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Do Tell: Have You Ever Lost an Animal in a Breakup?

There's nothing easy about a breakup, but when you own an animal together, things get even more complicated. The way one loves an animal is like nothing else — your pet is your most loyal friend, the one that brings you instant happiness, and your favorite cuddle buddy — so if your partner feels the same way about your four-legged friend, who gets custody? Of course sharing it is always an option, but the constant communication makes moving on that much harder, which is why one person usually ends up saying goodbye to their pet post-split. I've never owned an animal with anyone before, but what about you? Do tell, have you ever lost an animal in a breakup?


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2dogsnomore 2dogsnomore 4 years
I guess I'm "late" to the party; but I did want to add my two cents. This just happened to me back in October 2012. My boyfriend and I had been together 6 1/2 years and three years ago we decided to get to pups since we figured we would be together forever. We lived together most of the time even though I sometimes lived with my parents during those three years for an easier commute to work. Long long story short he has the dogs, both of them because they could not be separated. I haven't seen my dogs or my ex in over a month. I could care less about him, but my heart aches with out my boys. I cry for hours a day missing them. I suggest never get a pet with someone unless you are married, marriage doesn't always last as we know, but you have a better risk of keeping your pet if you are married.
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 8 years
Yeah my ex got to keep our cat... I never missed my ex after I moved out but I missed the cat TERRIBLY for the longest time, and still do a year later. I loved that cat so much
HappyKate HappyKate 8 years
Yes, my kitty Mojo...I miss him but had to get out of that bad situation and there was not much else I could do.
PamiP PamiP 8 years
ugh I lived it and it was awful. we did split custody for a few months, until I got an email saying that was it and I wouldn't get the dog back ever again. I miss him so much, but since decided I needed another little dude in my life so that's made it easier. I don't feel like he serves as a replacement, but I have resources and love that another little shelter pup could use.
LisaNP LisaNP 8 years
Oh this JUST happened to me! I am devestated. It has been a month since the breakup and he said that we could share the dog. Then he started becoming more distant (another girl) and acted like it was a hassle to have to trade the dog off. The dog was a gift to him, but it was "our" dog. We had a huge blow out and I finally just gave up because I knew that the dog really belonged with him. It has been 2 weeks since I have seen my doggie and it is heartbreaking. I hope that this never happens to anyone else.
ur_momm ur_momm 8 years
my bf bought me a dog for my bday 2 years ago... but i know that if we ever break up, neither of us is going to want to lose him. that makes me worried.
bluestar bluestar 8 years
Aww...I never have, but can imagine that it would be horrible!!
Spiderlove Spiderlove 8 years
Omg... thank goodness my ex didn't take the dog he bought for me when we broke up. I think it would have killed me. I did let him take the snake we purchased together though... I don't really miss it, as it was more "his" pet than mine anyway...
Leanne1078 Leanne1078 8 years
Yes. The awesomely cute dog in the picture with me stayed with my ex. It was my choice, I knew he would get more attention and be able to maintain his happy little life better with him. I haven't even seen him for a year, I miss him so much! My ex and I talk all the time though, so I know what he is up to. It's the worst to lose a pet like that...
sass317 sass317 8 years
hells no he didnt get to keep them. I adopted two cats with my ex (I paid for all the adoption fees) shortly before I kicked his sorry @ss to the curb. After we broke up we were driving to have to cable changed into only my name and I said, "You know Im keeping the boys right?" he said, "well I dont want to split them up." I said, "good Im glad we are in agreement" there was no discussion, he was NOT taking them. He couldnt take care of himself or make a significant contribution towards the care of his son with another girl, like he could care for two cats. I took them with me when I moved and now they are my and my husband's boys
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie I'm pretty freaking messed up about it right now. The only thing I can hope for is that he'll realize he cant take care of her and give her back. :(
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 8 years
caterpillar girl - IM SO GLAD YOU GOT TO KEEP HER! that jerk... how can you abandon an animal for 3 years and just up and decide you want it back?! probably wouldnt have remembered him anyway.
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 8 years
yup. i lost my lovely little kitty domino in a nasty fight. my ex's mother absolutely LOVED her. I figured I'd let her stay with him because 1) i knew his mother would end up taking care of her (which she now is) and 2) because my ex was a psycho and i didnt want to have to deal with the arguing. I'm still heart broken about leaving her :(
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
While my ex and I never lived together, he left his cat (that he had for one year) in my care when he moved two hours away for a job, I had that cat for 3 years, fed it, took care of it, paid for its bills (he never gave me any money towards its care) He in fact never asked for the cat to live with him when he got settled. When we broke up, he asked for "his" cat back and I said "whos cat?" and he said "he is mine" and I said "prove it" I had that cat for 9 more years.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
I bought my ex a boxer for his birthday. Even though it was a gift for him, the intention was that it would be our dog. When we broke up I knew that I should let him keep the dog. Next time I'll think twice before I spend over $1000 on a gift for someone.
nutmeg84 nutmeg84 8 years
Almost! While I was in the process of moving out, my ex tried to keep MY cat, who I happened to get while we were living together. Took me by surprise because he had wanted me to get rid of the cat numerous times when we were together. It ended up being a bit of a hostage situation, and I was forced to pay him a couple hundred dollars just to keep what was rightfully mine. It was a pretty low for him to do, but I'm so glad I got my cat here with me! I know that he would not have taken care of him.
GratefulGrl80 GratefulGrl80 8 years
Yes :( I left my husband, and even though he was an abusive a**hole, I felt that it would be selfish to leave him and take our kitty Isabella, leaving him completely alone. In some ways that was the hardest part of my leaving.
missyd missyd 8 years
wow 356UIK I'm so sorry that happened to you. That is sad :( You should have your dog. If he doesnt really care, then that's a sin for the animal But what if the pet was paid for from a JOINT credit card or something? Oh I can see that getting sticky.....
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
Yup! Just happened to me last month. My fiance and I of over 3 years just broke it off and he kept the dog that we got together. Even tho I was her primary caregiver and her favorite (she could have really cared less about him) he demanded that she stay at his house because he claimed that she was his since he paid the $60 for her from the SPCA. Horrifically horrible feeling. I have nightmares about her being hurt and about how I cant get to her to help her. Its pretty sick, but what are you going to do?! Apparently judges will rule in favor of whoever bought the dog regardless as to anything else that happened. Even if the person only paid $1 for it.
psterling psterling 8 years
My BF (now husband) and I adopted two cats together, they were like our children. We knew we'd get married so we never talked about the "what if" situation but in hindsight, I don't recommend crossing your fingers and hoping for the best like we did. We're both really attached to our girls and would be devastated if one of us had to give them up.
missyd missyd 8 years
THIS is my biggest fear in the entire world. I have 2 little doggies right now with my LTB and if we split I dont know how it would go. Can't separate them....they go together like peas and carrots :p. But it is a huge fear of mine; losing them. I'd never get over it
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