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Do Tell: How Do You Feel About the L Word?

Saying I love you means something different to everyone. Some people throw around the term while others keep the saying incredibly sacred. I say I love you to my family and closest friends with ease, but in my eyes, saying I love you to a significant other is really meant for "the one." I know we're all different, so ladies do tell, do you wear your heart on your sleeve and say I love you every chance you get or are you more guarded with the L word like me?


JuicyDumplings JuicyDumplings 7 years
It's hard for me to say. I think I've said it a total of 10 times (possibly less) in my entire life - to my family and friends (never been in a relationship). I don't know...I've never been one to say it often, so it feels odd when it comes out of my mouth. Does that make sense? Haha. I even have a hard time saying, "I miss you," unless I say it silly like, "I meeees you." Haha, I'm weird. :]
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Anonymous. I like your comment. I read a book once that said love is just a concept. It could be true if you think about it. However you have to have faith that some people say what they mean, and mean what they say. They are not the intellects who can ponder and wonder in such depth. They simply feel and say so. Perhaps this can give us some hope and less skepticism in the world.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
I think I have over used the L word. I guess I always thought I did when I said it, but then maybe it ended and started up again for someone else? Oh well. I have also said it just to please someone. I sensed people saying it to me in a sort of reflexive way as well in my life. All too soon. Then also I get that from my family which is completely different than a love you for a guy. I guess I'm a bit guarded now. I tell my son all the time. That's nice.
TFS TFS 9 years
its over used in all the wrong ways.
ESPNgirl ESPNgirl 9 years
I think it's an important word, but I also think that it doesn't need to be said for someone to show it (which I prefer actions over words any way). I say it to my family, my friends, and my best friend, but I have only said it to my current boyfriend of almost 2 years, which took me almost a year to muster up the thought (which I couldn't get out!) before he put me out of my misery and just said, "it's all right. i love you, too." What a relief that he figured out what I was thinking! There were times when I thought I wanted to say it, but I'm glad I never did. It made that first time all that more special. :)
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I really don't see the big deal with the word...I say it to everyone. I'm not freaked out by people saying it to me, either. I think everyone should say it more often-- spread the love~!
pixelsugar pixelsugar 9 years
I tell my close friends and family I love them every time I see them or hang up the phone. It's important that the people I'm around know how I feel about them. With the guys I date, I try to keep in mind that at the beginning of the relationship things are fun and new and what feels like love may not actually be love. I tend to hold off telling my partner I love them until several months into a relationship when I have a better understanding of who they are, where they are in life, and what they see in our future together.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I don't have a problem saying the L word to anyone who I feel deserves it.
Meike Meike 9 years
I say "I love you" to my family. And, I've said it to two other men thinking what I felt was love but really, it was nothing more than a love for the attention. I was naive and even reluctant to say it because I didn't really feel it. I more or less said it out of guilt and obligation. Fortunately, I grew up and learned the true meaning of the word. Someone else here already described it as I would describe it. Love for a one true love...after finding him, I do wear my heart on my sleeve and say it to him on a daily basis. I love him like I've never loved before. The word is sacred to me, now.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
My boyfriend is the ONLY person I say "I love you" to. When I was maybe around 12 or 13 I stopped using the word altogether, my mother would tell me she loved me before bed and I would just say "you too" and eventually just smile or do/say nothing at all. It just felt wrong using it, so when I told my boyfriend I loved him it was after this really amazing exchange via IM and E-mail (no real phone access) while I was away in Ireland with him implying that those sort of feelings for me where there but not outright saying it, which got me all bothered (which I think was his intention)... then I came home and finally saw him, and he told me he loved me and I freaked out and almost had a panic attack before finally saying it back. Wasn't freaking out because the feeling wasn't mutual, I'd just built up this block about saying those words in my head... So, yeah... I only say it when I really, REALLY mean it.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
Hmm. I have said it when I didn't quite mean it but then I did grow to mean it? Looking back everytime I've said it I believed it at the time to an extent. What does love mean anyway? I know I'm in love now but only because of bad previous relationships shaking me up a lot. It's a difficult one.
