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Do Tell: How Long Would You Wait for Your Date?

A girlfriend of mine called me last night while she was waiting for her date at the restaurant bar where they had planned to meet. This was their first "date" and she was pretty excited to spend the evening with him. When she called me, I was confused since I knew they had plans, and she went on to say that she had been waiting for him for 25 minutes. Apparently, he had texted her saying he was stuck in traffic but still, he was over 20 minutes late and she was just waiting there for him, alone!

She asked me how long she should wait before assuming she was being stood up and while I have my own opinion, ladies, do tell, how long would you wait for a late date? If he called and said he was running a few minutes behind, how long would you give him before calling it a night?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
1/2 hour. Long enough to get a drink and see what the problem is. If no call then I'd get up and leave.
Karma87 Karma87 9 years
I'm an on-time freak. I'd have waited 15 minutes without a call and then I'd have been outta there! I refuse to wait for a doctor if he/she is running excuse without an explanation from the person!
wambalus wambalus 9 years
Funny story from my parents. Second date, my mom's dolled up and ready to go. Two hours later she assumes she's been stood up and changes into her pjs when who should knock on the door - my dad. 'Oh' he says, looking at her pjs. 'You're not ready yet.' Cannot believe there was a third date, but hey, lucky for me there was ;)
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
its not being stood up if they guy called her! she sounds too high maintainance.
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
15 - 20 min... I don't think I would be in a good mood even if the date does show up after that, so I would just leave, and switch off my phone. He better has a good reason for being late, but I won't hang around for him to turn up.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
If he didn't contact me by at least 10 min. then I would leave, if he did call and had a valid excuse, it would depend on what was holding him up, I guess a good average would be 30 min., then I would leave.
brigitteplease brigitteplease 9 years
thats how my ex was on my first few dates, i let it slide then and he did the same thing throughout the relationship only it kept getting worse with the wait time getting longer and longer and longer..
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
As long as he wasnt habitually late then SURE everyone has a bad moment (poor planning) every now and then.
HappyKate HappyKate 9 years
with traffic call about 25min, without the call about 15min
amberleigh amberleigh 9 years
If a man can't be prompt (or even early) for a date, then that's a bad sign. I dated a guy that was late for bbqs, my company Christmas party, and even our own anniversary dinner. Needless to say..that relationship ended, and his lack of promptness was a factor in it.
swtsunkisses88 swtsunkisses88 9 years
Honestly it depends on how good his excuse is. If he just left late, well then, that's his fault, but life does happen and so does traffic. It also depends on how much Im anticipating the date. If I really wasnt that into him or excited for it, then I would simply just say let's reschedule.
mrspiven mrspiven 9 years
if he texted, by 25 minutes later i would text or call him back to see how much longer he would be. i wouldn't sit there and wait any longer than 30 minutes if there was no answer. i would NEVER wait an hour, that's insane.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Probably only 5-10 minutes. It's a sign of respect to be on time and be the person that you say you are.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
At least he had the courtesy to send a message shows a little bit of respect. Still I don't think I'd wait more than half an hour. If he really wants to see you he'll call to rechedule.
megw06 megw06 9 years
My dad was THREE hours late for his first date with my mom! Granted it was because he's a doctor and he was in surgery, but she never got a call, he just showed up! lol. It all turned out ok though, because they just celebrated their 24th anniversary!
Too_Posh Too_Posh 9 years
I'm extremly impatient and so I hate waiting on anyone. 20 minutes is plenty of time with a call from the guy, if he's going to be any later I think its time to reshedule. Even if you're looking foward to being with him its silly to wait around, if he's interested he'll want to see you some other time.
Marci Marci 9 years
My general rule for anyone is 45 minutes because things do happen. But now that even 90 year olds have cell phones, there's no reason to ever be kept in the dark waiting. Since the guy called and said he was stuck in traffic, I think I would've waited it out - I'm not sure how long I'd wait since I don't know the distance he was traveling. But if another 30 minutes passed, I would've call him to ask, and if he was still 'in traffic' I'd suggest doing it another time.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I'm with 7kimba7, too.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
with a phone call, i'd prolly wait up to 30 mins. without a phone call, about ten minutes. i wouldnt want to date someone who's notoriously 10 mins late anyway...
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
If he called/texted to keep me updated on his status, I would wait til he finally arrived. But if he just called once & still hasn't shown, I'd leave before it's been an hour.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
It depends he did text and say he was stuck in traffic. If she was antsy and it was a big deal to sit alone then she should have texted back and asked him how late he was going to be and if it was longer than 30 mintes I would say reschedule. For anybody my general rule is 15 minutes and then I am annoyed so I would leave.
BlairBear BlairBear 9 years
If he called and explained why he was late, I would stick around until he got there, an hour max though. This is funny because my first date with my now husband, I was 2 hours late...with no call for the first hour and a half. :ROTFL:
Zahara-Pitt Zahara-Pitt 9 years
i like punctual guys... so 10 minutes max and then am out
omgmonster omgmonster 9 years
If he calls I would wait fr 20 mins, but if he say he's going to be an hour late, I'd just go somewhere and come back. I don't like waiting by myself for that long...
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