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Do Tell: Do You Want the Truth?

I have always been one who dishes out and likes to receive tough love. I want the truth and expect my friends to give it to me even when I don't necessarily ask for it. We all know that the truth can hurt sometimes, so ladies, do tell: Would you want your friends and family to be honest with you even if it meant hurting your feelings?


mooshi mooshi 9 years
No i'll get hurt and stress over it and won;t be able to think of anything else for a long time sugarcoat it for me, it could work that way.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
Depends on what it is...if I am in a situation I cannot get out of, and they lie to make me feel better, but we both know they are lying, i consider that a sweet thing to do haha, but if it is involving appearance, or how clothing looks, or a bad decision, I want tough love.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I hate finding out that somebody has lied to me. I would likely not speak to them ever again!
chakra_healer chakra_healer 9 years
From my loved ones, yes. I always want the brutal, honest truth from friends and fam. Idk, my family are not a bunch of sensitive types, so we fire away and call everyone on their BS, In general, I give it as well, but find most can't take it the way those who know you love each other can.
demeter demeter 9 years
No. I can't handle the truth.
lolabella lolabella 9 years
please tell me the nasty truth. i have been lied to, straight to my face, by my new boss. i will never, EVER have any respect or trust for him, bottom line. even if you have to gloss it a bit ... don't lie.
tabloidprincess tabloidprincess 9 years
no because I am too sensitive. tell me I am skinny and that you love me.
oh-cecilia-baby oh-cecilia-baby 9 years
even if the truth may hurt, when it comes serious matters, i want just that - THE TRUTH. but i don't think i'd really mind if someone lied to me about my outfit being cute or something. hehe.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
I like that - respectful honesty. Sometimes if you care about someone you have to tell it like it is and that can really hurt. I have been on the giving end and on the receiving end of the "brutally honest it's gonna hurt your feelings but it needs to be said" truth before. Be honest but choose your words carefully there is no need to be rude. And let the person know you are doing it because you care about them.
onesong onesong 9 years
i want the truth. i also think there is a distinction between being "cruel to be kind" and being a truthful friend. for example, if i don't like a friend's boyfriend, i will wait until i have something concrete to discuss or she asks me flat out, and then i tell her the WHOLE truth--not only that i don't like him, but that i love her and it's her relationship and i'll support her no matter what. telling the truth doesn't always have to be bad--in fact, the whole truth can be much better!
kenziebaby kenziebaby 9 years
I want respectful honesty. If I ask, gently tell me the truth If I didn't but you choose to tell me, CerTAINLY be respectful I feel I am, and when I need to be uncomfortably honest, I am constructive be kind and constructive
melda melda 9 years
yes i want
nicachica nicachica 9 years
i'm going to go one further and split hairs . I think that there's: Honesty (which can be sugar coated) Bluntness (no minced words truth) Rudeness (honest but with no consideration for feelings) i think that bluntness can be taken to the rudeness level but not all rudeness is blunt. so yeah, i've been told over and over than i'm blunt but i haven't been told that i'm rude (not much at least!).
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
No. There's a difference between being truthful and being blunt. Being blunt is telling someone you think they're ugly. Yes, it's the truth, BUT it's hurtful and damaging. Nothing good comes from that. In my book, it's never okay to be blunt (especially among friends and family, who ideally, you're suppose to feel safe with). If someone has some blunt thoughts, I think it's best s/he keep it to themselves. JMHO.
Hootie Hootie 9 years
I'm brutally honest, blunt, straight forward and to the point. That's just the way I am. No games here. I expect people to be the same way. Don't Grin F*ck me, just tell me the truth! I do have tact though. I'm not cruel. Just very honest.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I always tell the truth and I expect the same from family and friends. If you don't want an honest answer than don't ask me. There are ways to tell someone without it being horrible.
Random2 Random2 9 years
I'd like to say yes, but that's not true. When I do lie to them, it's usually because I don't want to come across as selfish in a situation that I know is best for them. If I know of feel that what they're doing is wrong, then I'll tell them.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Pardon my mispaced tags. *blush*
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I want the truth. I think there's plenty of ways to tell the truth without it being the [i]brutal[/i] truth. When I ask my husband if a shirt looks good on me, I want to know an honest answer. And he knows that. I'd hate for him to say it looks great and think it avoids hurting my feelings, when it looks awful and I walk around looking like an ass.
fashionhore fashionhore 9 years
I have been told the brutal truth and been told a flat-out lie, and I honestly want the brutal truth because it will hurt much worse later when you do find out the truth. You can improve, or better your methods if you know what you are doing wrong the first time around. I am not going to lie though, I don't take criticism well. I can hanlde only so much and then I start to daze off.
barjar1122 barjar1122 9 years
YES. It hurts so much worse when you find out later that the ones closest to you were lying all along. You lose trust.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I absolutely want my friends and family to be honest with me. That said, I'm glad when my friends and family stay out of things altogether to let me learn my own lessons. I mean, if my mom had said "Hon, he's just not the one for you" about my prior relationship, I probably wouldn't have received it well. I think some things we're meant to figure out on our own. But in general, I give tough love and would only expect the same in return.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I always want the truth from my boyfriend, friends, and family. They aren't your true friends if they lie behind your back, and frankly, I think it is just wrong and bad karma. If you're a lier, eventually you will ahve to step up to the plate or worse, have karma come back and nip you in the butt!
Lippy Lippy 9 years
In theory yes, but in reality, it can breed resentment if the person telling you what they think is the "truth" goes about it the wrong way or is overzealous about it
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
If I never lied, well I'd be lieing. If it's a complete stranger asking me my name or something like that, you know those awkward situations I'l tell a white lie so I'm left alone... But when it comes to family and friends I never lie. I think there is a way to be honest without brutally hurting a person's feelings, although there is still that risk they won't like what you have to say but... That's a risk I think is worth taking. Growing up and trying to hide my veggies at dinner (you know whan you;re 5 yrs old) my father would always say..."Aimee you know I don't like liars..." and it's sort of stuck with me as I've grown up. When yoy lie you always get caught, even if it's a week later, month or year and I think the more time that's has passed it becomes harder to forgive. I think honesty is always the best policy.
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