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Do Tell: How Do You Get Over Something That's Bothering You?

Do Tell: How Do You Get Over Something That's Bothering You?

We’ll all encounter something difficult in our lives eventually, whether it involves a particularly challenging situation or person, but learning to let go of the frustration and negative energy that follows can seem nearly impossible. Though time may heal most wounds, I still think it’s important to try to work through something in the present, too.

When I want to get over something, I usually give myself a good few hours of sad time before calling a friend for a vent session. Once all the sadness and anger are out, I feel a lot better! And if not, I opt for a plate of cookies and a good movie. That's my secret for getting over something, so ladies, do tell: what's yours?


RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
I vent to friends/family, mope around for a bit, write in my journal, eat, watch a movie/tv show to get my mind off it.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I have to talk about it to get it off my chest. Writing it works too but not as well. I have to talk over the same things over and over again and I'm sure it gets old fast.
nv27 nv27 9 years
I'm same as Ann, if Im upset about something, its really helpful to me just to put it down on paper. I think it works well because it allows me to sort through my thoughts, and usually I just tear the paper up later. Its better than dropping my problems on someone else, who has the energy?
Survivor8888 Survivor8888 9 years
I will be agitated until I have a certain solution. Usually I will keep to myself, until at least I have an idea where I'm going. If it goes for more than a day ... I will always think about it, whenever I can .. until I have a bit of solutions. If it's not going anywhere, I will casually ask people around ... without making it a big deal.
radmama27 radmama27 9 years
Write in my journal Have a nice treat, maybe a glass of wine Vent to hubby then get pissy when he doesn't tell me what I want to hear!
ann418 ann418 9 years
I write and usually I feel better instantly. Sometimes I don't even go back and read it because it doesn't bother me anymore!
lolababy575 lolababy575 9 years
A long bike ride/jog, stretching, a glass of soy milk, cookies/something sweet, a good movie, a nap, chatting with my friends over some drinks, and then hanging out with my friends til the wee hours. All of these are guaranteed to help me get over something, but any combination does a pretty good job too!
bingkaycoy bingkaycoy 9 years
First I write it out and then read it over and over again. Then I pray. I believe in God and love Him so much and He is the only source of my strength, comfort and peace. As I pray, I read my Bible looking for the verses that comfort me. One verse that comforts me instantly is , "All things work for good to those who love the Lord and called upon Him for His purpose." (Romans 8:28). Another is , "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding" . These verses instantaneously bring me to peace and lift me up ---knowing that what I have been undergoing is temporary and there is always a "greater good" that comes out of it. (Fine diamonds are refined by fire). The second verse I mentioned reminds me that whatever I undergo is way beyond my understanding and I don't need to understand it---all Ihave to do is to trust in my Lord and cast my cares upon Him. Insttead of asking "Why me ?" or "Why", I ask myself, "Now what is it that I can learn from this?" I believe there are so many things in this world that even the most brilliant human mind cannot comprehend because by nature , a human mind is finite. There are things that God allows because we need to learn to humble ourselves and lean on Him---He is reminding us that He is still God. Besides praying to God asking Him to take away my burden, I just praise Him for all the good things He has done for me in the past, and all the blessings I have now in the present. Praying gives me peace and comfort...that's how I overcome difficulties and emotional problems.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I go ride my horse. Has worked like a charm for almost 20 years (there's been different horses along the way, of course)
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I write in my journal about it. I feel like once I put my thoughts in writing, I can really step back and evaluate how I feel about it after the fact. Its very therapeutic.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
The only things I have trouble letting go of is work stuff. I will think about it and run situations over and over again in my head so much that I make myself sick! I'm with you, lawchick. I have such a tough time with this.
lawchick lawchick 9 years
Thanks, Dear! What a great point.
Sporky Sporky 9 years
It's usually work stuff that bothers me, so I go for a short walk and usually by the time I get back I'm less pissed off. Then a nice, tall drink when I get home. I know alcohol isn't the best solution to problems but once in a while it sure helps to relax a bit.
DearSugar DearSugar 9 years
Lawchick - I'm like you sometimes and just can't get something off my mind. I try to remind myself that cheering up and enjoying my night doesn't mean that I'm letting it go; it just means I'm taking a break from it for a while. Somehow knowing that I can come back to it later makes me feel a little better as silly as that sounds.
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 9 years
I usually vent to my best friend then I like to be alone and listen to music that's relaxing. If those don't work, I watch tv and eat something sweet =)
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I vent to my best friend, definitely. Right now what's bothering me is my boyfriend is TOO nice! I know this doesn't seem like a problem, but apologizing over and over for pointless things like having no Coke Zero in the fridge is totally frustrating me to no end!!! Cookies sound so good right now :P
lawchick lawchick 9 years
a plate of cookies and a movie --- that is SO cute! I have a really hard time with this and it's hard on my marriage. If I have a bad day at work, I can't seem to get it off my mind and it ruins my night, too. Help!!
Karma87 Karma87 9 years
I have to be alone to work through the general stuff, but if it's something ongoing, I talk it out with my husband. He's learned to listen and not offer a solution. He gets it now that I just need to get it off my chest, then I'm better. I just realized this: I talk certain things over with my 14 year old daughter, she's wise beyond her years, and is more level-headed than me sometimes, lol. So -if it's appropritate- then I'll talk it over with her, too. It's so cool to have my girl as a confidant now!
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
Lots of wine! Kidding......kind of. Mostly venting to a close friend.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I vent to a close friend or my hubby, depending on what I am upset about. THen I like alone time.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
I need to vent to all my closest friends, and then I need to be alone for awhile. If I keep venting, I'll stay being upset. And depending on what happened, I'll either eat loads or won't be able to eat at all. I think venting and journaling help the most.
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