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Do Tell: How Long Should You Wait After a Breakup to Date Again?

A good friend of mine was dating his girlfriend for over two years. Even though they lived together, I never thought she was right for him. They'd fight all the time, break up, and then get back together — it was exhausting.

I was happy when he told me they ended it for good and that she was moving out, but later that week, I saw him at a restaurant on a date with a new girl. Though he was technically single, I couldn't help but think it was a little soon to be dating again.

What do you think? Is there a certain amount of time you should wait before dating again out of respect for your ex, or is it completely OK to put yourself out there just as soon as your relationship is over? And does the amount of time you dated, or whether you were the dumper or the dumpee, change anything?


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Xamira Xamira 4 years
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Kelly-Ocay Kelly-Ocay 7 years
No rules ! Everyone has different ways to get over someone. I had been in relationship with my ex 2 years, I was not happy with my relationship, he treated me like shit n pissed me off for all the time. I said goodbye with that relationship n started to date again. However, sometimes I do miss the time I had with him, or something reminds me of him. Dating with new people make me feel better, that was the way I got over him. But my heart closes still, just dating..n I'm waiting for new one who could open my heart again. Now..eventhough I got over my ex, but I'm not ready for any new relationship. Dating, hanging out, having fun n enjoying each other 's company. That's all what I wanna take now n of cos I do make it clearly ;)
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
My mom used to say that love takes time, but how quickly it can die. In two weeks you can be over something that was completely wrong and unfair. Dry away the tears and move on. Best thing you could ever do.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I am going to be perfectly honest here - I always have a rebound after a serious relationship. It helps to shift my feelings and move on from my ex. It really helps but this is just because I have seriously low self esteem and need to remind myself I am worth something... through sex... hot dirty sex. :p Then I'll stay single for a while and approach dating with a fresh outlook. Works every time...
MissJules5x MissJules5x 8 years
i dont think theres a rule. it would be in better taste to wait a little bit, but to each their own. it could be that they both felt their relationship had been over for awhile even before they officially ended it. i dont see anything wrong in going out and hanging out with someone (maybe thats just what he was doing). I wouldn't think too much into this, and honestly its none of your business. let your friend do what he wants, and its best not to get involved.
red4bonez red4bonez 8 years
i think it depends. if you are doing the dumping and you are long over the guy you are with then obviously you will start dating as soon as you dump the guy. If you are dumped, well that depends too. If I was dumped I know i would not be able to start dating right away, it would take me a while. Now some people bounce right back. So I think it depends of the situation and of what kind of person you are =)
PrincessVika PrincessVika 8 years
you shouldn't all..keep it moving along. Nothing will get you over an ex faster then a date that reminds you what your really worth!!!
jesssa jesssa 8 years
just to add, my ex and i dated for over 6 years
jesssa jesssa 8 years
i guess it depends when my ex and i broke up, i went on a date with my current boyfriend the next day and then again later in the week. 2 1/2 weeks later we were officially a couple and we've been together since august '07. it seems weird to look at it that way.. like "overlapping", but every relationship and breakup has a background story and you really need to know it before you say its "too soon" to start dating someone else. in my case, my ex and i were already emotionally detached from our relationship and it was a matter of formality to break up officially.
geebers geebers 8 years
I think it depends ...everyone has their own way of getting over someone and for some people it means dating someone new right away. For me, I need to be alone for a few months before I feel fully confident and ready to go forward.
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
My ex would jump from relationship to relationship with little to no time in-between - sometimes over-lapping! He was as unhealthy as they come, so, I think giving breathing room is a great idea. As far as how much room - I think that depends on the ended relationship.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
my thoughts on a general rule of getting over someone is about half the time you dated them....that's when you're really ready to move on (obviously this rule isnt foolproof)...but in terms of moving on, it really depends on how your relatiosnhip was and how it ended. sometimes you can mentally move on before you actually break up...i would think that a week after moving out from your 2 year live-in relationship is a little FAST but i started dating a guy 2.5 months after i broke up with a 3 month long boyfriend and people thought THAT was too fast so i's all relative
manishal manishal 8 years
i think when you really love someone, it can happen with just one guy. After a break up if its so easy to date some1 else instantly, u never really loved him... Some relations which last forever are so beautiful and amazing...but they all required patience and adjustment to become so strong and beautiful. Being from India i can give examples of Indian couples i know, infact i came across this article of a few couples whose love is evident in the smallest things they do. Love can be so simple sometimes.
Anne26 Anne26 8 years
I am ready to date again, but I am hoping I find the right guy for me which I thought I did. I am still friends with my ex and oddly it seems as time goes by I have realized something strange that I'm slowly starting to realize allot of things I did not realize when I was in a relationship and they are allot of good things too. Honestly, I am a bit confused as of now, but happy though. I guess everything happens for a reason. ;-)
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
I think it depends on how you feel after. even though i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 and didnt cry or feel heart broken, I just wasnt ready yet about a year or two until start really dating.
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