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Do Tell: What Embarrassing Sex Questions Do You Want Answered?

As we all know, sex can be an awkward topic to discuss, not only with our friends, but with our partners too. I'll even admit to being embarrassed when asking my doctor questions about sex! Though it might make you blush, getting the answers is extremely important — you never know what you might be missing!

If you're like me and my girlfriends, sex almost always comes up in conversation, especially when a martini's involved, but sometimes we're still too bashful to ask what's really on our minds. If you're the same way, tell me ladies, what are the embarrassing sex questions you want answers to?

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ADayToRemeber381 ADayToRemeber381 6 years
I had sex for the first time a few weeks ago and actually it didn't hurt as bad as I thought it would but my cherry never popped. My boyfriend is very experienced he's 19 though. Even though my cherry hasn't been popped he used the pull out method. But we didn't use protection and I'm not on birth control.. I'm only 16.. I can't handle being pregnant esp. at this age. =/. What are the odds that I may become pregnant even though my cherry hasn't popped? Please help me out, honestly I'm kinda worried about it.
mira1988 mira1988 7 years
Oh lord anal sex is the worst if you don't know what your doing it is very painful, I suggest a drink before and lots of lube!!!!
cyanosis cyanosis 8 years
kelli9590 - I have been on the pill over 5 years, and been with my current boyfriend for almost 4 years. I know it may not be 100% fail proof and some would disagree with our method, but I will be honest and say that we NEVER use a condom. I mean NEVER. We have sex a few times a week on average and I take my pills at the same time every day. I very, very rarely miss it (if I do, maybe a couple times a year, I will take it the second I remember! and also usually ask him to pull out). Sex is definitely WAY better without a condom, but I don't want to sound like I'm discouraging safe sex. The only reason it might be "acceptable" to not use a condom is if you are on a 99% or higher efficiency birth control, and you are in a serious relationship where both partners have been tested and verified as STD-free. And of course it would help if that partner is someone you wouldn't mind raising a child with incase pregnancy should occur.
brownh brownh 8 years
Well when I was a teen I masturbated like crazy and nothing ever happened to me. If anything it really taught me what works for me and what doesn't. Good sex in my opinion is 50% object (i.e. penis, vibrator, fingers) and 50% need to know what your body needs and the only real safe way of finding that out is self-exploration. For your sis pereira, I'd suggest fingers first and then she should move to other objects until ultimately she finds a partner (when she's ready.)
pereira22 pereira22 8 years
ok so after opening our Christmas presents my younger sister invited me into her room so she could try on the clothes that I gave her and she ended up bombarding me with questions that I didn't know how to answer mainly because I was shocked and another reason being I had no clue what the 'right' answer to her questions are. My sister is a 17 year old who pleasures herself 4-5 times a week. She asked me if there is such thing as too much masturbation and since I have never really masturbated for fun I told her that I don't think there is such thing as too much. Then she asked me if it is more pleasurable with toys or just with my fingers. At this point I just told her that I didn't know because my husband has met my needs whenever I am horny so I have never really experimented on myself. She doesn't have a steady boyfriend but she has been dating and what not and she feels that if she can do it herself than she doesn't really need a man to help her out ( and I am not about to tell my seventeen year old sister that sex is way more fun than masturbation.) So after reading this crazy rant does anyone know if there is such thing as 'too much masturbation"? And if it is more pleasurable with toys or just your good old fingers? I mean after having this conversation I felt like going out and buying her a vibrator or something. Any help would put me at ease!
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
Don't worry unless you the pain the bleeding persists for like the next few times you have sex. When my friend lost her virginity she said it hurt like hell and there was blood every where... Since my losing of virginity was smoothed sailing I don't have personal experience, but I'm pretty sure you are fine, but just had an intact or partially intact hymen. Lots of girls usually break their hymen or partially tear it during childhood just with normal wear and tear of life, but in some cases the hymen can only have a small tear in it that does allow for menstruation, so you've probably just never thought about it before intercourse. But once you heal sex should be much more comfortable after. Also make sure you are properly lubricated because that can make all the difference in comfort level. But really you just literally got your "cherry popped" and it's natural and common and will soon heal so you can enjoy sex more.
