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Do Tell: How Long Do You Wait Between Dates?

When you first meet someone you like it's easy to want to spend every waking second together, but sometimes diving in headfirst isn't the best way. We've all heard that too much too soon could be the demise of a relationship, so ladies, even if you're willing to rearrange your entire social schedule to accommodate your new crush, how long do you typically wait between dates?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
There's no clear answer. Everyday? Once a week? I don't know. Depends on the circumstances and the two people involved. After a first date I've had guys calling everyday. If I liked them enough I'd chat and set up another date soon. I've also had guys wait four or five days to call back. Can't say I understood that very much either. To make them wait is better. However to each his own and you have to guide yourself through that labyrinth. Men can be as$#@%^&*2 and test you with stuff like this. If I feel like I'm being tested or judged they can forget it, whether I passed with flying colors or not. I don't play games or follow any one's rules.
kari-a-k kari-a-k 9 years
My new boyfriend and I are both super busy people, but we try to see each other at least every 4 days. I find if we wait longer than that we become those ridiculous couples I used to make fun of who can't keep their hands off each other in public and whisper silly things to each other. In the time between dates we are in constant contact through texting or email.
kiwishe kiwishe 9 years
When I was single, my dates with the same guy came about every 3 days. I quickly got bored with them at the same time, and it never usually lasted. When I started dating my current boyfriend, we'd see each other once a week. It gave enough time to "miss" each other and still have a life outside of each other.
hotstuff hotstuff 9 years
"they went without seeing each other for almost four years till they got married. She was in New York City as a nurse while he was back in the Philippines. They wrote to each other (although my mom commented that he was a horrible writer) and called each other once a week. At times, it was once a month. Now they've been together for twenty-seven years." WOW now thats LOVE!!! See, all the BS excuses people give each other are just that excuses. When you truly LOVE someone it will conquer all!
whatthew00t whatthew00t 9 years
My bf and I try to see each other as much as possible when time allows since we're both busy with school, and he has a job that's currently demanding because of the holiday season. He also doesn't have a car and a license even though he knows how to drive. When I take the bus shuttle to the mall to go back home, I often have to meet him at the mall and go on little short dates with him since those are the only times we could be together. But honestly, I don't mind that we don't see each other so often. There's that thrill in the first year of dating, and couples see each other so often. However, I wonder what's going to happen in a couple years. I think that's why my guy and I are just taking our relationship as it is. We have so much to go through. I get my inspiration from my parents. My mom and dad dated for a year. When she moved to the US as part of a Filipino nurse migration, they went without seeing each other for almost four years till they got married. She was in New York City as a nurse while he was back in the Philippines. They wrote to each other (although my mom commented that he was a horrible writer) and called each other once a week. At times, it was once a month. Now they've been together for twenty-seven years.
Marci Marci 9 years
I completely agree with Almost Famous. All that strategizing is a waste of time, in my opinion. If you're both in agreement you want to see each other, go for it. Toss 'The Rules' out the window.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I don't have any rules. As often as he's asking me out, unless i have something else on.
Holly-J Holly-J 9 years
If I am not someones girlfriend, I will date as many as people as possible. Crap! Gary for dinner and peter for dessert, you dig!!
bettyboutique bettyboutique 9 years
agreeing with no rules.. depends on the person... and whats going on in both of your lifes.. you could be too busy one week and not the next all depends on the situation AND whether its with your bf or just random dates with ppl.
2Crazy2Beautiful 2Crazy2Beautiful 9 years
My guy and I when we first started talking which was only like three weeks ago We talked and saw each other at the bar and emailed back and fourth for the first week after we met but since we have started hanging out we are together as much as possible.. so it really doesn't matter it is up to you and the guy I like it right off the bat but we were both lke that and decided to take it a little slower.. It didn't really happen though.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
usually time between dates is contingent upon work schdules and life. i've hit it off with guys where we met up the next night for dinner. then there are some where we hit it off but we both were to busy to meet up until a month later (we both had to travel for business). go with your feelings, and you schdule.
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
If we like each other a lot, then as often as he asks me out unless I have prior plans. But I would probably invite him along to those, too, if he already knew some of my friends.
Papaya Papaya 9 years
Ugh, I'm having this problem now. For the first four months we spent all of our time together and now it's like...okay guy, get a life! I don't want to be around you all of the time! But it's hard to go backwards and try to take it easy.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
Every 2-3 days? I'm eager.. =P Worked for me and my boyfriend. He asked me to move in after a month together! We've been living in almost-married bliss for over 15 months now. =D
juliex0x0 juliex0x0 9 years
I agree with almost famous. You shouldn't put rules on things like this, just do what you want to do. If you spend a ton of time together initially and things aren't working, better to find out sooner than later and move on. If things are working then you've found an excellent match!
elizabelle elizabelle 9 years
once, maybe twice a week
Angylbabi7 Angylbabi7 9 years
i agree - no need to jump into something new! take your time and dont forget about your friends! i think it is always great to have girl time!
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
before my bf, I was on dates every other, it was fun. I was gettin to know em and they knew I wasn't into being in a real relationship at the time. I chose weekdays so the visits were cut short by my *I have to get up early tomorrow* so I wouldn't be tempted to do things I would later regret (sleepovers and such). Weekends were my friends-only nights. So I had awesome dinners, parties and fun drunk times with my dates. AS A GIRLFRIEND, my bf and I go on fun dates every weekend...dinner, movies, clubbin, bars, Angel Games when in season, long walks...the whole nine yards. We live together, so it helps bring us closer as a couple and not roommates (ugh, i hate that word!)
mblab mblab 9 years
When I first met my boyfriend I took it by his cues. If he wanted to see me right away I was going to go spend time with him. We're together for over a year so we must've done something right...
cosmetics-queen cosmetics-queen 9 years
I'm currently dating a guy and we see each other once a week.
klandrach klandrach 9 years
When I was first dating my boyfriend I think we hung out about twice a week. We live almost an hour apart so we would have one date in my area and then one in his. It was fun because neither of us had spent much time in the other's neck of the woods.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Haha well the only person I go on dates with is my man! And we TRY to go out 2 times a week together! To go do someting fun like a movie or swimming! For dinner, we go like 3 or 4 times a week :)
Marseeah Marseeah 9 years
I once dated someone where we had this deal where we'd try to limit seeing each other to once a week. It made every time I saw him so intense and special! (Although, at least every other week we broke that rule and saw each other more)
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
There shouldne't be a time set between dates...Live it up!!!!
SummerBaby SummerBaby 9 years
zero time!! i dont go on dates! haha
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