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
I've said it once and got burned really badly. I'm still not over it yet, and don't know how long it will take me to get over it. I just have to take each day at a time and hope that I can get through it.
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I love you is serious it requires committment. I think people use it to mean Ilike you a lot or you're cute or sexy or gee maybe we should eb together for a while. I was always taught that love is the ultimate and that you can't just throw it around in any situation without being sure that the person you say it to means more than the world to you. I only tell people I love them if I would be willing to sacrifice myself for them and there are truly only a handful of people in the world I feel that way about
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
I think it's easy to mistake infatuation with love. I also think you may feel a kind of love for someone w/o being in love, if that makes sense. I have a deep caring and appreciation for a couple ex-boyfriends, but not love. I didn't know what love really was until I met my boyfriend. They say that love hits you and you "just know" a person is exactly right for you. I never believed that was true. I even inwardly felt sorry for people who clung to the hope that true love would come their way. I guess you could say I was highly skeptical of the word love. But love really does feel like a rebirth. You feel like your life is just starting when you are in love. Like you've been waiting on the right moment to grow up. Like you've been blessed with a gift of always having someone you can turn to. It really is a gift to wake up in the middle of the night and reach out longing for someone to be there...and then to find someone reaching out to you at the same exact moment. It's a rush of emotion. Love isn't all petals and pink. It's scary to have it and it's even scarier to think you'll ever lose it. The saying, "I love you, but I don't have to like you right now." is a saying I find to be true. Love is hard because you are trusting someone to take care of your heart, not to break it. Love is blind because you believe that person could never do anything to break you heart. Love is finding out that after the rose glasses are removed you still love the truth behind them.
melyshka melyshka 9 years
remedios: too funny because i thought the same thing when i read the tagline. my rooommate and i have been watching it and are now addicted. but back to the question. i can count on one hand the number of people to whom i have said "love." out of those people, one was truly the complete love of my life so far. i loved the others very much when i said it. i still love two of those people now, even if i'm not in a relationship with them anymore. but am not "in love," if you are one of those, like me, who believe that distinction exists. am currently thinking my new beau may hear those words soon. if i do, it will still be less than 5...
michelleannette michelleannette 9 years
i'll tell family i love them. but, the real love word is reserved only for my guy.
missbanana missbanana 9 years
ive only been inlove twice. and it took time for me to say them. but once theyre out, i say it lots.
klandrach klandrach 9 years
I think it depends on the situation, but I have been in love lots of times and have told the people. I don't think it has ever really burned me, so I guess I am more of a heart on the sleeve type gal.
ccsugar ccsugar 9 years
I've said it to guys I thought I loved, two to be exact... But it turned out I didn't love them. So now I say it to my parents, family, and bff's, that's it. I can't wait for the day when I'll say it and mean it and it turns out to be reciprocated!! :)
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I have only ever said I love you to two men. The first was my ex who I dated for 2 years...and I think we mis-used the word a lot AND I think we both said it too soon. The second is with my current love of my life :) He said it to me, pretty early (on my b-day haha in a bathroom!) but I knew he meant it and wanted to say it for a little while. And I feel the same. I really do love him. We say it when we hang up most of the time...a quick I love ya...and sometimes when we are laying together I just get an urge to tell him I love him and I really do mean it. Or he will say it to me when we are cuddling in bed or something.
1QTPIE 1QTPIE 9 years
I've only said it to 2. My ex of almost 4 years and my hubby now going on 3 years... I say what I feel that's just it.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
I only say it if I really mean it. I don't like throwing it around. It just makes it meaningless.
millarci millarci 9 years
I'm a little guarded when it comes to the L word. I don't say it too soon. I wait until I truly feel that I love the person. It doesn't necessarily have to be 'the one' for me to feel love for that person.
remedios remedios 9 years
See I thought you meant "lesbian." I'm more comfortable with that L word.
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