Drusilla Drusilla 8 years
I need to share this. I had sex the first time recently. And it was painful, very painful and I bled. And subsequently, it was less painful but the next time I had it, I bled again. And this time more than the first. I would assume it is probably because he thrust too deep inside, and although not SO big, he has a rather long penis. Is this normal? Is there anything I should worry about?
kelli9590 kelli9590 8 years
i've been on the pill for over a year now (we don't use a condom) but we always pull out... we both think it would be kind of sexy if he came in me (tmi i know.. but i have a valid question)...we're engaged and know that pregnancy is possible and we're not trying for a kid or anything but if it happens it wouldn't be the end of the world... so, ok, i've never missed a dose and take it at the same time so would it be safe for him to "let loose" in me? i know this has probably been answered before but i had to ask for myself
theSatisbride theSatisbride 8 years
myprivatespace- as long as you are taking your BC on the right days at the right time then you should be fine, but you can't just start the pill on the day you meet your boyfriend and stop when you leave. you have to be consistant. and if you take the pills continussly (say for a year, even when your not wiht your boyfriend) then you will be more protected from pregnancy because your body is used to it than if you've only been on it a month.
theSatisbride theSatisbride 8 years
Muirnea- well my dad's a doctor so i can give it to you on pretty good authority that if you're on a pill it is very unlikly that you will get pregnant, but it is still possible. So just ask your doctor and questions you have and answer honestly and questions he askes you so you can figure out your dosage and reduce the liklyhood of you getting pregnant. And most doctors have your intrests at heart and are not worried about money since they get paid a very nice sum. but if your not comfortable with your doctor than, by all means, change doctors. it's your health and if you feel that he/she is not concerned for your well being then find another doctor!
myprivatespace myprivatespace 8 years
thanx for th opinion. i definitely cannot continue with such pills when i return home for my holidays.. lol
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
haha, bcbg and everyone else who asked about "extra fluids"... I'm just on the pill and it comes right out afterwards for me too. If I stay on my back or side I can snuggle for about 3 mins with my husband, but afterwards I always sprint to the bathroom. Annoying, but definitely worth it.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
oH and different levels of Birth control have different levels of how permanent they are. But usually hormonal birth controls are reversible effects if you stop taking them and want to get pregnant later in life. If you want something that works right away and can be used on an on and off basis barrier method is the thing for you, even though you've seem to have a bad track record with it. Make sure you are using condoms right. Do you know the proper way to put it on? Making sure there is space at the tip for the semen to collect, and checking expiration dates and keeping condoms in cool and dry places to lessen the risks of holes, tears, and deterioration. Plus you can always use a diaphragm with spermacide... the diaphragm can be placed inside the vagina before sex and should be left in a lil bit after sex to make sure all sperm is killed before moving it around. Also there is the today sponge... I think that's making a come back... Just review your options with your doctor and make sure you educate yourself about proper usage.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
MyPrivateSpace.... I think takes birthcontrol for 3-5 days at a time won't do anything and is a waste of money. It takes at around 3 months for your body to become adjusted to the chemistry of your body and regulate your menstruation and be truely effective in preventing pregnancy. Plus you have to take if for the full month cycle and a consistent time each day. Plus the fluctuations in your hormone levels of going on and off birth control could have adverse effects with your body. There are other alternatives to the pill that would be a good option if you want something you don't really have to think about on a daily basis... NuvaRing... the patch... the shot... the IUD... there are so many options. I think you should sit down with your doctor and determine which is best for you. But the key is to be consistent with it b/c you are ultimately messing with the hormones in your body and they control anything from mood and sex drive to weight gain, blood clots, and menstruation.
