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Do Tell: Is There Really Someone For Everyone?

Sometimes I see the most truly bizarre pairings that somehow make up a perfectly-matched couple, and I say to myself, "there really is someone for everyone." I suppose this might be why I'm surprised when I encounter amazing single women older than my mother who never found their Mr. Right, even though they had always hoped they would someday. I know a lot of it is just a matter of timing, but it makes me wonder if there actually is someone for everyone. So ladies, do tell, in your opinion, do we all have a soul mate, even if we never find that person or for some people is love just not meant to be?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
There's no such thing as a perfect match. Thats why bizarre pairings work. What's a perfect match anyway? If you have a strong man with a macho job chances are that ego can turn into a giant pain at home. If you have an intellect chances are he won't wow you with his body or win a soccer match with his buddies anytime soon. Know what you want. Realize that and you're on your way to a deeper sense of reality. There's a lot of someones for everyone. I think it's several issues that contribute to being single. Ego. Money. Pride. Misguided hearts. Misunderstandings. Unrealistic expectations. Harsh reality is, soon these women are old and no one wants them anymore. Could be that they fell for a married man, that never divorced his wife. Fell for the wrong guy and wasted several years with him and then he left.They weren't willing to sacrifice a job, a location change, or something to that nature. I don't know for sure but these things roll around in the back of my head when I meet someone single. Maybe they should try dating a few Mr. Wrongs just for fun. Its more about deduction isn't it? Maybe if they had said the heck with it and had some fun instead of treating it like a tragedy or life long obession they would meet someobody nice.
louisa57 louisa57 8 years
I do think there is someone for everyone, and I think it takes the right timing, and not being anxious about it, don't try so hard! And I think it takes PRAYER to God through Jesus.
random00b random00b 9 years
I believe that love isn't meant to be for everyone. I think I am one of those individuals and have made peace with that fact.
krystalmak krystalmak 9 years
I'd hope so, or I'm out of luck. I think the challenge is finding the person(s). Hmmm, I guess I can't just sit around and wait for him to find me?
moxierain moxierain 9 years
No I don't believe in destined soul mates. I don't believe in fate. There are a lot of reasons why people end up alone. Despite all of that I do believe that its very possible to find someone. The U.S. has a population of almost 300 million. I'm sure that within that then its possible to find *one* person you can love and who can love you back. You don't need 5 or 10, just one. So I feel very hopeful. I believe that there is a lot you can do to make things go your way in life and its very possible to find someone. Its not over until you're dead.
TFS TFS 9 years
not these days no.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Yes, I believe so.
Percy Percy 9 years
Behind the facade of every 'happily ever after' is a blood sweat and tears story. I agree with leafgirl. I'd like to think and hope that there is someone special for everyone. You don't have to LIKE the person you're with everyday, but you have to find the courage, hard work and mind set to LOVE that person for the rest your lives - that's the hard bit.
leafgirl leafgirl 9 years
You MIGHT have a soul mate and you MIGHT find each other the real question is can you make it work? I have my made for me guy but that doesn't mean everything is disney happily ever after. But we work hard to be good to each other and after ten years of marriage I can honestly say I love him more today then out wedding day.Today people just accept if things don't work out or your on marriage number 4. Their soul mate might have slipped away because work or flirting was more important at the time.
lily8206 lily8206 9 years
I sure hope so!
partysugar partysugar 9 years
I totally agree with you Ava Marie. I don't think love is for everyone. Finding "the one" is such an idealistic concept.
AVA-MARiE AVA-MARiE 9 years
Well, my honest answer is no. Our society wouldn't be functional if we didn't have some single people, widowed people, or married people. Not everyone is meant to be married -- think of what that could do to society? Just like not everyone is meant to be a CEO...what would happen to the people who work at McDonalds - who would do it if EVERYONE was meant to be a CEO? It's just how life is structured. I know it sounds nice to say that everyone has a soul mate, but it's just simply not true in my opinion.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I'm not sure what I believe. I think, yes, there is someone for everyone... I'm just not sure if it is only *one* person. But then I look at my aunt who has been married once (did not work!!) and had a string of relationships where she was never truly happy and I wonder. My SO says that he doesn't believe in soul mates and that there are probably multiple people out there for everyone ... which kind of hurts. But he did say that I have ruined any other woman for him. Meaning that if something were to happen to us that he would probably find love again, but never what we share and he wouldn't ever be as happy as I've made him! Which makes me feel special ;)
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I believe so.
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
i hope so!
divadina divadina 9 years
I think it's about finding someone who you believe is worth fighting for and they feel that same way about you. You might find a perfect person, but it's about timing as well ... and that desire to fight to make your relationship work. There might be any number of people that would be good fits, but if it's the wrong time, it will never stick.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I think everyone can find a perfect person or persons for them, but that a lot of people screw it up and end up alone. It's not that they didn't find someone, it's that they drove them away or didn't recognize when they found them.
animatedpunk animatedpunk 9 years
I'm not sure what I think. I do know.... that some people just make you feel ALIVE, and then some people just don't have that effect on you at all. I guess I think that it MIGHT exist..... the soulmate thing.... but I think too many people are impatient and end up settling for something that seems good enough. (i have been guilty of this as well) honestly I'm pretty cynical lately... So I don't even know what I think anymore.
thorswitch thorswitch 9 years
I agree with miss-britt that soulmates aren't just romantic partners, but can be found in other relationships as well, and with tomatoshirt that there probably is someone (or a few someones, for that matter) out there for everyone, it's just a matter of finding them. I didn't used to believe that there was someone for everyone because I was certain no one would every truly be attracted to me, let alone want to love me or be with me - and then I found someone who did, so I'm a believer now :) I just wish everyone could be so lucky to find someone who can love them in that incredibly special way, just for who they are.
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