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Do Tell: Do You Want The Bottom Line Right Off The Bat?

When you first start dating someone, all those intense feelings leads to wishful thinking about a possible future full of nothing but hope and adoration. It's those emotions that make the beginning of a relationship so amazing, but as we all know, no relationship is perfect — every couple has their ups and downs. But if you could learn the bottom line about your new man right off the bat, and fast forward through the awkward getting to know you phase, would you? I happen to think it's the trial and error period that makes it all so exciting, even if it doesn't work out. But what about you? Do tell, if you could know the bottom line right off the bat, would you want to look in the crystal ball?


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porkypocky porkypocky 9 years
hell yes. i'm looking for a future hubby here, so don't waste my time! :D
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I hate wasting time. I told my current boyfriend that I'm not the friend with benefits. I had to end a friendship with a guy that same week because he didn't know. So, before we even thought about dating, I could tell he was interested in me. Before he asked me out, I made sure to tell him I took relationships seriously. During our past fights, I've had to bring this up again because we're both still young, and he doesn't even think past this week...Well, he used to not think past today.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
Nope - I agree with sugarbritches and couldn't have said it any better! Learning and growing together makes our relationship stronger - if we weren't meant to be in the end, then I'd rather come to this conclusion myself and even experience the heartbreak (haha I say this now!) to live and learn rather than to expect something either positive or negative.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
Ladies, know your worth. Don't let your goodies get plundered and your time wasted. Bottom line!
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I have been SO lucky with my boyfriend because we've known each other for nearly 2 years and have seen each other in all kinds of states! It's wonderful because it meant we could skip straight past the "getting to know" stage and straight into the lovely stuff that comes after. :)
kendalheart kendalheart 9 years
No way!!! I love the beginning of a relationship! It's so exciting getting to know that person and what they are all about. Of course if he is a piece of #hit that would be lovely to know but otherwise I am infatuated with that getting to know someone phase, it's wonderful!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Lovely_1 I agree. Although almost 26 I owuld kind of like to know SOME things upfront...
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I really wish I'd known that my current bf had issues with wanting to get married. I'd assumed from the way that he talked that we wouldn't be on like the ten year plan, but man, I was apparently way off base. Now I'm kind of stuck, because I love him dearly and want to be with him, but I also want to get married and start a family before I am 35.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
It really depends on where I am in life... there were times I just wanted to date so it really didn't matter where things were going to go with each guy because I really wasn't in a position to take things there if even something serious was potentially down the line. But when I want a relationship, then yes, I think it's important to have the same values about long-term relationships.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
My current boyfriend told me pretty much on the second date that he wanted a long term relationship and didn't want to just date. It was pretty refreshing since I wasted three years with a guy who would switch from wanting to just date me off and on to wanting to marry me to breaking up with me, and the cycle continued...
skigurl skigurl 9 years
yah for sure i would!
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
YES! It would save me so much trouble if I end up falling for the guy.
Meike Meike 9 years
Oops...I read that too fast. *cough* Actually, no, I would not like to know about the future but I did ask all the 'awkward' questions up front. That's as close to the crystal ball I would get.
Meike Meike 9 years
Yup, right off the bat. That's what my husband and I did. I mean if a lot of people are up for the mystery, by all means, keep doing it. However, having all the information laid out in front of you will save a lot of people the heartache of finding out he/she and their partner do not have matching values, goals and lifestyles.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 9 years
I wouldn't want to know. Life is a journey not a destination. Even if it doesn't work out, I'm sure I will have learned a lesson or two just from knowing him. I'm not afraid of making mistakes, only of repeating them.
mnp mnp 9 years
I'd want to know the bottom line right off the bat. And, my bottom line is if he has marriage potential. Being blissfully in love with someone who has the ability to love you back and for you to have a future with him, that's exciting, too.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
That's a toughie...I couldn't tell you. What if he was someone amazing...getting to know him would be a great experiance! But then again, if it was someone who turned out to be not so amazing...why waste my time!
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