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Do Tell: Would You Date a Man Who Had Gone to a Prostitute?

I have the major deal breakers most ladies probably do — no mass murderers, kitten haters or men sporting mullets (OK, I might compromise on the last bit if it's an ironic mullet). I wonder if others share another one I have, though: I'm not sure I could ever seriously date a man who'd been to a prostitute.

Although I think prostitution should be legalized, there's something about a man who wants to or has paid for sex that gives me heebies. If he thinks of women as chattel to be bought and sold, how would that reflect on his view of women in general — or me? Perhaps I am being too old fashioned (but then again, I'm not too thrilled with men who go to strippers or get lap dances, either).

What about you — would you date a man who had gone to a prostitute?


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bob-from-town bob-from-town 7 years
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
For me it would depend on why he went. If he'd done it cause he was lonely, horny and has struck out too often recently that'd be alright. But if he did it because his ex was bad in bed or something, no way!
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
You mean if they admitted it? If they told me I wouldn't like it much. I don't think anyone goes around advertising it though. Maybe it's desperation, youth, or just curiosity. Men are horny. Remember Hugh Grant? He was caught with a prostitute. Would you go out with him? Remember the movie with Tom Cruise called Risky Business? Calling a prostitute to see what would happen...the list goes on. I don't know what the statistics are, and I don't care to know. I bet there's a lot of men out there who have done it. And never told. How would you ever know.
Nyrina-Windu Nyrina-Windu 8 years
No thanks. I think if he has sex with a prostitute once then he'll easily be with a prostitute again, possibly when he was upset with me. There is no way in hell I want that nasty ass prostitutes killer diseases inside my body. No man should stoop so low as to be with a streetwalker...unless....I guess you are who you sleep with. And that is not the kind of man I would want in my life, friends life, or any relatives life. It's just too dangerous.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
Eeeh...I would typically say "absolutely NO WAY", but in reality I think I would consider it, but after some SERIOUS considerations, such as: 1. Why did he go to a prostitute for sex in the first place/at all? That will give me a better idea of a) how often he does it; b) what the motivation is, maybe it's something a regular girlfriend can't give him - if so, then I certainly can't be with him; c) how likely he is to go again/while we're together - that's cheating and a BIG hell no in my book. 2. Is he in love with one? Because if he's really wanting somebody else and isn't with her simply because she's a prostitute, I refuse to be a "safe alternative". 3. Is he clean? I would do this with every potential sexual partner, but even more so with this situation. I don't know where he's going to pick up the girl(s), so I can't be sure if he's using protection/bringing things back to me. And this would have to be on a continuous basis. And always with a condom. If the guy meets the proper criteria from those considerations, I *might* still consider dating him. Just maybe.
reesiecup reesiecup 8 years
My personal deal breakers (if known) include: prostitution or having been with a prostitute, adultery, murder, and smoking. I would venture on the side of avoiding mullets, but I guess you can't always go for looks.
wackydeli wackydeli 8 years
you probably have! look alot of guys have gone to "massage" parlors and for like five bucks the chick will do alot of stuff.gross and sad i know but hey its reality.ive had guys admit they been with a hgooker ,as long as they used protection and it was in the past then what can you say? i dont judge people on their past ,ive had a one night stand ,whats the difference? so no money was exchanged but some people might judge me for that.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
Most men who have slept with a prostitute are using a condom the ones that sleep with girls in bars, clubs, friends, etc. don't and that's how you get diseases and babies. If my dad had been going to prostitutes instead of a girl he met at wherever I highly doubt he would have gotten her pregnant. But I still don't like the idea of anyone paying for something as initimate as sex. Sex has been completely degraded in the last 30 years or so and now even children. Is nothing sacred anymore????
eveday eveday 8 years
Also, I'd prefer to date a guy who has paid for sex than date one who has been anywhere near Paris Hilton's vagina for free.
eveday eveday 8 years
Yes, I would. I don't think that's a bid deal if it's not a frequent thing. Besides, most men won't admit having paid for sex anyway -- while they're trying to hook up with you.
bleached bleached 8 years
Not knowingly. Although if a guy is willing to fess up on the first date that he's slept with a prostitute, I'd be very surprised.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
Yes, I have. He was a good friend of mine so I know him very well before we even dated. And he's my 2nd 'serious' adult relationship. We both got tested before we even got to the 'bed.' Hey, we're both free and clear so we dated.
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