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Do Tell: What Words of Wisdom Do You Loathe to Hear?

Whenever I'm single, people will say things like, “It’ll happen when you least expect it,” or "Enjoy this time while you can," and it's infuriating to me. It seems so condescending and that I'm just on the hunt for my future husband. While I do agree that meeting the right person always happens at the most unexpected moment, when you’ve hit a dry spell, it’s just not what you want to hear. Since there are so many phrases such as these out there, do tell ladies, what words of wisdom are you just sick of hearing?


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Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
ANY "word of wisdom" that I haven't requested myself is UNWELCOME. If I don't ask for it, what makes you think I need it/ want to hear it? God, some people are arrogant!
imcs imcs 9 years
one thing that i hated when i was single was... (after a break up) "he's wasn't good enough for you." why doesn't anyone ever say anything at the beginning... or the whole "you're better than she is anyway" (when he leaves for another) - yeah, i know that but the guy apparently doesn't. LOL people can say the stupidest things some times :-)
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
AVA MARiE, I get that too. I've been with my guy for almost 6 years (we are 22 and 21) and my brother used to tell me I should be dating around and not just staying with one person (esp now that we are in college). Gah I hate that! What about the fact that I know I've already found the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with? What am I supposed to do waste a couple of years b/c you think I should? No way am I going to do that!
I am 21 and engaged. My mom still tells me, though she loves my fiance that I should be "dating around", etc. She says I should have had a boyfriend who was over every single day, picking me up for a date, and then we should have broken up and I could date someone else. No. My mom dated around, got married at 25, and divorced 20 years later. Dating around is not going to improve my chances of finding a guy who in 20 years won't up and leave -- didn't help her one bit.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Pretty much anything that is cliqued is annoying to me. Don't tell someone something like that when they are down.
lovelie lovelie 9 years
I HATE categorizing times of my life as being "the best." That is the most depressing notion I have ever come across. If this is the best, then what will the rest be...just passing the time away. Dangerous mindset. Anyway, when people tell me being in college and having the freedom of designing your own schedule is the best time of your life, I usually ignore them.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
I read all these comments, and with all of these platitudes said "UGH!" very loudly in my head. They are all terrible. I think "You'll find love the second you stop looking" is the WORST though. Each time I hear a story of someone who found love when they "stopped looking," they are always like, "I had given up dating forever, and then all of a sudden I was grinding on the dance floor with a new guy." You don't all of a sudden grind on a dance floor. That doesn't even make SENSE. Stop the lies.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
just was reminded of another one "you can do anything you set your mind to".
So-Fab So-Fab 9 years
I hated hearing college was the best time of my life. If that's all I have to look forward too I'm going to have a miserable life! I hated college and most days wouldn't even get out of bed. Now that I'm done I'm so excited and life has been wayyyyyyyy better than my college days.
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 9 years
agree with everyone above! Also one that used to bug me is "never go to bed angry" my ex used that one to keep me up all night and fight. ugh.
leafonthewind leafonthewind 9 years
When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, my grandmother kept telling me, "what's meant to be is meant to be." No! It was my *choice* to end the relationship, and had nothing to do with fate or "what's meant to be." Some people don't consider being single a valid lifestyle choice; it's just a temporary state that you might be thrust into between relationships. But I choose to be single, and I couldn't be happier.
looseseal looseseal 9 years
These things aren't exactly words of wisdom. "Platitudes" would be the right word for it.
kia kia 9 years
to assume only makes an ass out of you and me. grrr, I get really irritated when I hear that and have to work to like the person that has said if afterwards.
duck-duck-goose duck-duck-goose 9 years
Thanks, pop. They meant well, so I wasn't angry with their insensitivity. (Tacky is an appropriate characterization.) "Everything happens for a reason" drives me batty! Yup, everything *does* happen for a reason -- it's called determinism, fool. Sometimes, the reason is "you're an idiot and you screwed up!"
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
duck duck goose, I cannot believe people have said that to you! That is so unbelievably tacky! I am with the "everything happens for a reason" crowd. I get tired of hearing that as well.
duck-duck-goose duck-duck-goose 9 years
This trite little gem is not specifically related to romance, but the axiom is repeated ad nauseum, and is certain to be casually tossed your way whenever you endure an unfavorable loss and those familiar have difficulty relating: "It was never meant to be." Really? According to whom? I cannot count the number of times I heard this after suffering a miscarriage. Public notice: This is the *wrong* thing to say!
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
I just thought of another one - Karma's a bitch. I think i just got bad karma from saying it! I have the WORST luck in the world. One week a bad breakup. the next week my transmission goes out. the next week a bad ankle sprain. seriously. all bad. And I don't think I did anything that bad to deserve all that bad "payback" karma. Life just sucks sometimes. I just have to deal.
workin9to5 workin9to5 9 years
I hear you citizenkane. People told me to be patient while waiting for a proposal, too. But you've already been patient, that's why you're still with him! Maybe you just need to vent that it hasn't happened yet and you're ready. You don't need other people telling you to be patient when you already know that.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
"the lord never gives anyone more than they can handle". really, is that a universal truth? so all those suicides you hear about, those are just for fun? also "everything happens for a reason", well no shit! but WHOSE freakin reason? and don't say "jesus"!
sunnyheart sunnyheart 9 years
When you stop looking for love it will just show up!
Fushaa Fushaa 9 years
After a huge argument,a break up or anything like that with your significant other and people tell you "Stop thinking about it, you'll feel much better." Well...if I could stop thinking about it, I would!!!
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Bengalspice: "That I can start the rest of my life ... once I'm married." Oh my god...if anyone says that to me when I get engaged.... I agree, I also hate, "everything happens for a reason." I also try NEVER to give the advice, "you can do better," after a friend gets into a fight with a boyfriend, or breaks up. That is not what someone wants to hear, and it makes it sound like the entire point of dating is to "do better." The most annoying advice I got was from two nosy aunts during college to "date around" and not be tied down to one guy. True, it would have been a great time to do so, but I wasn't going to break up with my boyfriend just because of that. Plus, I liked having sex and wanted to be in a relationship if I were doing so, try explaining that to the aunts!
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
Words of wisdom are just a candy coated way for someone to tell you that your not doing what they THINK you should be doing. Which I can't stand. Just somebody pushing their feelings and beliefs on you. My BF and I are constantly getting crap from everyone because 2 kids and 11 years later we're not married. But we are very happy in our situation and consider one another husband/wife and can't understand why society tries to force marriage on people. Especially considering the track record that marriage (and a good amount of the people who try to push it on us) have now days. People act like being married is like a life time warranty or insurance policy your missing.
geebers geebers 9 years
Whiplash you should next time tell people who say silly things like that (with a blank face) "What do you mean? I'm not worried?" and wait for their reply.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
Oh! This reminds me of something else. At my 10 year-high school reunion (back in 2002), most of the girls were married. And I can't tell you how many times this conversation occurred: Random Classmate: "So, are you married?" Me: "Nope." Random Classmate: "Seeing anyone?" Me: "Not at the moment." Random Classmate: "Awwww. Don't worry. You'll meet someone great someday." UGH! I wanted to smack all of them. I'd just gotten out of a pretty crappy relationship right before the reunion and was THRILLED to be single. And I wasn't looking for anyone else anytime soon. GOD, did that bug me.
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