you or a friend) on record just in case? I'm torn on this one so ladies, do tell, do you erase old numbers in hopes of starting a fresh future? And how would you feel if your man kept his old flirt buddies just a call or text away?


LadyP LadyP 9 years
I have been married for 4 years so I'm having a hard time remembering what I did when I used to date. I think I kept old numbers in my phone for a little bit, and then after time I got rid of them.
lizlee89 lizlee89 9 years
I used to have like over 200 phone numbers in my cell - of former dates, bfs, friends, aquantainces, etc. I never bothered to look at if I really need these numbers. When was the last time I talked to that person. From then on, I always got rid of the phone number of any person who I haven't talked to in a year. So, I just think, it's not about wanting to keep a guy's number "just in case," but only holding on to the people that matter.
Jessie-M Jessie-M 9 years
I tend to change phones a lot and just put in the numbers that I can remember/of people I see a lot and remember to ask them for their number again. And of course I remember to put in 'stalker' numbers so I can ID them and avoid their calls :) For me, numbers in my bf's phone are his deal and I have no say in them...but of course I'm none too pleased if I see something 'Roxy' or 'Sammi' in his contact list....especially when I see a name in there that I know is a person he saw a few times when we had a 'break' for about 2 months last year. I give him an extra dirty look and he deletes them himself :P My bf's best friend is a notorious womanizer, and his contact list is the funniest i've ever seen! "Amanda brunette", "Amanda red shirt", "Blaire tongue ring", "Julia(hot librarian)" "Nicole (nice *ss)".... LOL
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 9 years
Total booty calls - Delete Those Fine line not really friends - delete Friends regardless of gender or prior relationship status - keep But that's just me I guess.
lily8206 lily8206 9 years
I don't typically keep people in my phone that would be a problem in a relationship. If I had booty call guys on standby, then ya I'd probably get rid of the numbers seeing as I wouldn't need them anymore, but that's not a problem for me.
Pistil Pistil 9 years
I don't care who he has on his phone... Me, I delete numbers every so often of people I never talk to any more and don't plan on talking to. I did have a few numbers that I kept just for the sake of being able to ID the caller (stalker). I have a girlfriend who had a pretty big collection of numbers on her old phone... names we weren't really sure of, so we called some of them up for fun (one of them was a guy she possibly met at a bar a few months ago). We think his girlfriend answered :)
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
lol. sometimes i have soo many numbers (not from guys i dated) but from business and networking. so if i didn't delete you when you were exposed as a loser, your number just sits there. and if i went through my blackberry, i might not even know who you are. i might have like 5 justins in my phone. are you Justin the bad date, or Justin the photographer??? and as for deleting or wanting my guy to delete numbers; it's none of my business what's in his phone. just like it's none of his business who is in mines. i'm not one of those paranoid girlfriends who snoop, so for all i know there is a list of numbers to call girls and strawberries (crack wh*res).
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
I'm with indigo & kathleen. I think after the new relationship has turned into something serious and there is most likely a future...then its time to delete. But then again, I do that with all people I go a long time without talking to...not just guys.
treble8705 treble8705 9 years
I also keep some numbers, but I do belueve in getting rid of numbers for people who don't support the chanage in your life, male or female, because haters can cause major friction in a relationship. Also, don't keep numbers of people that notably antagonize your partner, even if they are friends. If they can't respect the relationship, they aren't true friends.
stefsprl stefsprl 9 years
If it was a serious relationship that didn't end well and I knew we would never talk again, I'd delete it. I have a few numbers of ex-boyfriends or even flirtations from the past, and I don't think my husband cares...I know he's got a few ex-girlfriends that he is still friendly with, and their numbers are in his phone, too. Has anyone ever had a s/o get jealous because of numbers in their phone? My ex-bf told me that he didn't think it was right that I had so many guys' numbers in my phone, especially when he didn't have very many girls' numbers in his... :oy: A couple of them may have been old boyfriends, but for the most part they were just friends, and he still brought it of the many, many reasons that he is an ex!
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 9 years
After my boyfriend and I were dating for about a year I went through my contacts and deleted all the ex's, people i enver talked to, or people i just got numbers for and didnt really know I definitely like to start or continue with a clean slate
JennyJake JennyJake 9 years
I washed my bf's phone, and it destroyed his address book, I deleted my entire address book and just imputed numbers that I had from memory. Fair's fair!
rpenner rpenner 9 years
I just couldn't be bothered to go through and delete the contact information. It would have nothing to do with the boyfriend. I have contact information in pda for people I haven't talked to in years!
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
I think you keep them at first because you want a fall-back plan just in case things don't work out...but I think over time you get more comfortable with your relationship and you start to delete the numbers and names. It's probably about time I went through my phone book and started erasing...I think I'll do that now = )
designerel designerel 9 years
Haha, as nice as it would to just clear out your address book once you've met someone you really like, you have to be realistic. Shiz happens! Besides... you can be friends with these people, right? I certainly wouldn't expect him to clear out his address book. But that's just me.
savilerow085 savilerow085 9 years
I think someone you once dated but you stayed friends with who you know in your heart, will never be back in your life "romanticly" than sure, keep the numbers. I kept 2 old bf's numbers in my phone because i cared for their families as well, and figured incase something happens in their families, you have a number to call. Also I like to at least say Merry Christmas or happy holidays as a text, so ill keep them on the mega-text caller list.
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