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Do Tell: Would You Let a Friend Officiate Your Wedding?

While even the most contemporary weddings can be fairly standard, it’s the personal touches that make a wedding really special. One new trend that I've noticed in many of the weddings I've been to recently is using a friend as the officiator of the ceremony.

At first it seemed strange, but now I happen to love the idea of having someone especially close to the bride and groom standing with them while they make their vows official. While this certainly doesn’t work for all couples, it can be a great way to make a ceremony totally unique if you're willing to try something different. So ladies, do tell, would you let a friend officiate your wedding?

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Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
This reminds me of bam's unholy union. Yes, it would be cool and maybe it'd feel more familiar and dynamic and less stuffy. I'd do it.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i have never known anyone else to do this other than JOEY FROM FRIENDS! i can't believe no one mentioned that
bootsy-wilson bootsy-wilson 9 years
I asked my friend Katie and she is totally down with it. It will make the wedding that much cooler to have someone we know perform the ceremony.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
If a friend wanted, and I trusted them, I would have no reason to object. I would never ask anyone, though. I just think it's less hassle to have a judge or someone else do it.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Oh Hell NO! Imagine if they messed up or you didn't like the job they did. It would ruin your friendship and your wedding. At least if the officiant screws up it's not going to ruin friendships.
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
I can't imagine it any other way. We're not religious, and it seems strange and cold to have some random public official doing it. It was wonderful having someone who was our close friend during the blossoming of our relationship seal the deal. :)
darlene darlene 9 years
Yeah I would
Oregon-chick Oregon-chick 9 years
I had my older brother, obviously a good friend, officiate our wedding and there is no one else in the world I would of rather had perform the ceremony. It was very meaningful to have someone who loves my husband and I marry us.
missmari missmari 9 years
Yep. We had a friend officiate our wedding. We actually just did the legal part at the courthouse but had our friend perform our actual wedding. (He didn't want to actually get certified through the Unitarian church or do anything binding.)
lulita lulita 9 years
i wish my brother could officiate my wedding, but he told me he is going to cry like a little girl if he does; because he helped my mom raise me, since my father left us when i was two.
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
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delia delia 9 years
We did this! In Massachusetts, you can get anyone solemnized for the day, just to officiate your wedding. Our friend's mother officiated for us; we've spent Thanksgiving with their family for years now (our families aren't local), and I just love her views on love and marriage. It was absolutely wonderful to be married by someone we love.
girlie871 girlie871 9 years
I would if it was a close friend of the both of us. I have done it myself as well. When my aunt and her boyfriend got married I performed the cermemony. It was surprisingly a lot of fun and they said they enjoyed it because it made the ceremony more personal.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Fitness Fitness 9 years
Totally did and it was awesome. She was so stoked to say "And by the authority invested in me, by the state of California, I now pronounce you husband and wife."
daisylynn329 daisylynn329 9 years
yes! i think it is a fabulous idea. my brother is actually going to be marrying my fiance and i in august! originally it was going to be both of our siblings but my fiance's sister wasn't into it. in san francisco you can become an officiant at city hall.
Molly Molly 9 years
Would and did, two weeks ago! Doesn't he look so official in the background here, too ;)
ufshutterbabe ufshutterbabe 9 years
We did, and it was great. I loved how he delivered the ceremony that we wrote, but I also really like the fact that "that guy" in all our wedding pictures is someone close to us (we're not religious, so any officiant for hire would have been some random person to me)
ally14 ally14 9 years
I think if a close friend officiated the wedding it would be romantic and very sweet. Definetly something I will think about when I will be planning my own wedding.
Lyv Lyv 9 years
Whenever someone asks me what my wedding we'll be like, I say it will be on the beach and (insert random celebrity) will officiate it. XD But having a friend officiate it sounds like more of a plan!
guineapiggin9 guineapiggin9 9 years
My dad officiated his friend's wedding (i attended) and I thought it was one of the best ceremonies I've been to. It was just so much more personal and interesting. I'd say if you're not a very religious person and you dont want a priest or anything like that, then this is a great idea.
snarkypants snarkypants 9 years
i love weddings that are officiated by a friend. they seem so much more intimate, and they're more fun for the guests too.
onabanana onabanana 9 years
I don't think spirituality or religion is a necessary component of officiating a wedding ceremony. I think having it be meaningful to the bride and Groom is the most important thing and if their best friend wants to and can do it, then awesome!
Home Home 9 years
We're getting married by a mutual friend. We asked her to officiate because she really gets us as a couple, is perhaps the best public speaker and storyteller I've ever met, and is a wonderful writer. She's going to read a poem in Arabic, which is her first language. I'm soooooooo excited that she's marrying us!
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