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Do Tell: How Important Is Sex to You in a Relationship?

When in a relationship, some people adore sex. They think about it often, have it a lot, and are into trying new toys, positions, and places to make it better. Then there are other people in relationships who aren't that interested in getting it on. They rarely crave that kind of intimacy, and could have sex once a month (or less) and feel completely satisfied. So where do you fall in the spectrum? Is sex really important to you when you're in a relationship, or are there other ways you two prefer to celebrate your connection?


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Venus1 Venus1 7 years
As mentioned previously sex is a vital part of my life. The female orgasm can be so powerful (but for me not achieved by mere thrusting porno film style! I find the above post from Anonymous (No. 62) rather sad. It is not about satisfying one person but mutual satisfaction.
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
mira1988 mira1988 8 years
For me its the least important
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Sex is important. It's part of a healthy balanced diet. A little iron, a little calcium, a little sex. I don't get how some people do it everyday though. When, at 6 am before work? Or after a long day? Nope. I need some beauty sleep. Hands off until I'm good and ready.
meepmeepmeep meepmeepmeep 8 years
Sex isn't a huge priority in our relationship and I'm okay with that. We rarely have the chance to and we also lead busy lives. Our relationship is great with or without sex.
KJ1185 KJ1185 8 years
It's very important! My bf and I don't live together so when I stay there (usually a few times a week) it's rare if we don't have sex.
CoveringsMagazine CoveringsMagazine 8 years
i think sex is very important to a good relationship. it helps to make you feel emotionally connected to your partner. When I'm really upset with my guy i don't even want him to touch me but when things are great and we're in sync the sex is amazing!
Simbelmyne Simbelmyne 8 years
Extremely important! Might as well be roommates if we're not going to have it. It's absolutely fine in my book to sleep around if that's what you want, or to wait till marriage if that's what you feel is right, but sex just HAS to happen. Anyone who says they don't want it (man or woman) is either not getting proper "care" from their SO or they've got a mental or physical block.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
ofcourse sex is important in marriage =) and kaleighna, 10 months? wow. nice
Kaleighna Kaleighna 8 years
Sex, along with trust is an important part of our marriage.. and having lived thru the last 10 months without the sex part.. wears on a person.. all I can say is Deployments Thank God for R& R..
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
spending quality time together is much more important than sex. forget sex and enjoy the other stuff. u can do it later, when u get married or something. and if u do do it before marriage, u dont have to do it all the time. i hate it when people get too physical. its rather annoying. if sex is the bigger part of that relationship, its more of lust than love.
kelli9590 kelli9590 8 years
until we're married, my fiance and i are in a long distance relationship (he's in his last three weeks of college and then ships out to the navy in January) we try to see each other often and when we do the sparks fly.. every time, (about 2 a day lol), its like the first time. its such an important part of "us". we love being so vulnerable to each other and being completely immersed in each other. i would definitely not say its the most important part of our relationship, but after being away from each other, we crave the closeness and pleasuring each other
Elle-Ven Elle-Ven 8 years
Sex is very important in our relationship. We have sex almost everyday. But of course some days we don't have the time. It really keeps our relationship alive. And we have been together almost 3 years.
myprivatespace myprivatespace 8 years
we were and are mad about sex. the difference being, previously we could have sex anytime we wanted but now either him or I need to schedule it before.. haha.. I mean we are presently located in different cities. but it is lot of fun having phone-sex and sometimes we meet 4 to 5 times a year and he is waiting for my higher studies to be over and we marry and settle down. touch wood. :')
mariami mariami 8 years
me and my boyfriend are very far from each other...we hadn't sex since now...we are together already 9 month but he say every day that he loves me and he will wait for me as i will wait him to....he always say that i can do it when i want...caz he know that first time is very hurd...i love hi
thelorax thelorax 8 years
sex is probably the biggest point of contention in my clearly it's important. :-(
lawchick lawchick 8 years
it's been about once a week for a long time, but we're making a point to do it more now because we're trying to have a baby. once a week was fine with me prior to this point -- I work days and he works nights, so we're not home much at the same time.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
If I couldn't have sex with my husband anymore it would be slightly disappointing but not a deal breaker. There are so many more reasons to be together than sex. Everyone makes such a big deal out of it and it is so much fun but I think a long lasting relationship requires shared passion but not necessarily sexual intensity. Maybe that's just me. That said I've been with my husband for over a decade and we still do it like 4 or 5 times a week. I love sex and so does he mostly because the bond between us so intense.So we'll probably be those old people nobody wants to think about doing til we die.
bbkf bbkf 8 years
It's extremely important to us. My husband and I have sex almost every day and we've been together for 6 years.
havok636 havok636 8 years
pretty important. i have a pretty high sex drive. in fact, my boyfriend and i started out as friends with benefits. that lasted a good six months before we realized that we loved each other. sadly the amount of sex has gone down considerably :(
xopiperxo xopiperxo 8 years
i think it is very important. besides, i couldn't live without it ;) hahaha
cheekyredhead cheekyredhead 8 years
First marriage it was mechanical and the same EVERY time. I had grown up with the thought that it was simply for the enjoyment of the husband and to reproduce. It never occurred to me that I was supposed to enjoy it at all. Second was a nightly duty. ARGH...but I learned that I would not make this same mistake again. Between second and my third final marriage I learned "how things worked" with my body. A great friend invited me to a "toy" party. Final third marriage...WOW! I am making up for lost time! Many of you cannot imagine a woman not having the "BIG O" for the first 40 years of her life...but that was how it was with me. Once I learned that mutual enjoyment was the ultimate goal...OMG. My husband and I have been enjoying the journey of finding the many ways to "get me there" and what can I say..."Wow" just does not seem to really describe it. Ultimately I think that we have to be brutally honest about what our needs are, unafraid to voice them, be willing to try things that may seem unconventional, and have a partner equally interested in the ultimate goal which is never one-sided. I think that if your guy loves leather then you wear it...if you like wearing kinky shoes then you should do that...if you both enjoy dancing...then dance. No topic should be out-of-bounds. Too many of us deny those little things we secretly dream about but do not share. A partner really interested in YOU will want to know those things and will share as well. Frequency is not as important as quality. I believe it is a wonderful gift that our bedroom is at the opposite side of the house from our teenagers. Married now for several years to a magnificent and talented man we still act like newly weds and make efforts to make memorable moments both in and out of the bedroom. Invest in locks...teenagers will just walk in...and nothing is as embarrassing as your 15 year old daughter finding your toy bag or your private dress-up clothes. Be honest about your needs and expect the same honesty in return. Anything less and you are "settling" for less than you need and that is never a good thing.
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
I Love having that moment to remember the next day when I'm at work but I don't know how I would react if I didn't have it. My husband and I make Love at least 4x's a week! Which include quickie's before work or when we get settled in from working all day! We save the romance for the weekend unless we catch a break during the week! I don't think it's the most important thing in a relationship but it is needed.
psterling psterling 8 years
I love my husband more than anything in the world, but the sex isn't the top priority for us. Its fun, I like it, we do it 3-4 times a month but we find other aspects of our relationship more important. Of course, if the sex disappeared that would not be ok.
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