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Do Tell: Have You Ever Hit Rock Bottom?

I often hear people refer to “hitting rock bottom” as the impetus they needed to pull themselves back up to the top again. But since we all come from different backgrounds and deal with our own set of struggles, the notion of rock bottom differs for everyone. And even though being in that dark place is never fun, often the changes that come out of it help shape the direction of life for the better. I know I’ve battled personal demons before, what about you? Do tell: When was your all-time low?


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pinket pinket 5 years
i have hit rock bottom,fell in love with a man who i cared for,gave up my job to move and live with him,fell pregnant,he decides to leave me then,yes with nothing nor support and 6months pregnant with is child,my family are not with me they live a broad,i have no house,i have had to go from living a high life to now not even being able to afford a nappy for my unborn child,i dont have a house,yet the ex is living life like there no tomorrow,with his ex girlfriend,he spends so much money,well he has millions so fair to him,am so down i worry for my child and i dont know how il ever get out of this pit,now i wish i had had a termination,maybe i wud have been able to move on,i cant as this child will forever be a a bad reminder of him,i regret keeping this baby i so much want to commit suicide thats the only way i see il stop this pain and hurt
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I've hit rock bottom. My best friend of two years split on me, just completely turned around and cut me out of his life. Taking my other friends with him. He was the person I trusted most, we always talked about everything and were quite "cuddly" with eachother, sharing hello and goodbye hugs. What really pushed me off the edge was when I hugged him and he just stood there and didn't acknowledge me. I cut myself off from everyone, my family couldn't talk to me, the few friends I did manage to make after he took off didn't know how to approach me about it. I felt completely alone. Cutting myself became a daily thing as well as shutting myself in my room for hours and not eating for days. My grades at school suffered greatly (I'd just started year 11) and I bombed out of most of my subjects. Eventually one of my overseas friends sent me an e-mail saying how much she loved me and how she'd stand by me whatever came. Then I just stopped. I tossed my friend out of my mind and out of my life, I acted as though he wasn't there and gave him less attention than he gave me. I just stopped caring about him and channeled my energy into repairing the relationships I could and making new ones. I stopped hurting myself and spent more time with my family. Very few of the friendships I made that year didn't last but I didn't care, I was out of the bad point in my life. New friends would come along, new things were happening and that's what mattered.
alexask alexask 8 years
i have, one big time, i was living on two opposite extremes, which can be damn near impossible, as time proved. i had also had this run when i was younger, but when i was younger i had yet to fail at anything so i still thought it was impossible. i think the advice that led me out of it is to watch out for illusions, the differences between how you are seeing your life and how life is really going. the sooner you catch yourself falling into or believing an illusion, the faster you can run away from landsliding into rock bottom.
vjj97 vjj97 8 years
I hit hard once, about 8 years ago, after one of the few members of my family that I actually cared about committed suicide. I barely functioned for months, went to work and stared at the computer screen, came home and ignored the outside world. Started having anxiety attacks. I finally realized that my job was in danger and that I wasn't doing my young child any favors. Not to mention that my relationship with my then-boyfriend, now-husband was in shambles. I'll never know exactly how, but I pulled myself back up again. Sadly, I think denial has a lot do to with it, and I probably could do with some therapy, even after all these years.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
I have hit rock bottom a couple of times emotionally and its bad bcus i suppress everything so unless ur super close to me u cant even tell. The last time my parents were even goign to pull me out of college and they didnt even have any idea..they just thought i wasnt eating properly lol..i completely snapped and refocused but I have been trying to stop myself from reliving that lately..i dont want to go there again!
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I have never LET myself hit rock bottom, because too many people depend on me and i cannot afford to do that. There are ways to recognize going down that path and to divert hitting rock bottom, counseling, family, warning signs.
Miggs0708 Miggs0708 8 years
I think I just hit it and finally have realized that. I have been drinking every night and after getting super drunk the other night, and getting into an argument with my brother, that this is not the person I want to be. I am fully committed to making the changes necessary in my life to insure my own happiness. My whole life has revolved around my family. My happiness was determined by them and whether or not they approved of me. I can't live my life like this anymore. I need to focus on me and let all the others fade.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I hit rock bottom sometime between the third year of my last relationship and after we broke up. I was doing drugs, ignoring my responsibilities and feeling suicidal on and off. I'm sure I contributed to our relationship problems but I was also deeply unhappy in the relationship and I'm grateful we decided to end it. I have much better self-esteem now; I realize he consistently undermined me and lacked respect for me. I hit real rock bottom in June with drugs and diet. Therapy helped a lot, as did reconnecting with friends, starting an exercise program, traveling overseas, and meeting a new love who is fantastic. (The latter happened soon, but with someone I knew for a long time.)
seeinpink seeinpink 8 years
Absolutely. Two years ago when my older brother (my only sibling and best friend) committed suicide. I was also dealing with two chronic pain illnesses (that have become worse since then) and I tried to end my life. I'm so thankful I'm still here, but at 22 years old, I've been through what some may experience in a lifetime already...
