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Do Tell: When You Get Sad, What Do You Do?

There have been many periods in my life when I’ve felt frustrated with my friends and family, but for every occasion that I’m annoyed, there are a hundred more when having them in my life has proven invaluable. Whenever I’m sad or worried, I always reach out to them, and even if they can’t solve my problem, it helps to know someone cares. But some people are not apt to do the same. In fact, I have a few people in my life that seem to just shut down when they get sad. Does that sound like you? Do tell, when the going gets tough, how do you react? Do you close yourself off for some much-needed introspection, or is feeling down your time to confide?


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likeabee likeabee 8 years
I will immediately find a trusted one and spill everything until I get sick of it myself. Then once my feelings are all out verbally, I shut down and cry. It's more like a cycle for me actually, until the wounds are completely healed.
soybean589 soybean589 8 years
If it's pretty bad, I cry by myself for about 5 minutes. Then I talk about it with my boyfriend.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Journal or vent to my husband.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i think that over time i've realized that i'm a loner and that to some extent i have trust issues, so when i'm sad - i'll close myself off and talk either to friends that i've made online who don't know the real me that's in everyday life or sometimes i'll just go workout and pray that endorphines cheer me up. i don't really have people in my life that i can talk to who will help me out of my mood - since they typically don't know how to react to my sad moods - and i think that it's partly my fault since i like to close myself off more than not. i guess i'm kind of jealous of people who do have people in their lives that they can turn to for advice and cheering up
agrepina agrepina 9 years
lotsa john mayer and crying..
lildorothyparker lildorothyparker 9 years
I clean.
Schaianne Schaianne 9 years
I usually put in a sappy movie to make me cry. Snuggling with hubby helps, too.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
I watch Sliding Doors or Wicker Park and drink champagne and eat pizza. Then I go to the gym and work it all off the next day ;)
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
im so happy that alot of people are saying they "shut/lock down". cuz when i described it like that to my husband way back when he thought it was very odd and he still mocks it sometimes :P
Belle1031 Belle1031 9 years
I always lock down and listen to sad music. It feels good sometimes to cry until no more tears can come out of your eyes. Once that happens I usually feel a bit better. I also focus on exercising for some odd reason.
graylen graylen 9 years
Whenever I get down, I try to do something productive. I'll make something, or set a small goal like cleaning my room or organizing my files (something manageable). Sometimes I go shopping just to have the hustle and bustle. I also listen to my "Feel Better" playlist on iTunes. Music is great therapy for me and that playlist is filled with songs that are either uplifting or just out and out happy. My favorite right now is Ingrid Michaelson's new single, "Be OK." I just have to be upbeat when I listen to it. In fact, I listened to it all night last night (while dying my hair and painting my nails). By the time I had dark hair and pretty nails, I was feeling a lot better. I'm a big believer in big crys, too. You just can't hold it all in. Even though I look like crap after crying (insult to injury, no?) it's always so much better after I physically just get some of it out of me. In the unhealthy vein, I do treat myself with Coldstone's ice cream sometimes. It just helps ; )
LadyLiLa83 LadyLiLa83 9 years
I vent to my mom or my hubby, or I watch mindless comedies on my DVR, or play Oregon Trail. I don't know why, but those three things help me the most.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
As an introvert, I close myself off. I do exactly what the post said -- perform some "much-needed instrospection." It's my way of licking my wounds, so to speak. I retreat to somewhere private, and lick my wounds. That's just how I operate.
gemsera gemsera 9 years
Usually I just call in a sick day, put on crappy daytime tv and cry and eat junk food. terrible i know!
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
depends on why im sad. If it doesnt have to do with my personal/family life then I'll shop.
austerity austerity 9 years
call my mom or boyfriend...they're the best listeners and my support system! :)
lovelie lovelie 9 years
Yea i would say I have a tendency to isolate myself, at least initially. Sometimes talking about whatever is the problem makes it feel that much more real. Sad music too, I will throw some sad song on in my car and get lost in it.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I shut down, lock myself in, put on sad music, and cry.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
I shut down too. Like sonya ina said, I can only think about whatever the problem is for a long time and can't focus on other things. I might go for a drive to just be alone and think about things, or to just get myself out and doing something. Or depending on why I'm sad, I might do something to take my mind off of it, like read a book and get so into the book, I forget about my life for a little while, that's always nice. Dogs are amazing at cheering you up. My doggie's the best! :-P :)
Fixe Fixe 9 years
i get in the habit of writing out all my frustrations in my journal, listening to depressing songs on my ipod..... i don't really talk to ppl, i get kinda quiet. the thing that cheers me up in watching my big fat greek wedding, i've watched it like a million times, but it always puts me in a better mood :) and i vent to my sister and my mom. they are always there to listen.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 9 years
bluestar bluestar 9 years
I shut down and then go on a drinking binge and no one can get a hold of me for days! LOL, just kidding, but I do shut down and have to think it out in my head and maybe ask for advice from my best friend if I think I need it.
Mykie7 Mykie7 9 years
It depends on what it is that has caused me to be sad, but my favorite thing to do when I'm sad about something is to gather my two best girlfriends, and go out for a girls night. Not necessarily drinking, but just being together and laughing. It helps, and I'm able to put whatever it is that's made me sad into perspective. If it's a death or something like that however, the only thing that really gets rid of the sadness is time. It's important to me though to always have my friends and family close. They are my life line.
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
It depends for me too. Most of the time a good cry by myself makes a huge difference. But I tend to keep things bottled up and just deal. But I don't really get sad, I just get worried or stressed.
talanted08 talanted08 9 years
I can say we all have these times where it's hard to show feeling's toward someone or something! I usually shut down when my feeling's get hurt but I always make it known to the person that put me in that situation. My husband takes good care of me when I'm ready to talk and he informs me that there's more to life than what people think. If he's not available then it's my mother or sister that can bring a smile to my face. That's why it's always nice to have a loving family on your side!
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