myprivatespace myprivatespace 8 years
I hav never used birth control pills. for all these 2 yrs i hav been with him(24th nov.. lovely date for me), it has either been condoms or post-sex pills. my doc wanted me to start the BCP as I went pregnant a second time this april. well, actually we are presently in different cities and we visit 4 to 5 times a year, say 3-5 days at stretch each time. can i use BCP for just those few periods or it has to be a permanent affair
bonchicbongenre bonchicbongenre 8 years
This is TMI/kinda embarrassing, but I'm on the Patch and when I have sex sans condom with my BF, the cum just slides right out after he's done cuming. Some of my girlfriends on the patch have the same problem. Is this a normal side effective of the patch or are me and my girlfriends just freaks? lol
mrs-sonshine mrs-sonshine 8 years
Thanks graylen for asking that question. I always wondered about it too. Toilet paper on the nightstand might do the trick. Good luck in your upcoming marriage!
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
Yeah 3-5 days.....Which is scary.... haha someone elses lil swimmers still kicking it long after the passion is gone.... This is how a girl can have fraternal twins from 2 different males if her body releases two eggs and she has sex back to back with different guys. Since sperm can be there long after the act of sexual intercourse is preformed it is possible for one guy to impregnate one egg and the other guy to impregnate the other egg... Isn't that trippy?
jenintx jenintx 8 years
"how long does sperm live inside of you for??" 3-5 days. i remembered 5 from my human sexuality class (probably b/c that's the 'just to be safe' number), but i looked it up and that's what mayo clinic says.
KibzeeLovee KibzeeLovee 8 years
how long does sperm live inside of you for??
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
hithatsmybike: "You definitely aren't pregnant when you get it, just like you aren't pregnant when you get your period without the pill." And yes, my doctor was stupid, which is why I'm changing doctors. Any doctor that puts getting money over choosing a correct brand for the individual patient is stupid. Medicine shouldn't work that way, even though I know it does. And understanding birth control isn't basic knowledge (not everyone has good teachers/mentors/etc.), and no, the question I am asking is not answered on the instruction packet...yes I did read it, thanks. Excuse me for asking a question I wasn't sure about...I won't let it happen again.. >:( peadot: "So...your "period" when you are on the pill isn't really a sign you aren't pregnant, since it isn't possible to get pregnant..." These two quotes show the point I was trying to make in my first question/post!!! I get conflicting information everywhere I go!!! And I am in the process of finding a good doctor I like, b/c the last one I had was horrible. And I am just asking this question b/c if the "period" you get while on placebo pills isn't a true period and doesn't tell you that you aren't pregnant anyway, I would rather skip it altogether and just take Lybrel, b/c either way, I wouldn't know when I was pregnant. Thanks.
reactionary reactionary 8 years
graylen - I feel awkward answering this but all in the name of information! When I have sex sans-condom (I've been on BC Pills for a very, very long time), it tends to kind of come out within 10/15 minutes but i guess it depends on each person. Usually it makes me feel pretty uncomfortable so, like thePerfectScore stated, I'll pop over to the bathroom and squeeze it the heck out of me. It does work. I don't really know if you have to strengthen your vaginal muscles or anything before trying this because it worked for me the first time I tried it, but if you push hard enough it definitely does come out. You just kind of have to flex and unflex for a few minutes. Sometimes, if there is post-coital cuddling for a while, as soon as I get up I can feel it coming back out, so that's kind of awkward. It's just kind of a weird thing altogether. But I'm not going to lie, sex without a condom is amazing, and the ONLY bad thing about it as far as I can see (besides the increased risk for STDs) is this exact problem of what do you do with all those extra fluids inside you?. However, it's still not a good idea to go sans-condom though: STDs, STIs, and even the BCP doesn't 100% protect you from getting pregnant, so just be careful if you're considering it. I'm sure everyone knows that but still.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
I was also thinking you can like make the guy's cum come out of you if you like push down sorta like you're trying to pee... But that's if there is tons of semen inside of you.. sorta like the Cream Pie genre of Porn. On average you won't have like this big mess coming out of you. Idk if I made it clear that some will find it's way out due to gravity, but it's nothing that will make you change your pants.
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