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Do Tell: What Do You Miss Most About Just Dating?

As we all know, the beginning of a blossoming relationship is exhilarating and the courting period is what makes every day one to look forward to. But once couples get comfortable with each other, that initial fire dwindles and your relationship turns a new leaf. Now I'm not saying that taking that next step in the romance department is a bad thing, but many people do miss what the beginning entails: you know the passionate kisses, the butterflies in your stomach and the over the top dates! So ladies, if you're currently in that comfortable place in your relationship, what do you miss about just dating?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
I guess I loved it and hated it all at the same time. Dating is like hunting. It's pure animal excitement. It's a high of cat and mouse games. I loved the phone calls. Playing the message over and over and then returning the call. I liked a bit of drinking and dancing and trying to look my best. Sometimes I miss the sexy stuff, conversations and whispers, low riders, short skirts, and high heels to see what drives him absolutely wild. I miss the part where they'd spend big bucks to win you over. What fantastic dinner you'd eat or show you would experience. Smelling the new leather in their expensive cars. Definitely order the campaign then! If everything could go as well, then I could miss it more. But things can backfire, go wrong, go terrible. Then dating can be torture too. I'm glad I had some good ones, but it's all history now. I'm married which is a happy decision of contentment and commitment over excitement.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
I miss the long make-out sessions too. Now he kinda just wants to get to the point, and then I have to smack him. Also the excitement first getting to know someone brings.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
beccalu beccalu 9 years
i miss him wanting me all the time...wanting to kiss me and make out... stuff like that :/
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I love being married and calling him my husband but I really miss doing new things together(which we're working on) and the butterflies definitely. You're never going to have your firsts back and that is kinda sad but I wouldn't trade my hubby for anything.
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
I miss the excitement and the butterflies-in-my-stomach. I love my boyfriend, but sometimes I could go for a bit of that excitement!
Marci Marci 9 years
I love my life with my fiance and don't miss anything about dating.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
"Now, I get one kiss, and I'm expected to rip my clothes off." Oh, God! So true, Silverlining!
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half, but we had so much ups and downs, every time we've gotten back together (we've had like twenty break-ups), it felt like I was just beginning to date him. Now that we're in a stable relationship, it's like I'm finally starting to get accustomed to having a confidant and a best friend I can always turn to and be myself around. I get butterflies when he calls (I even squeal because it's such a treat) and he texts. When we have plans like going somewhere for the weekend, I can't go to sleep, I'm soo excited! When I see him waiting in from of my lecture for me, I run down the steps and jump into his arms. What I miss is how we used to make out. Now, I get one kiss, and I'm expected to rip my clothes off. Also, he used to be uncomfortable sleeping in my bed because it wasn't his home and unfamiliar. I used to hate that, but now, I hate he's too comfortable. Every time he comes over, I can't get him to wake up from a nap. He says he just feels drowsy as soon as he comes into my apartment...oi vey.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I enjoy married life, too, but I miss some non-romantic stuff. I miss not having in-laws. I miss separating our monies, and me have complete say over my money. That's the stuff I miss. :)
BlueKitten BlueKitten 9 years
Don't get me wrong, I love being married. But I do miss the long makeout sessions. I miss how active our sex lives were when we were still learning about each others' bodies. What we have now is great, but I really miss the passion sometimes.
polska polska 9 years
I miss thinking about him all day, every day. Now, I know where he is when we're apart, what's he's doing, and that he'll be there when I get home at night (and probably hasn't done the dishes). Now when we're apart, it's more the exception than the rule. But there's just something about those first dates and months when you can't get the person out of your head!
omlove omlove 9 years
I love the comfort of being in a committed relationship. There's just so much honesty and intimacy. Its been more than a year for me...who knows after another year or so I may think differently. But I still do get tingles every time I see him and am completely in love with him . And to Lele777...lucky you :)
Swen Swen 9 years
I used to get a huge smile on my face everytime I saw that he was calling. I miss getting the tingles every time he touches me. I miss the naivete, of not knowing his flaws yet, so he seems perfect. But I much prefer the comfort and intimacy of a long term relationship. With all the excitement of dating, there's also all the anxiety of thinking when is gonna call? does he actually like me or is he looking to get some? maybe i should've said ___ instead of ___, etc.
lightheaded lightheaded 9 years
miss the sex with someone new... miss the butterflies in my stomach... miss the whole no-commitment thing... something goes wrong, move on to the next!
porkypocky porkypocky 9 years
i miss the excitement of not knowing what's coming next, like when he's going to kiss me, or when we're going to go out next. what i miss even more though is that he used to do this thing where he would just lie next to me and stare at my face with this dopey happy face...and when i asked him what he was thinking he would pinch my cheek and just say "cute." :) we're too busy to just lie there anymore :( booo...
shellbelle1 shellbelle1 9 years
Yeah I miss all the kissing and we're long distance so we used to spend hours on the phone at night, not so much anymore. But now we talk several times throughout the day where in the beginning it was only once a day. I do prefer it this way, comfortable and settled and in love but sometimes I miss the butterflies.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I agree with javsmav. I've just started dating someone new this week and while it's great, I can't wait to be ultra comfortable with him and not so awkward!
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
definitely the chase and the intricate tug-of-war tango we dance while we play the game.
theflyinghorse theflyinghorse 9 years
I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now, and I think we are in the middle of that transition period where we have our routine, but things are still sort of fresh. I still get a little nervous sometimes when I am going to see him, it's weird. The butterflies are still there when we kiss :) I absolutely loved when we first started dating, cause it was exciting and new, but I also love that we are so comfortable with each other and that we know a lot about each other. :)
I miss the chase, definitely. BUT, would I ever go back to just dating? NEVER. Plus, now that we have been together for a while, I absolutely love when he goes to work and will flirt with me via IM, or in the car when I get him, which makes for some hot sex later!
rpenner rpenner 9 years
I miss the long makeout sessions. I agree with a lot of girls in here that the kissing just isn't the same after you've been together a long time. I also miss the amount of sex we used to have. It was also a lot hotter at the beginning because it was new. I do like to think that me and the boy still have a very active sex life but it definitely isn't the same as when we first started dated. Someone mentioned the chase - I miss that too. That is almost more fun than the initial dating period.
yadiet yadiet 9 years
I miss the gitters that you get when you see that certain person. Also, the libery of not reporting to anyone and just dealing with you
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I miss nights alone, strange as that may sound. I've never been out of a serious relationship for all that long, so having whole nights to myself has always felt like a treat.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I miss making plans for every evening, not knowing when we would get to see each other. Now, if its during the week, I know our time together during the week will be spent watching t.v. together for an hour or so after he gets home from class.
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