0fashionqueen 0fashionqueen 8 years
I know exactly how it is a saw the headline and I did not even read the rest I just had to comment. I am fed up with every time I meet a guy and conversation is great, but the guy is willing to pull out instead of making a relationship work. It can be annoying, but I keep trying and one day I will meet that one guy. I am not saying that I sleep with any guy that come my way, but every guy their has being something, but they never want to go all the way in to a relationship with me. So I have gotten tired especially after my couple of days relationship with this guy who decides to move a hour away from me with his ex after coming back from Vegas. The thing that pisses me off is that he does not tell me and I find out from a friend.
Chameleonizzt Chameleonizzt 8 years
I started partying way too hard, and I didn't seem to realize it. So one night I went clubbing with some people from college I had never gone out with before,and even though I recall drinking less than usual the following morning I woke up with bruises spread all over my body and couldn't remember anything. When I came out of my room I noticed only mom was home. She asked who had brought me home and dropped me at the door and why was I crying so hard (I didnt understand why she was asking, I didn't even remember crying) she then told me I had forgotten my keys and when she opened the door, I threw myself to the ground and started crying like crazy and wouldn't stop. that it took her and dad about an hour to take me to my room, put my pj's and get me to sleep. Then it turned out I had first tried to come into a neighboor's apartment (I live in a building) thinking it was mine so the guys from security first wanted to throw me out of the building and then when they finally understood what was I saying they had to take me to the right one. By that moment I had already thrown up my building's lobby. (And when I woke up I was wishing my parents hadnt noticed I had drunk!!!!) To make matters even worse I asked her where dad and my brother were and she told me dad had taken him for detoxification at the hospital cuz my brother had gone to a bar and someone put something in his drink and stole everything from him. To me... that was just way overwhelming because I never got to know where I got the bruises from (I've always ended up with some on my knees... but this time they were all over my body!) or why was I so upset! and that happening to my brother the same night... After that I realized I didn't need to drink that much when going out to have fun. I still go out, and even have a drink but in a measured way, that night really changed me. My parent were always complaining about my brother and I partying too hard and the same night, both finally understood.
wickedlanie wickedlanie 8 years
I've hit true rock bottom twice(had suicide planned out completely), and am currently close to hitting it again. I was doing drugs(which I stopped in June). I was put on antidepressants and I started feeling better than I had in years. But, I haven't been able to afford them, so my mood has crashed. I'm self injuring again (after having stopped for a good while). I can't bring myself to really care about my studies. I keep thinking I'll most likely kill myself before I finish school, so why bother studying? I live with my parents, and they constantly fight about their money problems. I can't really do anything to help and it further stresses me out. I just wish I could stop thinking about all of this. I've started thinking how best to end it: my worthless feeling or my life. I don't know anymore.
jennifur106 jennifur106 8 years
i hit rock bottom last winter...he started creeping up slowly in february and by april i was a complete mess (depressed, crying all the time, felt extremely helpless, nothing was enjoyable) and i wasn't able to pull myself out of it until like july! and when i say rock bottom i mean BAD. i was seriously doubting my ability to do my job - even when everyone around me at work had nothing but great things to say about my work. i almost quit my job and went to work in starbucks (not that there's anything wrong with that at all...but that would have been a complete change for me, not to mention a $40k pay cut). i started going back to therapy and over time i realized it was the girl who was working under me that was severely damaging my self esteem. it was shocking and confusing that someone could have such an affect on me! but like i said, over a few month i finally overcame it. has anyone else ever had a similar thing happen to them??
