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Do Tell: How Old Is Too Old to Have a Roommate?

A friend of mine is dating a 32-year-old man with two roommates. She lives alone, but 20 minutes outside the city so whenever they go out, she reluctantly spends the night at his place. She has complained to me on numerous occasions that their place resembles a frat house, it's always loud, people come and go at all hours of the day, and she has to worry about being walked in on while she's going to the bathroom.

While I know it's expensive to live in the big city, what I want to know is, how old is too old for a man to have a roommate? Is it a turn off for a grown man to share a bathroom and kitchen with someone else besides his girlfriend?


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looseseal looseseal 9 years
In my city, some elderly people, who can barely afford anything, rent a bed-space in a dilapidated room crammed with about ten bunks. Tell them about the age limit, why don't you? I blame this on lack of affordable housing for low to middle income single people and overpopulation contributing to crowded conditions. It has nothing to do with maturity. Like someone said already, it's perfectly possible for mature adults to share a place as roommates and not turn it into a crap hole. And also give each other space and respect each other's privacy (not barge into the bathroom while someone's in there?), and refrain from having strange people in and out all the time, so it doesn't feel all skeevy and weird when a girlfriend/boyfriend comes over and stays the night. Seriously, some of us are lucky just to have a private room with a door that locks properly. I hate imposing age limits on big life things like this: Must have your own place by 25, must marry by 30, kids by 35... such arbitrary rules, meant to keep people marching on lemmings-like until the day they die. No thanks. It depends on what one is looking for in a potential mate, too. If it's a Cash Cow that's wanted more than anything else, then, yes, whether he has his own place or not would be one way of knowing whether the man is worth snaring, I guess. As for the frat house thing? A guy who lives by himself can have a pigsty of a place, too. Complete with strangers going in and out at all hours. That's a separate issue from whether he has roommates or not.
mirawilliams mirawilliams 9 years
Roommates these days have nothing to do with age, but with real estate. I live in the city and don't have a car. So if I don't want to spent two hours a day by subway/streetcar/bus, I have to have a roommate to afford to live in a very nice apartment in downtown Toronto. And I don't even live in the core. We're both in our 30s and have a lovely apartment, built in the 70s so it's huge and our rent is very reasonable.
em1282 em1282 9 years
I don't know if I believe in an age limit, but I will say that I am personally sick of my bf having so many roommates (2 guys, 1 girl). The place is always a mess too, so much that I don't want to hang out there very often. Ugh. I guess it does depend on maturity, but I'd prefer a guy who lives by himself, or at least one with cleaner roommates.
allhailtoyin allhailtoyin 9 years
It's a turnoff but what can you do? You gotta live somehow! They just gotta set up some rules.
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
I think it situation is different..there could have been a major incident that required roommate situation (divorce, death..etc) BUT if a guy is just irresponsible and old thats not good. Like megin1022 said above some folks need to grow up!
mlen mlen 9 years
i think it depends on the situation! my ex-bf had a roomie for a while and he was 32. his roomie was a friend that he knew since he was like 4. the friend needed a place to stay after he got divorced and after my ex bf got divorced (that's a whole other issue lol) so my ex-bf offered to let the friend room with him for a while. on my ex-bf's side it wasn't a bad thing- he was successful, owned his own townhouse, and had the extra room. and he was helping a friend out. the friend however, 33, could barely afford to pay my ex-bf the like 400 bucks a month he charged in rent. he was a totally party boy hooking up with a different girl every week- and basically just a loser. he needed to grow up!
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
please people...whoever puts a limit on roomates is kidding themselves...especially if you like that show't they all 40 something and living together??? lol
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
I think the limit is age 25. Then you have to learn to be on your own.
Historygal3 Historygal3 9 years
No age limit. My husband and I have 2 roomates. We all have very successful professional jobs, and it wasn't about money. Our house just happens to have 4 bedrooms so we had 2 sitting completley empty. When our college roomates moved back to the area it was just easier for them to move in with us.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I agree there is not an age limit but a maturity level. I lived in NYC for 5 years and if I wanted to have any kind of social life it meant having a roommate. I had a blast with my roommate and finding a reasonable place in the city is next to impossible that is why most people in NYC have roommates it is necessary. I had a lot of friends that had jobs that allowed them the luxury of being able to buy their own place but I wasn't at that place in my life!
ReverendZelda ReverendZelda 9 years
No age limit to living with others, or with your parents. I have a 28 year old friend who lives at home and if he didn't, his mother would lose the house. I know other people in similar situations. I personally am married and we have two room mates. We're also thinking of moving back in with my father to save money to start a family. In this day and age, it's too hard NOT to.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I'm with everyone else - there is no age limit. There's entirely too many other factors that play into it.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 9 years
I don't think there is any real age limit. I think the roommate thing has everything to do with the housing market in your city and nothing else. In the city I live in, a small (like 500-600 sq ft) condo goes for $250,000 and a reasonable house (maybe 1200 sq ft in an okay neighbourhood) goes for $375,000-$400,000. Given those ridiculous prices, I wouldn't fault a guy for living with a roommate. Basically, as long as he's not living with his parents it's ALL GOOD!
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
I'm 28 and my roommate is 27. She is a schoold teacher and I am an office manager and we both make plenty of money to live alone. The reason we chose to live together is simply because of money. We are both in relationships, and both go out of town a good bit. Why spend 700 a month in rent and not there half the time, when I can pay 300 a month and split all of the utilities??
Marci Marci 9 years
I agree with those who say there's no age limit on this. It depends on finances, for one; and not everyone likes to live alone, so if they want to have a roommate, that's their choice.
onesong onesong 9 years
hear hear lickety im 100% with you!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
telewyo I agree with you 110%.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I don't feel as if there is an age limit to having a roomate (although I know I would have never wanted one after college!). However, I do think that if I started dating someone over 25 and learned he had a roomate, I would be suspicious of his maturity, at least until I learned otherwise.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
these days expense has a lot to do with having roommates. as single friends get married your options are more limited on roommate choices. here we go again with "he'd be so great if only he were different". don't fall in love with potential ladies, he is who he is. if he's having fun but this isn't her idea of fun they probably aren't a good match. if he's putting up with the situation because he trusts these guys and the apt. is close to work and things he enjoys that's different. 20 minutes is not so far that i'd spend the night in a place i wasn't comfortable. sounds like something else is going on here.
marthalilian126 marthalilian126 9 years
I agree with the people who are saying there is no age limit -- it just depends on the individual situation! I chose to have a roommate so that I could have the luxury of living in Manhattan. There is just no way that I could swing the rent on my own OR live in an area that I want to live in without one. Yes, I could move out to Queens but I love where I live and that means having a roommate -- for now!
Jinx Jinx 9 years
There's really no age limit to having a room mate. These one just sound a little immature is all. Just because three men live together doesn't mean it has to be like a frat house.
jaxon jaxon 9 years
There is no set age limit. I agree with the poster who said it's about maturity. If the roomate situation is for convience and economical then okay. But if the atomsphere of this 32 year olds home resembles that of 19 year old on a college campus then I say run far away, he's prob got some growing up to do.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
Being a city girl, I don't see a problem with having a roommate. If you want to live alone, your apartment is going to be the size of a shoe, or you will have to be like the girlfriend and live 20 minutes outside of the city.
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