k-squared k-squared 8 years
I've hit rock bottom before. I never did drugs or anything like that, but one of my friends (who is a friend no longer) stabbed me so hard in the back that it crushed me. Before that experience, I never thought I had the capacity to feel so low and depressed. It scares me whenever I think back to it, I never want to reach that point again. I got put on antidepressants and go to therapy. It's really not as bad as people think it is. But it really is an ongoing recovery process, almost like people who go to rehab for drinking and drugs. I still have ups and downs. I don't think I'll ever be the same as before my breaking point happened.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
I am in the process of hitting rock bottom. I have done it before, and I know it will be a tough and long road back to the top, but I just keep telling myself to take it one day at a time, and I keep hoping that everything will work out for the best, even if I don't see it right away. Here we go. -sigh-
lena90 lena90 8 years
I want to study medicine and need an extremely good GPA. In my home country class rank doesn't matter. It's only the marks of the final two years (grade 12 and 13). Thing is, my school is known for giving bad marks - I was one of the top students and still had average marks. I was doing great at school (in comparison with my classmates), but I wasn't good enough. It was such a pressure. I was constantly worried and unhappy. I didn't sleep. I drank too much coffee. I ate too much. Then my beloved cat disappeared. My mother had to undergo another surgery. Everything went wrong. I was on the brink of a breakdown. I finally decided to retake 12th grade and spend my summer holidays doing nothing at all. I've lost 30lbs within the past few weeks and want to lose more weight until my birthday in January. I wouldn't say my life is perfect now, but I'm much more relaxed and I even feel happy every once in a while =)
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 8 years
((((irishvixen)))) what a story...inspiring to me actually. I also married young (18) and had my first baby at 19, my 2nd at 21. My first husband also cheated and ended up leaving me for her(a stripper, lots of drugs and partying). I was so low. I didn't hit rock bottom like you did, but it was bad. I had such a supportive family and group of friends thankfully. And, even at my age (39) I am thinking of going back to school for psychology. Have been thinking abiout doing it for years actually. LOTS OF LUCK!!!!!
irishvixen7879 irishvixen7879 8 years
I married young, at 21. Within 2 months I was pregnant with my son. In my youthful naivety, I expected that just because we were married we would be together forever. I tried to be the perfect little housewife, and I expected perfection from my husband. He was working a menial job in a fast food restaurant. Our little family was living with his parents at the time, and my husband hated it. I didn't like it very much either, but tried to keep silent about my frustrations. Because I was not talking about the things that were bothering me, I became depressed and started having panic attacks. My husband tried to talk about the things bothering him, but I told him that things would work themselves out. We did not have a plan to get ourselves on our feet. His stress caused him to lash out in the same way that his father had done when my husband was a child. He found a girlfriend. I discovered the affair when my husband decided to not come home one night. When I tracked him down he let me know that the only time he was coming home was to get his stuff. All of a sudden my life had been pulled out from under me. About a month later, I finally broke. I started cutting my legs with a butterfly knife. My mother in law, who I was still living with, woke up to my crying and called an ambulance. I spent 2 weeks in a state mental hospital with about 10 other people who had hit the lowest point in their lives. When I took my first breath of fresh air after checking out of the hospital, I vowed to change my life. I accepted that happiness in life requires work. I worked on fixing myself for about six months. My husbands affair lasted about a year, and when she left him for another man he came to the one person who he knew could trust forever. We have been back together for over 5 years now and have learned a lot from the things that happened. He is working a great job, we have just moved into a home of our own. I have gone back to school, and in a few years I will be a licenced psychotherapist. Helping others gives me such a sense of fulfillment. Hitting the bottom and then finding the way out was an eye opening experience for me. I would not wish it on my worst enemy, but if it happens to you, try to find the lessons in it and use them to shape the rest of your life.
stellargirl9 stellargirl9 8 years
I am at my rock bottom now. My boyfriend of three years has giving me an ultimatum to change my obsessive and jealous behavior or he is leaving me. He could have just left me but is giving me a chance to work on ME for us.....but I am petrified he will leave. Here is the letter he wrote me this morning: Ok. After the nightmare of yesterday I think its time we take a breather from each other. Lets communicate here for a few weeks. Its for the best. Do us both a favor and use your head this time. Dont freak, just go and get your head together and I'll be here, ok. Sorry it has to be like this, but it does. Im not taking anymore of the pain. Maybe a few weeks will give you a chance to figure out what you want. If not, then we'll go our own ways, honey. If you need longer, take it. If you truly look at yourself and decide you want to be healthy and happy, then we can have one LAST chance. Otherwise Im moving on with my life Tina. I hope you understand. I'll never be the guy you once made me. The way things are I could wealk away and never look back. Its up to you now. If you decide to not get help and take my advice in getting a life and a social circle, please dont bother to contact me. The trying part is no longer going to be acceptable to me. And if you need months you TAKE THEM. I'll know if your bullshitting me. If I see the same behaviour from you ever again Im gone. I hope you know I mean it. What love I have for you is fading very fast. Your stealing it from me and have been since we met. And Im ready now to move on in life alone. At this point its more appealing to me to walk alone. The question you have to ask yourself did I get to this point. We may have a chance, but Im not a fool, and Ive given you HUNDREDS of chances. Go find yourself and I'll be here if and when you do. Thats the best I can offer..
ayuninur ayuninur 8 years
I'm there.
jemison jemison 8 years
I feel like I'm at rock bottom right now. I've lost the capacity to care about anything, and although I know that I'm not being fair to my loved ones I can't seem to make one right move. I really need help. I'm too tired to even cry.
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